Kamille Posted July 21, 2008 Posted July 21, 2008 While I was away on a three day camping trip with friends, I met this guy from a city somewhat far away from mine (this is Canada after all). We really had fun together, ended up sleeping together (under the stars it was amazing) and, once we were back in civilisation, we met for breakfast and, again, had a great time (no sex - just conversation). We exchanged emails and phone numbers and yes, I'll admit, I was sure he was going to keep in touch. No dice. I wrote him one email where I basically said I was happy to have met him. He hasn't answered (I sent it last week). I know what I would tell someone in my situation: ah well, you had fun, you don't know why he isn't replying, but obviously you deserve to be with someone who wants to be with you. Besides, he doesn't live in the same city I do so it's not like much could have come out of it. But still, it s" ks when it happens to you. On a sidenote, the sex was amazing. Best I ever had by a long mile.
Art_Critic Posted July 21, 2008 Posted July 21, 2008 ah well, you had fun, you don't know why he isn't replying, but obviously you deserve to be with someone who wants to be with you. Besides, he doesn't live in the same city I do so it's not like much could have come out of it. But still, it s" ks when it happens to you. Well said... A ONS isn't necessarily supposed to work it's way into a relationship.. Just enjoy the memory and if you both get together in the future for more then that is just icing on the cake...
Author Kamille Posted July 21, 2008 Author Posted July 21, 2008 Well said... A ONS isn't necessarily supposed to work it's way into a relationship.. Just enjoy the memory and if you both get together in the future for more then that is just icing on the cake... So true. Thanks Art.
sb129 Posted July 21, 2008 Posted July 21, 2008 Just chalk it up as an ego booster- you ARE hot and worthy of being sh*gged under the stars, and who knows, maybe things would have turned out different if you had been from the same city, but you aren't so c'est la vie. I had a ONS just before I met wonderboy. It was an itch that had to be scratched, and there were no callbacks. Glad I got it out of my system before I met WB.
shadowplay Posted July 21, 2008 Posted July 21, 2008 Yeah, it does suck. I know the feeling. I think he's not interested because you guys live so far away from each other. You don't know what his circumstances are. Also, the mystery may be gone for him because you guys slept together so fast. It shouldn't be that way, but it seems like it often is.
verve Posted July 21, 2008 Posted July 21, 2008 Don't get too worked up he didn't get back to you. Practically as he lives quite far away, in your own words, not a lot could have really happened anyway could it. There are so many reasons why people don't get back to you. Its not big deal. There are so many people out there who are ideal for you, more than you'll ever get chance to meet, so its never a good idea to let 1 person get you down, just move on the next!
Author Kamille Posted July 21, 2008 Author Posted July 21, 2008 Just chalk it up as an ego booster- you ARE hot and worthy of being sh*gged under the stars, and who knows, maybe things would have turned out different if you had been from the same city, but you aren't so c'est la vie. I had a ONS just before I met wonderboy. It was an itch that had to be scratched, and there were no callbacks. Glad I got it out of my system before I met WB. I think I also wanted the added ego-stroke of having a guy who lives thousands of kilometers away chase me. Plus he was so cute and he really made me laugh. And he smelled delicious, even after three days of camping (pheromones). And, let me repeat, the sex was amazing. I didn't know I was quite that multi-orgasmic or that orgasms could last that long. There are so many reasons why people don't get back to you. Its not big deal. There are so many people out there who are ideal for you, more than you'll ever get chance to meet, so its never a good idea to let 1 person get you down, just move on the next! Thanks Verve, great perspective. Plus, the good news is: I'm over the ex. Also, the mystery may be gone for him because you guys slept together so fast. It shouldn't be that way, but it seems like it often is. That crossed my mind. But whatever, that one night was well worth it. I will be in his neck of the woods in a couple of weeks. I'm thinking of giving him a call to see what he's up too at that time... Opinions?
Nevermind Posted July 21, 2008 Posted July 21, 2008 I wouldn't call him. He didn't reply to your e-mail, or call you. Common courtesy would have it to at least reply to that e-mail. If he answers friendly to a call, then because he things he might "get some". Just my opinion.
