Archduke Chocula Posted July 20, 2008 Posted July 20, 2008 I went out with a girl this Saturday night ... is it "too much" to ask her out for the next night (Sunday)? I know this is typically against form but I like her, and I hate playing games. What do you think?
Balthazar Posted July 20, 2008 Posted July 20, 2008 WTF? I thought you were a Count; when did you become an Archduke? This is fronting my friend, and it is what you need to do with chicks to a certain extent. Anyway, I will assume this was your first date with the girl. Although a first date on a Saturday is a bit heavy; you're probably better off setting first dates for weekdays. She may have had a great time, an OK time, or even not that good of a time. That's up to you to judge. Regardless, she is thinking about how she felt about the date and you. Give her that time to think by not getting in touch so quickly for another date. You went out on Saturday, so leave Sunday and -possibly- Monday out of the picture. Either call her Monday early evening or Tuesday and set up your next rendezvous. Unfortunately, modern women have been imprinted with a certain idea that if you call too early you are "needy" or "desperate" ergo less desirable of their affection as high status females. To get around this, you need to space out the dates and show interest and nonchalance about them at the same time; Yes, this is a paradox in terms, and that is the difficulty. By being cool and reserved, yet showing interest, you are conveying the message that the female is important, but no so much as to get you to significantly alter your busy life. Yes, it's a game, and most women will tell you they don't play such games or dislike them. Take my word for it, almost all of them play them and enjoy them, regardless of what they say. CHeers,
Shygirl15 Posted July 20, 2008 Posted July 20, 2008 WTF? I thought you were a Count; when did you become an Archduke? This is fronting my friend, and it is what you need to do with chicks to a certain extent. Anyway, I will assume this was your first date with the girl. Although a first date on a Saturday is a bit heavy; you're probably better off setting first dates for weekdays. She may have had a great time, an OK time, or even not that good of a time. That's up to you to judge. Regardless, she is thinking about how she felt about the date and you. Give her that time to think by not getting in touch so quickly for another date. You went out on Saturday, so leave Sunday and -possibly- Monday out of the picture. Either call her Monday early evening or Tuesday and set up your next rendezvous. Unfortunately, modern women have been imprinted with a certain idea that if you call too early you are "needy" or "desperate" ergo less desirable of their affection as high status females. To get around this, you need to space out the dates and show interest and nonchalance about them at the same time; Yes, this is a paradox in terms, and that is the difficulty. By being cool and reserved, yet showing interest, you are conveying the message that the female is important, but no so much as to get you to significantly alter your busy life. Yes, it's a game, and most women will tell you they don't play such games or dislike them. Take my word for it, almost all of them play them and enjoy them, regardless of what they say. CHeers, The only part I agree 100%. Even if I enjoyed the first date, I may want some time to breath and think it over a bit. I'm not sure about the rest of the post though...
nmail Posted July 20, 2008 Posted July 20, 2008 Hey Welcome in this forum. Hope you will enjoy discussion and you will give good suggestions to other people also.
Author Archduke Chocula Posted July 20, 2008 Author Posted July 20, 2008 WTF? I thought you were a Count; when did you become an Archduke? This is fronting my friend, and it is what you need to do with chicks to a certain extent. Anyway, I will assume this was your first date with the girl. Although a first date on a Saturday is a bit heavy; you're probably better off setting first dates for weekdays. She may have had a great time, an OK time, or even not that good of a time. That's up to you to judge. Regardless, she is thinking about how she felt about the date and you. Give her that time to think by not getting in touch so quickly for another date. You went out on Saturday, so leave Sunday and -possibly- Monday out of the picture. Either call her Monday early evening or Tuesday and set up your next rendezvous. Unfortunately, modern women have been imprinted with a certain idea that if you call too early you are "needy" or "desperate" ergo less desirable of their affection as high status females. To get around this, you need to space out the dates and show interest and nonchalance about them at the same time; Yes, this is a paradox in terms, and that is the difficulty. By being cool and reserved, yet showing interest, you are conveying the message that the female is important, but no so much as to get you to significantly alter your busy life. Yes, it's a game, and most women will tell you they don't play such games or dislike them. Take my word for it, almost all of them play them and enjoy them, regardless of what they say. CHeers, Thanks for your thoughts. Actually, Saturday was the 3rd date. If it was the 1st I definitely would be trying to play it cool early, no matter how much I dislike those games. As for my name, I got promoted from Count somewhere between the year 2000 and the year 3000 (reference from Futurama)
Star Gazer Posted July 20, 2008 Posted July 20, 2008 If yesterday was the 3rd date, I don't really see a problem with asking her out again for the very next day. *shrug*
Balthazar Posted July 20, 2008 Posted July 20, 2008 The only part I agree 100%. Even if I enjoyed the first date, I may want some time to breath and think it over a bit. I'm not sure about the rest of the post though... Well, you're a shy girl, and possibly different from other women.
RedneckRomeo Posted July 21, 2008 Posted July 21, 2008 Depends on the girl - and the success of the last date I think. I had a first date with my girlfriend on a Friday. I wanted to get a second data ASAP but was going to wait a few days for second date. She, however, wanted to do something as soon as possible - meaning the very next day if we could. Turns out I was busy that day - but we went out Sunday instead. We've been dating almost a month now - and we go out frequently for dates on consecutive days (when we first started too - even if it were just for breakfast, dinner or ice-cream).
Trialbyfire Posted July 21, 2008 Posted July 21, 2008 What do you think? Do you want to continue playing the dating game or is it time to show your real interest?
D-Lish Posted July 21, 2008 Posted July 21, 2008 Hey, I have no problem with it. I met a guy this weekend on the friday night and he asked me to spend saturday with him too- we had good chemistry, so I took him up on his offer and went out with him saturday. No biggie in my books. He asked for tonight too- but I wanted to take a break and suggested wednesday....which he seemed fine with. I'm not going to play a game- if I like someone, I'm free the next night- I say why not. I felt we got to know each other a little better by seeing one another two nights in a row.
Balthazar Posted July 21, 2008 Posted July 21, 2008 Hey, I have no problem with it. I met a guy this weekend on the friday night and he asked me to spend saturday with him too- we had good chemistry, so I took him up on his offer and went out with him saturday. No biggie in my books. He asked for tonight too- but I wanted to take a break and suggested wednesday....which he seemed fine with. I'm not going to play a game- if I like someone, I'm free the next night- I say why not. I felt we got to know each other a little better by seeing one another two nights in a row. How interested would you say you are in this guy D? I ask because if you were really into him, wouldn't you have taken him up on his offer, no matter how soon after your last date?
D-Lish Posted July 21, 2008 Posted July 21, 2008 How interested would you say you are in this guy D? I ask because if you were really into him, wouldn't you have taken him up on his offer, no matter how soon after your last date? Well, I like him so far. Enough to see him both Friday and Saturday. I don't normally see someone two days in a row right off the bat. But I did so with him because I wanted to. AT this point I am not sure where it will go- only that I am looking forward to Wednesday. I'd probably see him sooner if I wasn't moving today and tomorrow. We are talking and texting all the time currently- so that's a good sign I think. ;-)
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