wanda_t Posted July 22, 2008 Posted July 22, 2008 my girlfriend got a job in the netherlands and she's moving there. we both live in austria. she's leaving in 10 days, and after that i don't know when i'll be seeing her again. it's very hard for me coz we've been together really intensively for almost 7 months and a LDR doesn't really make sense (or does it? opinions please). so in 10 days we will officially break up, go back to friendship, and she'll be moving. it's all coming as a major break for me, and i don't know how to deal with it. i'm really depressed currently and can't get used to the fact of her going away. what i'm trying to do now is really really enjoy the last time i have with her, just live it. but it's still so damn painful, knowing everytime we touch etc could be the last time. right now she's on a holiday and i'm making her a goodbye gift full of memories. the thing is: i can't stand the pain and i don't know how to get through the time she's still here, then the goodbye, and then the time without her. any suggestions/ tips / opinions? would be greatly appreciated. thank you in advance
iwanttolive Posted July 23, 2008 Posted July 23, 2008 How long will she be there? Why do you guys give up so easily? Time and distance test the depth of your love..
Tyra Posted July 23, 2008 Posted July 23, 2008 The two of you haven't decided to move out there together? If the two of you are deeply in love, a LDR wouldn't matter.
Author wanda_t Posted July 24, 2008 Author Posted July 24, 2008 nah, well the thing is shes 19 and im 17, so i cant move out there with her coz i gotta finish school and everything. yeah well, i dunno, do you think i should propose a LDR? i'm just scared that when it ends, it's kinda stupid doing that over the phone or so. another option would be ending it now and seeing if we miss each other? but that's stupid. i know. i dunno what to do.
cazu Posted July 24, 2008 Posted July 24, 2008 Maybe you two can set up a time to meet up when you have some time off from school, say in a few months. Then you can see how you are both feeling and if the love is still there. In the meantime, she will need a good friend as she is starting a new job in a new country. You can really be there for her.
critter909 Posted July 24, 2008 Posted July 24, 2008 Don't assume the relationship is over just because she is moving. Give LDR a chance. You may actually find that you can be very open and supportive with each other over the phone or internet. It's going to be different, for sure, but I dont' think you should assume it's over since you really care about each other.
Author wanda_t Posted July 26, 2008 Author Posted July 26, 2008 thanks for your advice, it helps. especially cazu's and critter 909's. i just really hope that she'll think about LDR. i think it's better to let something gradually end. if we grow apart that's better than abruptly ending it when the feelings are still there, like it's gonna be. i'll just talk to her. but if she already said she didn't want it a few weeks ago, i don't think she'll go for it. i booked my flight today to visit her, which is gonna be 1 month after she moved. but still the knowledge is quite shocking, knowing any future get-togethers will be visits and not random meet-ups when we feel like seeing each other. it's all getting to me.
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