kittensmittens Posted July 21, 2008 Posted July 21, 2008 Ok, so i've started talking to this guy and i feel like he is slightly controlling. He's not creepy/psycho controlling....it's just kind of annoying controlling and it's starting to cause a little bit of resentment in me. i firmly believe that you should not go into a relationship expecting to change someone. however, i also believe that life is a learning process and sometimes we learn the most about ourselves through relationships. i also believe that all relationships require that both people involved make some adjustments. so, i'm not really sure how all these things align, but my question is, is it a realistic possibility that he could change and lighten up a little (with a little work of course), or should i just forget it and walk away from this? he is a very big fan of open, honest communication, ie: if something is bothering you, you don't hold it in for resentment to build and cause more problems, you get it out in the open and discuss it. great! i couldn't agree more and maybe this means there is hope (in regards to my question up above). but it's proving to be a catch 22....he tells me about every little thing that i do that bothers him and i can't understand why he can't just be more laid back and realize, say for instance, that i'm not trying to keep him on the phone when i say "okay" instead of "okay, goodnight" when he says he has to go. (there's an example for you, of what i'm talking about). he just seems a little too rigid and i don't know if this is something that even CAN change....with open, honest communication. any thoughts would be greatly appreciated....
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