Lights Posted July 22, 2008 Posted July 22, 2008 I've heard of people talking about outrageously bad dates or the like. When I hear those tales, I'm left wondering just what is it that they did that even allowed them to get that far with a given person and even get that first date or even initial conversation etc. in the first place. Does anyone here have any information to share?
Author Lights Posted July 23, 2008 Author Posted July 23, 2008 I'm not sure whether to read any irony into this post.
Angel1111 Posted July 24, 2008 Posted July 24, 2008 A lot of socially impaired people can pretend for a certain amount of time before the real 'them' comes out. Sometimes it takes 3 yrs, sometimes it takes 3 minutes. Just depends on how much control they have over themselves. I went on a really bad date once but it was because I told someone in the office that I thought so-and-so was extremely handsome. I meant nothing by this except to comment on how good-looking the guy was because I had heard he was married. The girl I was talking to told me that he wasn't married and said that the guy had asked her recently if I was single. Wow! I was intrigued. Turns out that I didn't even know the handsome guy well enough to know his name, so the guy who asked me out was not the guy I thought had this name. He was this cocky guy who I would've never gone out with, but I found out too late because he called me on the phone to ask me out and I didn't see his face. I choked back my shock when he showed up at my door. At dinner, he spent the entire date telling me about his fancy car and all the money he made. I couldn't get out of there fast enough. When he brought me home, he made it clear that since he bought me a nice dinner and all, I owed him sex. When I let him know that was not a possibility, he said something about how he didn't understand why a divorced woman would be so concerned about sleeping with someone after a first date. And I thought he couldn't have sunken any lower than he did when he was talking about all that money he made. So, basically, I would've never gone out with this guy. He slipped under the wire because I had associated his name with someone else. Well, the people at work got a laugh out of it anyway. And I'm always up for entertaining. But, really, I'd rather have a bad date than a bad marriage. Those are the ones that really blindside you! It's like the bad date that never ends. The one-night stand that lasted 10 yrs too long...
D-Lish Posted July 24, 2008 Posted July 24, 2008 hmmm.... well, I have accepted dates with people I met from online dating- mostly because I liked their pics and enjoyed the initial conversation. Then after meeting them- I have hated them. One guy kept lifting his leg and farting throughout the date. Another guy got insanely jealous because he thought I was having a flirt session with our GAY waiter.... another guy came on too strong... oh the list goes on. Nothing wrong with being yourself- it's the only way to go about things. You can't hide who you really are.
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