Why does she play games

[Dallasboy]

First my ex was 18 when we met I was 26.At first I thought it would just be a fling but it turned into a really great relationship. When she decided to end the relationship we talked and said that we would be friends. She has never really given a reason for wanting to end it, other than she was unhappy. At first we still talked everyday but that was it. I begged her back and all, but nothing, so I decided not to call her anymore.(after getting advice from this site)About four days past ,and she called, and wanted to come over, and I did. We talked and she admitted that she still cared for me but couldn’t really reveal her feelings to me. In between this she has called me crying saying that she was really having a hard time with the break up as well but she just doesn’t show it. So I asked her over for dinner the next weekend that's when we slept together. When I try to talk to her about any kind of emotional feelings she gets irritated and ends the conversation. She has said that she feels nothing for us anymore I seen her yesterday to get something’s I hade left at her place. I just wanted to get my things and go she started a conversation and we talked for a few minutes. I turned to walk away after we talked and she called my name and asked for a hug. For someone that’s not supposed to care she held on pretty tight. Keep in mind all of this has happen in the last three weeks or so.We have been broken up since May But can you guys see the mixed messages I'm getting from her. WHAT DO YOU GUYS THINK

[donnist]

Hey dude,

She is obviously confused and has mixed feelings. She wants part of the relationship but doesn't want to deal with the other that comes with it (hence mood swings). I guess she cannot accept the fact that not everything is going to be perfect or work the way she imagined. To me there sounds like there's something that hindering her from mentally and emotionally moving forward (whether with you or apart). She is young so sorting out emotions can be tedious also making the best decisions usually are followed by the heart and not the head. My best advice is:

 

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  You want her to come to an understanding to what she wants so give her some space.
  

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  You shouldn't make it harder for her by spending significant time together, sending notes or boxes of chocolate, etc.
  

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  Let her know how you feel, you want to be with her but you dont want the mix feelings so you're going to give her time to figure out what she wants.
  

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  Let her know that you are there for her whenever she may need you.
  

 

Hope this helps.

[WiseOne1]

You should probably do LC, for some reason you story doesnt sound as bad as other stories, u might have a chance.