Star Gazer Posted July 21, 2008 Posted July 21, 2008 Just chalk it up as an ego booster- you ARE hot and worthy of being sh*gged under the stars, and who knows, maybe things would have turned out different if you had been from the same city, but you aren't so c'est la vie. I had a ONS just before I met wonderboy. It was an itch that had to be scratched, and there were no callbacks. Glad I got it out of my system before I met WB. Love this post. Glad you got some lovin' under the stars, K. I'm sure things would be different if you lived in the same city.
Author Kamille Posted July 21, 2008 Author Posted July 21, 2008 I wouldn't call him. He didn't reply to your e-mail, or call you. Common courtesy would have it to at least reply to that e-mail. If he answers friendly to a call, then because he things he might "get some". Just my opinion. To be honest, I would be calling mainly to "get some" myself. I just hope he is really single, which he said he was. I'm saying in his case, and considering the situation, I am not radically opposed to being booty call. Or calling to offer booty, as the case may be.
Nevermind Posted July 21, 2008 Posted July 21, 2008 Well in that case. Call. I had the feeling that you were interested in a bit more, maybe. Have fun!
sb129 Posted July 21, 2008 Posted July 21, 2008 Call him if you are in town- if you are OK with being a booty call, then go for it! At least the walls will be thicker.... your poor friends! Its so hard to stay quiet when you are having sex in a tent.
Author Kamille Posted July 21, 2008 Author Posted July 21, 2008 Call him if you are in town- if you are OK with being a booty call, then go for it! At least the walls will be thicker.... your poor friends! Its so hard to stay quiet when you are having sex in a tent. No no, we weren't in a tent - we slept out some ways down a trail, zipping our slipping bags together, under the stars. He was afraid of getting attacked by beavers (Nemo, this one is all yours!). Some friends said they still thought they heard us though. (We were by a fresh water spring that was quite noisy). Nevermind I had the feeling that you were interested in a bit more, maybe. Have fun! I just had such a great time with him. I mean, I have no idea if we would translate into anything in our day to day life, plus there's little chance of finding out since we live far from each other. But yeah, I would like to see him again, know what I mean? I guess he doesn't need more, and I need to take that into consideration.
Art_Critic Posted July 21, 2008 Posted July 21, 2008 He was afraid of getting attacked by beavers It kinda sounds like he was attacked by a beaver.. I hope he lived
Author Kamille Posted July 21, 2008 Author Posted July 21, 2008 It kinda sounds like he was attacked by a beaver.. I hope he lived heeheehee . Maybe he didn't survive the attack and that's why he isn't keeping in touch.
shadowplay Posted July 21, 2008 Posted July 21, 2008 To be honest, I would be calling mainly to "get some" myself. I just hope he is really single, which he said he was. I'm saying in his case, and considering the situation, I am not radically opposed to being booty call. Or calling to offer booty, as the case may be. LOL! I'm in the same position as you with another guy, and there's absolutely nothing wrong with wanting a little booty. I think it's a pretty natural desire after getting out of a serious relationship. He might have been scared off by your email if he read it to mean you wanted a relationship. Personally, I would send him another email instead of calling. He's more likely to ignore a call and it might be hard to achieve the proper tone in a voicemail. But don't be as explicit as I was...lol. Just write something short like: "Hey, I'm in town for the week. Was wondering if you might be up for a little carefree fun. Still replaying the amazing time we had under stars."
Star Gazer Posted July 21, 2008 Posted July 21, 2008 It kinda sounds like he was attacked by a beaver.. I hope he lived Kamille's beaver?
