Crazy.S Posted July 21, 2008 Posted July 21, 2008 Ok don't yell at me or anything for asking such a question. Here is my short story. I am currently 22 and about to graduate college in less than a month. She graduated already since she didn't have internships. We started dating in 2004 and we stayed together for four years. In those four years, we were each others first for everything. We got along with each others friends/family... everything seem too perfect. Now 5 months later since the breakup, she has a new bf for maybe 2-3 months, I don't really know, just found out the other day. She doesn't even hang out with our old friends anymore, because they don't like the kid. Honestly I don't think he can love her the way I did. Can this dude really replace me? I just want to know from the other perspective, do you ever forget your first true love?
louise08 Posted July 21, 2008 Posted July 21, 2008 Ok don't yell at me or anything for asking such a question. Here is my short story. I am currently 22 and about to graduate college in less than a month. She graduated already since she didn't have internships. We started dating in 2004 and we stayed together for four years. In those four years, we were each others first for everything. We got along with each others friends/family... everything seem too perfect. Now 5 months later since the breakup, she has a new bf for maybe 2-3 months, I don't really know, just found out the other day. She doesn't even hang out with our old friends anymore, because they don't like the kid. Honestly I don't think he can love her the way I did. Can this dude really replace me? I just want to know from the other perspective, do you ever forget your first true love?[/quote] Sorry I really don't know what to advise. Pretty much same situation for me, so I will be reading the responses too! And to the last question... I would really like to know. Because I dont think I ever will...
Nevermind Posted July 21, 2008 Posted July 21, 2008 No, you never truly forget your first love. She will always remember you and the time with you was meaningful to her. You had a major impact on each other's lives - this won't be forgotten. People rarely stay with their first love, and though this is sad, it's also normal. They may fall in love again and feel similar again, but the first one will never be forgotten. Never. Maybe this will help you in finding some peace.
louise08 Posted July 21, 2008 Posted July 21, 2008 No, you never truly forget your first love. She will always remember you and the time with you was meaningful to her. You had a major impact on each other's lives - this won't be forgotten. People rarely stay with their first love, and though this is sad, it's also normal. They may fall in love again and feel similar again, but the first one will never be forgotten. Never. Maybe this will help you in finding some peace. Is it possible that a second or third love can mean more than the first love?
borelandkaren Posted July 21, 2008 Posted July 21, 2008 We are all replaceable............and so are they.
Nevermind Posted July 21, 2008 Posted July 21, 2008 Is it possible that a second or third love can mean more than the first love? Yes. Of course.
roghornio Posted July 21, 2008 Posted July 21, 2008 Unfortunatly the answer is yes. Butdon’t take it personaly. You can’t help who you fall in love with, and unfortunately you can’t help if you fall out of love either.
sunshinegirl Posted July 21, 2008 Posted July 21, 2008 Is it possible that a second or third love can mean more than the first love? DEFINITELY. My fourth love meant much more than my first love. And I expect my fifth or sixth (eek) will too. By the way, it was a b*tch to get over my first love. I couldn't imagine loving ANYONE else and thought I was done with relationships for the rest of my life (!). I could not have been more wrong, and, frankly, later relationships helped me see how completely unhealthy and immature my first love had actually been.
Author Crazy.S Posted July 21, 2008 Author Posted July 21, 2008 Yes that makes sense, whether I like it or not. It is actually good to know that we can be replaced, because I am pretty sure this goes both ways. A win/win situation. She meant/means a lot to me. I hope one day I can be able to fully accept her decision, because I really want to be part of her life. I want her to be happy. And I want to see her succeed.
Nevermind Posted July 21, 2008 Posted July 21, 2008 That's a great attitude. You both made an impact on each other's life, and you now need to focus on your lives as individuals. Good luck with that.
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