jackie11 Posted July 22, 2008 Posted July 22, 2008 My boyfriend and i have been together for about a year and a half. And recently i have been waking up in the middle of the night to find he is no longer sleeping nexting to me and he is out on the couch. When i asked him why he does it he just says i dont know. It really hurts my feelings and i don't know how to talk to him about. Help me =[
Lauriebell82 Posted July 22, 2008 Posted July 22, 2008 Are you a wild sleeper or snore obnoxiously? Yeah, these might be a possibility. I snore very lightly sometimes and my boyfriend has to nudge me and ask me to stop snoring.
Star Gazer Posted July 22, 2008 Posted July 22, 2008 I'm sure it's nothing personal. Some people are light sleepers and have a difficult time sleeping with someone else in the room - snoring, moving around, twitching, talking in your sleep, etc.
Author jackie11 Posted July 22, 2008 Author Posted July 22, 2008 Not at all, i've been staying at his house even before we started dating and we have always been in the same bed. Recently we've dealt with some rough spots and i thought we got over it, but this past week is when he started sleeping on the couch and its making me worry :[ should i bring it up to him?
megapositive Posted July 22, 2008 Posted July 22, 2008 Have you told him how much it hurts your feelings, and that you'd like to know if it's because your snore a little? Ask him if you've been snoring more than usual lately... make the conversation easy for him, he may be afraid to talk about it for fear of hurting your feelings.
Tyra Posted July 22, 2008 Posted July 22, 2008 You should bring it up if it is worrying you. You will never know what's the reason for him sleeping on the couch, until you ask him.
Author jackie11 Posted July 22, 2008 Author Posted July 22, 2008 thanks for all the help =] i'm going to talk to him about it when i see him later tonight.
Chrome Barracuda Posted July 22, 2008 Posted July 22, 2008 God I couldnt sleep most nights if a beautiful woman was laying next to me begging me to bang her. Maybe you do snore. to some people that's a serious turn off. Maybe he's having nightmares or maybe he likes sleeping alone and is not used to being so close to someone else.
saraispiel19 Posted July 23, 2008 Posted July 23, 2008 Sounds really wierd. Maybe he's pulling away from you and distancing himself for some reason I read your other post and this definately was some sort of forshadowing for your current crisis you are facing. What are there any other behaviours that seem odd to you?-- I am starting to think maybe : 1- worst case senario: there's someone else 2- the relationship to him is getting too serious and now he's jumping ship 3- too much drama in the relationship - most guys leave when there is "too much to handle" 4- he wants to be single again. however you can only truly find out once he tells you. Goodluck to ya and keep us posted!
Redbull Rider Posted July 23, 2008 Posted July 23, 2008 maybe you hit him in your sleep or maybe something else is bothering him and he doesnt want to worry you with it.
Lauriebell82 Posted July 23, 2008 Posted July 23, 2008 I'm thinking that if it's because you do something in your sleep he would probably tell you other than give you an "I don't know." Here is my sleep analysis coming into play: Like you said you are having rough spots: Maybe unconsciously he is upset and withdrawing, therefore he is going to the couch to sleep because he is feeling tension between the two of you. However this IS a little strange, I mean usually even if you are upset you at least still sleep in your bed even if you are mad. My bf and I have gone to bed a little mad or there is tension and he doesn't get up in the middle of the night to sleep on the couch. Usually we try not to go to bed angry. Do you guys go to bed mad at each other? Do you fight before you go to sleep? Maybe he just can't sleep with you when you two are on bad terms and he doesn't want to tell you/is afraid to tell you. Hence the "I don't know" response when questioned. I would just bring up the fact taht their is tension between you two and ask how feels about it. Be understanding and come from the standpoint that you want to work things out and it is important to you to maintain that closeness of sleeping together.
ahah2322 Posted July 23, 2008 Posted July 23, 2008 maybe he sleepwalks? ( and no, i'm not being sarcastic. just throwing out a possibility.)
Lauriebell82 Posted July 23, 2008 Posted July 23, 2008 maybe he sleepwalks? ( and no, i'm not being sarcastic. just throwing out a possibility.) Yeah I had an ex bf do that actually. He would just get out of bed and walk around and usually end up sleeping in another room. He would tell me he didn't remember doing that. I agree that it may be a possibility.
grogster Posted July 23, 2008 Posted July 23, 2008 My best guess: he's becoming uncomfortable around you.He's moving awau emotionally and feels uncomfortable sharing a bed with you. My second best guess: he's going to the couch to pleasure himself. Neither guess is pleasing to the Heart.
silvergirl Posted July 23, 2008 Posted July 23, 2008 I hate putting this out there, but this is something that happened to my sister. Her fiancee started doing exactly what you are saying, so she decided to fake sleeping one night. Well, to her surprise, he was calling another girl (phone sex), watching a porn, and masturbating. Needless to say, it did not turn out well. Look into ALL possibilities.
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