Author Kamille Posted July 21, 2008 Author Posted July 21, 2008 Kamille's beaver? What can I say, some fellows really know how to stroke a beaver. LOL! I'm in the same position as you with another guy, and there's absolutely nothing wrong with wanting a little booty. I think it's a pretty natural desire after getting out of a serious relationship. He might have been scared off by your email if he read it to mean you wanted a relationship. Personally, I would send him another email instead of calling. He's more likely to ignore a call and it might be hard to achieve the proper tone in a voicemail. But don't be as explicit as I was...lol. Just write something short like: "Hey, I'm in town for the week. Was wondering if you might be up for a little carefree fun. Still replaying the amazing time we had under stars." Really? that guy you were crushing on? I should get caught up! I reread the email I sent and I don't think there's anything wrong with it. It does mention the amazing time we had under the stars and what a "pleasure" it was to meet him, pun intended. And I am one who believes that if a man gets scared easily, then I'm better off without him. I still think I will call and leave a voice message (hey I'm in (his-city). I was wondering if you wanted to meet up. Call me at (phone number)). If he wants to ignore my call, then I certainly don't want to talk to him, right? Plus he gave me the impression that he was really more of a phone person then an email person. Ah... you guys, I just wish I could keep fantasizing about him endlessly.
Jilly Bean Posted July 21, 2008 Posted July 21, 2008 K, I think if you can not engage your heart if you bed him again, then GO FOR IT!!! Guys that really know how to shag are so rare! But, if you think it will leave you wanting more, or feeling despondent that it won't continue or morph into more, then don't do it.
Author Kamille Posted July 21, 2008 Author Posted July 21, 2008 He just wrote! He wrote a supernice email where he apologizes for taking so long to get back to me; that he just got back to work today and doesn't have internet at home (uh? people still do that?) And JB, you're so right: guys who know how to shag this well are few and far between - so as long as I stay balanced about it, I'm keeping in touch. As to my heart and my mind well, I will take it one step at a time. We don't know each other outside of the camping trail. For now, I'm just happy he wrote and am looking foward to seeing him again.
Jilly Bean Posted July 21, 2008 Posted July 21, 2008 Yay! How exciting he wrote! I think you have the right attitude, K. Keep us posted!
Author Kamille Posted July 23, 2008 Author Posted July 23, 2008 The very thing you enjoyed (the great sex) is the very reason he isn't interested in you for real. You were too easy and slept with him too soon and he's no longer intrigued. Yes, I know you're going to say that you don't want to be with a guy like that anyway, but most guys are inherently like that in their nature, so women should behave accordingly by not giving him sex too soon. At least now you know. Thanks for your input. A great dose of chastising always does a rambunctuous gal some good. What I do know is that I had a good time and that we are now planning to see each other again. (He did get in touch - read three posts up). I don't consider it my duty to 'land a man', therefore a lot of the 'catch 'em and keep 'em' rhetoric doesn't apply in this case.
shadowplay Posted July 23, 2008 Posted July 23, 2008 Thanks for your input. A great dose of chastising always does a rambunctuous gal some good. What I do know is that I had a good time and that we are now planning to see each other again. (He did get in touch - read three posts up). I don't consider it my duty to 'land a man', therefore a lot of the 'catch 'em and keep 'em' rhetoric doesn't apply in this case. Curious -- are you mostly interested in more sex or hoping for something more?
Author Kamille Posted July 23, 2008 Author Posted July 23, 2008 I'd say I'm interested in getting to know him more - but I have no idea if I do want more. We really hardly know each other. Part of the reason the sex was so great was because I recall laughing the whole time. The guy cracks me up. I know I likely won't be able to resist his advances and I am kind of looking foward to a potential round two. It could never possibly beat the first though: the conditions for great sex were ideal... The setting, the mood, we were both on vacation. Right now whatever happens happens. It cheered me up and it did cheer me up even more that he wrote back. What can I say... I'm intrigued. I had a good time and I would like a repeat. If we do meet up, I'll keep you guys posted.
xpaperxcutx Posted July 23, 2008 Posted July 23, 2008 I'd say I'm interested in getting to know him more - but I have no idea if I do want more. We really hardly know each other. Part of the reason the sex was so great was because I recall laughing the whole time. The guy cracks me up. I know I likely won't be able to resist his advances and I am kind of looking foward to a potential round two. It could never possibly beat the first though: the conditions for great sex were ideal... The setting, the mood, we were both on vacation. Right now whatever happens happens. It cheered me up and it did cheer me up even more that he wrote back. What can I say... I'm intrigued. I had a good time and I would like a repeat. If we do meet up, I'll keep you guys posted. Perhaps part of the excitement was that you guys had done the deed outdoors. Imagine doing it in a sleazy hotel room.... where's the fun in that?
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