Nevermind Posted July 20, 2008 Posted July 20, 2008 Okay, this may sound weird, but in a way I am glad that it happened. I have been through so much abuse and cruelty by this man, in and outside of the relationship that the cheating is a mere extra icing on the cake. I amg glad that it ended like this, that I can never delude about his charactre, never ever really want to go back. I am glad that I know that even though I was at an extremely low point I got back up on my feet. I started to be more social, started therapy and learned to make plans and be good to myself. I am stronger than I thought. Because really, it tought me that I need to be a person of my own right, not depending on anybody no matter how nice or great they seem. I am glad that all this happened at once, because whenever I will be with a person who shows traits like my ex, I will run for the hills. I will not tolerate neglect, nor abuse, no cheating and no lieing. And I will demand the same behaviour from myself. Never do I want to resemble him in any way. I learned lots of lessons. And I keep on learning. See, this is the good ending really. That I understand my own strength and my own worth.
Arise_Serpentor Posted July 20, 2008 Posted July 20, 2008 Good for you! Is there a question hidden in there somewhere or are you just starting a journal?!
Author Nevermind Posted July 20, 2008 Author Posted July 20, 2008 Many threads in the coping section are not about questions, but about *drums* coping. So, no, there is no question. More a reminder to myself. Maybe others feel the same about their situations and would like to share?
foxh1234 Posted July 20, 2008 Posted July 20, 2008 Okay, this may sound weird, but in a way I am glad that it happened. I have been through so much abuse and cruelty by this man, in and outside of the relationship that the cheating is a mere extra icing on the cake. I amg glad that it ended like this, that I can never delude about his charactre, never ever really want to go back. I am glad that I know that even though I was at an extremely low point I got back up on my feet. I started to be more social, started therapy and learned to make plans and be good to myself. I am stronger than I thought. Because really, it tought me that I need to be a person of my own right, not depending on anybody no matter how nice or great they seem. I am glad that all this happened at once, because whenever I will be with a person who shows traits like my ex, I will run for the hills. I will not tolerate neglect, nor abuse, no cheating and no lieing. And I will demand the same behaviour from myself. Never do I want to resemble him in any way. I learned lots of lessons. And I keep on learning. See, this is the good ending really. That I understand my own strength and my own worth. Good for you NM. I think we all learn from failed relationships and I know I won't make the same mistakes next time. I think you are doing great, keep it up.
kyta Posted July 20, 2008 Posted July 20, 2008 Many threads in the coping section are not about questions, but about *drums* coping. So, no, there is no question. More a reminder to myself. Maybe others feel the same about their situations and would like to share? Nice to hear your doing well, we all need to feel go about what has happened to us and why, if we dont learn from it then it was all in vain, live and learn as they say, im allso glad it has happed to me, i wasnt at first and ddint feel i would get past it quick, but it is a good thing it has happened, it has happened b4 but i was to scared confused and kept going back, these were all signs i saw but didnt take action on in the rite way, this time i have learned so much and it all thanks to the x. We will all make mistakes again with other ppl in our lives, we allways do, because we are only human, and others will make it in our lives again, its just life, and i want to live it to the best i can.
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