maynicholas Posted July 22, 2008 Posted July 22, 2008 I met this guy last week. We hit it off amazingly! This is the first since my LTR ended a year ago that I have actually liked someone. We spent the entire day the day after we met together. The conversation flowed like I have never experienced. We have hung out a few times since and I think this may have potential. I have never had such a great rapport with someone so quickly. The thing is though- he just got out of a 2 year relationship a few weeks ago. I made a half serious joke about being his rebound girl. He looked at me dead serious and said- 'May, I am mature enough to know what I need. That relationship needed to end because she had no respect for me or my friends. It was over long ago and was never all that great, so no. I don't need a rebound.' I plan to take this at face value, but can it be true? We are both in our early 30's if that helps.
Chinook Posted July 22, 2008 Posted July 22, 2008 Well, a couple of months isn't a great deal of time. If I were you I'd google the word "rebound" (I did). There are alot of useful relationship sites which will give pointers to how a rebound occurs. One of the early signs is the getting into a new relationship rather quickly and not processing the end of the previous relationship. He may know what he needs... right now. But that's not to say he will know what he needs down the line. You've already mentioned the 'rebound' word. If he likes you and he wants to ensure things progress, then it makes sense to have another more in-depth conversation about it. Most of all, I'd advise you to take things very slowly and see where things go.
tanbark813 Posted July 22, 2008 Posted July 22, 2008 I plan to take this at face value, but can it be true? Of course it can be true. It can also be false. There's no way for us to know, you to know, or maybe even he to know. The only practical thing you can do at this point is see how things progress.
Author maynicholas Posted July 22, 2008 Author Posted July 22, 2008 I feel as though I can trust him. But I worry that I may be being too idealistic.
bigmanpayne Posted July 22, 2008 Posted July 22, 2008 I feel as though I can trust him. But I worry that I may be being too idealistic. you may be a rebound adn he doesn't even know it. like the other person said... you never know till you know.
zicke Posted July 22, 2008 Posted July 22, 2008 I don't know it could go either way. I recently got out of a LTR relationship and I am seeing someone new already, I met him about a month after my on/off relationship ended. I don't feel like he is a rebound, but, it is still new. Maybe cos I was just so over my ex that I could move on so easily. Having had the experience of breaking up with my ex repeatedly numbed me to the experience I guess. I don't miss the ex at all, but, that could be because my attention is being directed to the new guy. Only time will tell.
just-a-girl Posted July 23, 2008 Posted July 23, 2008 I have been broke up with my X of 5 years for 4 months and I am dating again. Our relationship has been dead for 2 years we were just beating a dead horse. I don't feel like the next guy I date will be a rebound because of how long we were done before we admitted it to ourselves.
Redbull Rider Posted July 23, 2008 Posted July 23, 2008 The only practical thing you can do at this point is see how things progress. ditto. dont worry about if youre his rebound just enjoy the good time youre having while youre still having it.
Krytie TV Posted July 23, 2008 Posted July 23, 2008 Be careful not to sabotage it with your worrying or analyzing about whether or not it's a rebound. Just naturally let it run its course.
Balthazar Posted July 23, 2008 Posted July 23, 2008 Although not always the case, men get over a relationship by meeting another woman, making it less likely that you are a "rebound". You are most likely just his next GF. I think we use such expressions such as "rebound" to ,somehow, justify why a relationship doesn't work out, when actually the reasons are much more basic, and center around a lack of attraction and chemistry. CHeers,
Author maynicholas Posted July 23, 2008 Author Posted July 23, 2008 Thanks everyone for your thoughts! I guess I will just have to wait & see what happens and not expect too much.
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