Peter_pan Posted July 22, 2008 Posted July 22, 2008 or not to persure? met a nice girl i like on thurs night, dancing away, good conversation, all eyes on me etc got her number. txted her two days later and she never txt back. saw her out on the sat night , she claimed she never got the txt. (obviously did) on that night she was on and off with me. i really want to get to know her. shall i txt her again and say something like "hey sausage" (to ghet her attention) or get facebook and add her as a friend ? or forget her
JohnnyBlaze Posted July 22, 2008 Posted July 22, 2008 I wouldn't add her on FB at this point, since I don't know if I'd be calling her a friend just yet. Personally, I'd text her a low-key message once more, just in case she was being truthful and really didn't get the last one. If you get the same (lack of) reaction as last time, cut bait.
D-Lish Posted July 22, 2008 Posted July 22, 2008 mmm, forget her if you want honesty. She sounds flighty.
Author Peter_pan Posted July 22, 2008 Author Posted July 22, 2008 yeh good idea, try one more time i think. what would you txt? i want to ask her out not sure how
woods321 Posted July 22, 2008 Posted July 22, 2008 Be a man, pick up the phone and call.. Texting doesnt exhibit much confidence.
Author Peter_pan Posted July 22, 2008 Author Posted July 22, 2008 k man i'll call her tomoz, im gonna say, hey its me, im just on the way to the gym, hows your day. then say what are you doing thurs evening do you fancy meeting up
woods321 Posted July 22, 2008 Posted July 22, 2008 Why mention going to the gym? Are you really going and have to tell her, or do you want it to sound like you work out a lot? Dont be a afraid at all. I think women can sense insecurity rather easily. Just call and ask her out.
Author Peter_pan Posted July 22, 2008 Author Posted July 22, 2008 just so she knows im not at home doing nothing , like i havnt got a life. :love:
silvergirl Posted July 22, 2008 Posted July 22, 2008 Well, to be honest with you, she may have given you the number not really wanting to. Are you sure it is her number? It sounds to me like she's really not interested.
Tyra Posted July 22, 2008 Posted July 22, 2008 I would stop with all the text-messaging, and just pick up the phone and call her. And if she doesn't pick up, leave a message. If she doesn't return the call in a day or two, forget about her. She probably wants you to chase behind her. Some females like to do that to guys. To see if the guy has a lot of interest in her or not.
Gemini0525 Posted July 22, 2008 Posted July 22, 2008 I agree! If you really want to know if she's interested in you, CALL HER. Texting is convenient and fun but it can be so impersonal. Not a good forum for getting to know someone in the beginning. There's no tone or personality in a text msg... you could send a text that's meant to be cute or sarcastic but she might read it as rude or serious...
Author Peter_pan Posted July 23, 2008 Author Posted July 23, 2008 ok i grew the balls to call her. first time her phone was off. then i called at 11pm and it rang! no answer... then she called back and we had a good little coversation for about 5mins. not to long not to short. i asked her if she would like to come out on thurs but she said she has training in brighton. so i didnt then want to jump down her throat and say how bout tomoz? i guess she would have done that if she wanted to see me. so i just casually said well you have my number now, so if you want to meet up anytime, give me a shout. then said take care and that was that she sounded happy i called though, it was really relaxed phone call like i knew her already! i really want to take her out and get to know her better. i'll call her again friday if i havnt heard from her and ask how training was and see if she would like to meet up. i hear persistence is key. and if she dosnt like me then she will eventually let me know i guess. now what !! did i do well? does she really have training or is she trying to avoid me
Redbull Rider Posted July 23, 2008 Posted July 23, 2008 it was a a nice night at the bar/club. i'd say leave it at that. especially if she was drinking the night you met her.
Author Peter_pan Posted July 23, 2008 Author Posted July 23, 2008 ok i grew the balls to call her. first time her phone was off. then i called at 11pm and it rang! no answer... then she called back and we had a good little coversation for about 5mins. not to long not to short. i asked her if she would like to come out on thurs but she said she has training in brighton. so i didnt then want to jump down her throat and say how bout tomoz? i guess she would have done that if she wanted to see me. so i just casually said well you have my number now, so if you want to meet up anytime, give me a shout. then said take care and that was that she sounded happy i called though, it was really relaxed phone call like i knew her already! i really want to take her out and get to know her better. i'll call her again friday if i havnt heard from her and ask how training was and see if she would like to meet up. i hear persistence is key. and if she dosnt like me then she will eventually let me know i guess. now what !! did i do well? does she really have training or is she trying to avoid me ^^ sorry you must have missed this. i called her last night
Author Peter_pan Posted July 23, 2008 Author Posted July 23, 2008 yeh very true. well at least i tried i guess.
silvergirl Posted July 23, 2008 Posted July 23, 2008 If she doesn't call then she's not interested. You say persistence is key, but I'm sorry, if I were her, I wouldn't take you as being persistent, I would take you as a little pathetic. I think she has made it clear she doesn't want to hook up with you. I don't mean to be brash, but from my point of view, that is the way I feel.
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