N2Natasha Posted July 21, 2008 Posted July 21, 2008 I just got back from visiting my love in Russia (southern Siberia, to be exact). We spent 8 days together and it was like a fantasy come true. We spent 5 months together when she was in the U.S. and this was my first time seeing her home and meeting her parents, brother, cousin and friends. The visit could not have gone better! I only speak some very basic Russian so she had to interpret for both sides, but her entire family loved me and I loved them too. Her parents, brother and best friends all told her they felt as if I had been in her life forever and they have never seen her so happy with someone. They were all just kind, warm, down to earth people. She comes from a highly educated, successful family so I knew they would be pretty critical of the American man she has told them she fell in love with. They couldn't have been any more welcoming. My time together with her was magical, as we spent 3 days in the Altai Mountains staying in a quaint hotel by the river, swimming, bungee jumping off a cliff over the river, cooking shashlik (a form of skewered BBQ) over a fire next to a river bank in the wilderness, then time with her family which included picking and eating fresh fruit and veggies from the family dacha, enjoying a Russian banya (spa-like experience) and many other incredible experiences. The problem now is that our short week together is over and we are again thousands of miles apart. We made tentative plans to meet again in late September or early October somewhere in Europe. It has only been 3 days since we parted and I am going CRAZY missing her. I thought the first time we said goodbye in May was bad, but now that I have met her family and things went so well, it is even harder to be apart. Any advice from those of you who have been doing this a long time? On the one hand I want to be thankful for, and remember in a positive way, the incredible time we spent together. On the other hand, I am missing her so badly I physically hurt and can't imagine how I will get through 80 or so more days. Thanks.
strongertoday Posted July 21, 2008 Posted July 21, 2008 HUGS...Im SO right there with all your feeling.... I am back home from 2 weeks with my man (he is in Wales UK, Im australia). I am blessed he is moving here in about 3 months but that seems forever away. Best I can suggest from living this a few times is the first 2 weeks are the hardest. Try and set the plans for later in the year down now so you can countdown, and if your incluned keep a diary, nothing like looking back and seeing 40 days, 30 days, 20 days to go. Every day is a day closer to you seeing her again. Good luck
Lyssa Posted July 21, 2008 Posted July 21, 2008 N2Natasha, I'm glad you had a great time with her and your family. I hope it will last. That said, the first two weeks were hard. I kept myself busy but I couldn't help thinking about the amazing time we spent together. It got easier weeks after that. By then, I was busy counting down the days until the next visit. It gets easier, really. Strongertoday, I can imagine how excited you are now that he's moving closer to you. My sweetheart just moved here too - for a short while till I sort my business etc in my country - then we will move back to his. I wish you all the best!!
woods321 Posted July 21, 2008 Posted July 21, 2008 Congrats, it sounds like you found a good woman. I know what you mean though. After the second time being together, I felt the same "Now what". Is she someone you want to marry? Have the 2 of you discussed that?
Author N2Natasha Posted July 22, 2008 Author Posted July 22, 2008 Thank you all for the advice and words of encouragement. I really appreciate it! Woods321, yes we plan to get married! I love this woman like I have never loved and I can't let her go. I don't care how hard it is, she is worth the struggle and the wait.
wingk1314 Posted July 22, 2008 Posted July 22, 2008 congrats mate. I felt the same "now what" too after I got back from her city. Now it's time to work harder!
Author N2Natasha Posted July 22, 2008 Author Posted July 22, 2008 Thanks for the kind words wingk! You are right, now I must work harder to make this happen! I have never been more sure of something in my life. It's just hard to be patient now.
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