prettyinpez Posted July 21, 2008 Posted July 21, 2008 So me and my boyfriend of almost a year have had problems the past month or so. They are all fixable except one. He says no matter what he does he can't get over my past. I don't even have a bad past! And its even worse because he broke into my old livejournal and read my private entries from wayy before he was even in the picture. He said its nothing I did and he loves me more than anything but its an issue he has to deal with. He says he just cant seem to accept it. This is killing both of us. I duhno what to do! Some people tell me no contact for awhile will bring him back I duhno what to do. I love him, I just want us to be together! Just don't know how to handle this situation because I've never been in it before. I love him so much and he is my true love. What should I do?
Keridan Posted July 21, 2008 Posted July 21, 2008 It sounds like he's dealing with some serious insecurities. There isn't a whole lot to combat that other than reassure him that he's the only thing that matters. The past is the past and you love him here and now. Most of the work does have to come from him. He needs to get counseling, work on his self-esteem, and/or just plain get over it. You can't be expected to coddle his obsession with his past. One big thing .. he broke into your private communications? That's out-of-bounds. It's yours to share or not as you wish. He deserves a nice hard slap for that one. I wish I had some better answers, but it's not your responcibility, so it's hard to tell you what you can do. Others may be more helpful. I do wish you luck, though!
justaman99 Posted July 22, 2008 Posted July 22, 2008 Well I've read your other posts as well as this one. I think this guy is just getting cold feet and has a few things to work out. I mean to think about buying a home together after 11 months and not being married is a little odd. Things are moving VERY fast. Also, he has showed in the case of reading your journal and in his behavior before that he himself is quite insecure. I mean, to call you and be afraid that you're having fun without him? How old are you guys? This whole journal thing is just an excuse. My ex would get pissed at things that I did with previous exs before she ever entered my life. This made no sense to me and she has no right to hang that over my head. Nor does your ex.
mark982 Posted July 22, 2008 Posted July 22, 2008 as soon as you found out he broke into your livejournal, that should of been it. we"re done, see you later.everyone needs some privacy.
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