kittensmittens Posted July 21, 2008 Posted July 21, 2008 So, a couple months ago, i went to visit my friend who lives in another state. We went to a party and i met one of her friends there. He was very much attracted to me and when I ran into him again the next night (the last night i was there), we ended up sleeping together since I liked him and figured I wouldn't get to see him again. He offered to drive me to the airport the next day, so i said sure. Then when I got home we started texting, and then talking on the phone, etc. We started talking more frequently and one day he said he wanted me to come back up there and offered to pay for it. So i said yes, but still held no expectations other than to meet up w/ a guy that I like and have a fun week with him. I still like him, but he seems to be thoroughly smitten and really serious about all this. I'm starting to realize what I'm getting myself into here and it's making me nervous. My friend is good friends with him and hangs out w/ him frequently. She told me that he is a really good person, that he's not a player, that he wants marriage and a family and the whole shebang, and that he's going to be very successful (which is pretty obvious given where they both go to school). And also that he's a really dependable and really honest person. So for those things, I don't have to rely merely on what he says about himself over the phone (an easy way to be fooled, imo) and I believe he is a good person who may be worth the work an LDR takes. But....in short, I'm not naive about LDRs. I think out of all of the things I want in life, an LDR would not be at the top of my list. I'm completley aware of all of the cons associated with them and I want to know if it's even possible for this to work given the circumstances I've mentioned above. I dunno....what do you think...?
strongertoday Posted July 21, 2008 Posted July 21, 2008 any LDR can work if both parties are honest and committed to it... You dont mention ages, committments where you are, financial resources to catch up regularly. I guess my take on it is....see what the visit brings....he may have smelly feet and then you will know at least you have a nice time away with a guy you think is nice. Good luck
Megolicious Posted July 24, 2008 Posted July 24, 2008 There definitely are a lot of pros and cons to LDR's. But basically it all depends on the person you're with and whether or not you two can commit, trust and be honest to each other as what Strongertoday mentioned. If he really is a sweet guy then maybe you should try and give it a chance. If it doesn't work out then there really isn't much harm done unless one or both of you got extremely emotionally attached. It sounds like he is pretty interested in you and hopefully isn't just using you to fool around with especially if he is wanting to pay for your plane tickets those are rather expensive to just be throwing around ha.
confused and broken Posted July 24, 2008 Posted July 24, 2008 IMO by the sounds of it the two of you don't know each other well enough for it to make sense for you to commit to a LDR
Redbull Rider Posted July 24, 2008 Posted July 24, 2008 if youve only hang out with him twice its a little too early to even worry about that. if you were in the same area and hung out for the short time that you had it would be too early to consider being committed imo. i say take it easy, enjoy yourself and worry about the big stuff when it comes into play and not before.
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