marissav76 Posted July 21, 2008 Posted July 21, 2008 I'm in a relationship with a man which is long distance and it is quite new. He used to send me texts, emails and used to call often but now nothing. I'm moving to where he lives for a great job opportunity, but I haven't heard from him in a week. My mum just died on Saturday and I still haven't had a response from him, I'm crushed and don't know what to do or think. We will be working for the same company, but different units...can someone please advise...How can I contact him without looking desperate?
quankanne Posted July 21, 2008 Posted July 21, 2008 *hugs* am so very sorry to hear about your mom, you have my deepest condolences, marissa (lovely name, by the way) as hard as this is, I think maybe you need to chalk this up to something that just didn't work out, because if he hasn't contacted you – esp. after losing a family member – he doesn't sound interested in the relationship. do you have any close friends you can turn to during this time? Because you'll definitely need a real-life shoulder to rest on as you deal with your loss and your move.
Author marissav76 Posted July 21, 2008 Author Posted July 21, 2008 I don't really have any family here or very close friends, that is why I'm moving to hopefully find a new life and build some lasting relationships. I'm scared and hurt by the only one I will know there, why would someone be that hurtful to someone they use to cherish?
quankanne Posted July 21, 2008 Posted July 21, 2008 sometimes people are afraid of change, are afraid of death, and don't know how to deal with it except to run. Or bury their head in the sand and pretend nothing's going on, you know? as trite as it sounds, in a case like that, it really *isn't* you, but the way someone is wired to handle these kinds of things. hugs, quank
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