verve Posted July 21, 2008 Posted July 21, 2008 Right, here's the story then. I was with this girl from November 07, I finished with her a couple of weeks ago after she lied to me and I think cheated on me once again. She has never admitted to any of the times she's cheated (or not at least properly). She told me she had cheated with her ex a few times and a girl friend of hers who was curious about being bisexual, although she took this back when I got mad and told me she was testing me. Although this girls ex boyfriend told me his ex-girlfriend had told him all about it and there were lots of little pieces of evidence and things which didn't add up which made it pretty much conclusive she had. On top of this there had been some other inciddents, she has a big reputation as a flirt and she lied all the time, she lied about how many people she'd been with, meeting up with some lads she met in a club to go out with them again, going for a sexual health check, lots of little things which just destroy trust. Most recently she lied about the details of when she stayed around a guys house. She told me she'd stayed at her neighbours house after she had a falling out with her family. She's just started talking to him as she's just moved to the area. Apparantley her family didn't want her to speak to him as he is a DRUG DEALER but she defied them and spoke to him anyway and thats why she fell out with her family. She said her family kicked her out after she went in his and she stayed there for the night before her family let her back. But I probed into it as it all sounded suspicious and I found out she'd lied about some details, how she fell asleep and I got out of her that she had stayed there more than once, had his mobile number and had been around a few other times. She maintains its all innocent, how they're just friends and that she lied to keep from causing a row. It all felt too iffy to me and I thought I've given her enough chances so I finished her. I had no contact with her for 2 weeks, I just blanked her, blocked her from calling and ignored texts. The day after I cut her off she was texting me loads saying how much she loved me and things although after a day she stopped and I heard nothing. I was in work on a Sunday two weeks from then. I got a text through saying 'my fellas gonna come around to give you your stuff'. I felt sick at this point. I'm sure it was probably done to agitate me and it worked. I text her back to arrange details. She told me how he couldn't make it anymore. I said I'd come to hers for my things. I got there, I went into her place, she locked the door and started crying her eyes out saying how she wanted me back. She said this 'fella' of hers was some ex-boyfriend of hers from a while ago who she got with because she was lonely and on the rebound. After a lot of arguing I let her talk me around, I know I shouldn't have but seeing her again made all my feelings flood back, so I said I'd try and make things work with her. I had the week off work like her so I stayed around hers til Wednesday night when I had to go back to mine, whilst I was around things seemed fine, she text this new boyfriend guy to tell him she wanted to break up with him. She didn't mention getting back with me as apparantley he's into 'getting revenge'. When I got back to mine though, all the old thoughts and that anger, hurt, doubt and frustration resurfaced, I tried to get past it but I couldn't. So the Saturday I finished her saying I couldn't forgive her after all that'd happened. I know I shouldn't have bothered but I had a look on her myspace the next day and she had stuff on there about this ex-rebound guy. She was back with him, the profile had been updated that day, he'd been put into her top friends and there were things about him peppered on the proilfe. A little pissed off to say the least, I contacted him on the Monday and told him how I'd stayed over hers whilst, officially, she was still with him. I got a couple of angry texts from her as he'd obviously confronted her, she denied I'd stayed around, called me ugly compared to him, said how he was better than me. This really got to me so I contacted him again via msyapce once more than told him more details, stuff that I wouldn't have known if I hadn't stayed over and then a few days later he finished her because of this. I was still a little pent up and angry. And I know this is a little vitriolic. But I set up a fake facebook account, I know how to get to her and I know more than anything, she cares what people think of her. So I put up some unflattering pictures and a description saying about the cruel things she's done then added all her friends from her actual account. Initially I felt good from this but now a couple of days later I feel like maybe I should close it as its no doubt going to hinder me moving on if I'm checking this and whatever. Should I close it and move forward? I feel so hurt and my self esteem has taken a huge knock so any advice on moving on and upwards would be very much appreciated. Cheers for taking the time to read and to help. X
angie2443 Posted July 21, 2008 Posted July 21, 2008 First, I'm going to suggest that the next time you post, you make it shorter. More people will respond to it. It is good, however, that you sectioned it into paragraphs. This makes it much easiar to read. Now, I think you should move on. I understand the desire for vengance, but if you want to be happy, stop emotionally investing in this girl and find someone better to spend your energy on.
Raina Posted July 21, 2008 Posted July 21, 2008 Definitely close it as fast as you can and stay away from anything that reminds you of her. You're just hurting yourself.
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