I don't understand the way I behave with my ex

[iwanttolive]

I'm trying to make sense of my r/s failure and to feel less like a loser. I don't have problem communicating with all my friends, but with my ex i always say stupid thing, the wrong thing at the wrong time, and really uncool thing. Basically the communication is really awkward.

 

U will roll ur eyes when u hear this. My ex apologised for being bad-tempered all the time. Then i started blabbering how I just prayed to God about this issue and he suddenly called and I was so amazed. How stupid could I be!!! He immediately "Man, i make a mistake calling, we are really bad at communication".

 

Could it be that I'm constantly afraid of saying the wrong thing, that's why all the more I say the wrong thing? I dun have this problem with frens. But with all my ex-bfs I have experienced this. And now I feel i'm hopeless in r/s.

[Warm]

Hi! Dont beat yourself up about it. I have suffered from the same probelms myself. You need to love that part of yourself that makes these mistakes and not argue with yourself. When you learn to love that part of you, the less of a problem it becomes.

 

[iwanttolive]

Thanks, warm.. i din expect anyone to reply because the problem is so abstract and so hard to nail it down

[Warm]

Well Im a blabberer too! But now I love that about myself. You never know but some people could find that amazing about you! Have you ever considered that?

[CailinPig]

Oh God, I've said some embarassing thing too. Like my ex knows i don't like children and i remember saying: if you got back with me id definitely have children. i love them now.

WHAT??

[ellen24]

i do stuff liek that all the time. like say stupid things, or make silly conversation or tell dumb lies. not sure why, but only to me ex-- like i am trying too hard b/c i am afraid he will get mad about something, so i say something dumb