Peter_pan Posted July 20, 2008 Posted July 20, 2008 as you know i got two girls numbers the other night, well txted the girl i was into, and she didnt reply (yeah could of called her, but didnt want an awkward silence). anyway, went out tonight and saw her again, i said to her hey how are you? i sent you a txt, she said oh i dont think i got it. so i said o well. and then i told her i had a good time on thurs. she said yeah she did to. then she said hey listen i'll talk to you later basically, brushed me off. i saw her later, only this time she danced with me and was ok again. then she went off with her sis to go for a smoke or something, i went done the stairs wth my mate who wanted fresh air, she walked by and said she was going to the toilet and would meet me back down stairs. any way my mate got his fresh air and was like "lets go back up stairs". so i did and after 10 mins i went down stairs to see if she was where she said she would be, saw her, and went over to her and asked if she would like to go back up stairs and dance. she said yeah. we walked up stairs and she was chatting away with me. then we went to have a dance and it was ok. i saw this guy who kept looking over. we went up onto the main dance floor and she spoke to this other guy, i put my hand out as an invitation for her to come and dance but she looked at my hand and looked away so i went off to find my mate. later i saw her with that guy who kept looking over. i think she must of known him. and then after that i didnt see her again so that sums up whats happened in my life for the time being. she was giving me hot and cold signals and i dont feel to good now x
saraispiel19 Posted July 20, 2008 Posted July 20, 2008 Maybe that was her boyfriend or another guy she was on a date with: did she flirt with you when he wasn't around (think about it). There are lots of skeezie girls out there so I wouldn't doubt it. Or maybe that was her ex or close friend- who knows? this girl is too complicated from the start. I say NEXT! Goodluck to ya!
Author Peter_pan Posted July 20, 2008 Author Posted July 20, 2008 i dont know man, yeah she was flirty when he wasn't in sight. even down stairs in front of her sister she was nice to me and wanted to go upstairs and dance. i dont know who or what he is to her. i hate rejection. i guess i can txt the other one tomoz. makes me feel like **** though
ioncebelieved Posted July 20, 2008 Posted July 20, 2008 Peter, I can't tell you the times I screwed up things. I speak because I did it before too. NEVER, EVER text her if you want an answer. She got the text and she knows she did. Always speak on the phone early on. I am not against texting, but do it later after things are going well and keep it to a minimum. If I get the crazy signals like you are getting, IT's NEXT!!! I want her interest level HIGH and why bother with the ones that play games???? Don't, you are better than that.
Author Peter_pan Posted July 20, 2008 Author Posted July 20, 2008 cheers bud, i txtd her cause a mate of mine who i met her through knows her v well and said txt her first. so i did. yeh i know she got the txt. it was a short and sweet one that said hey Xher name hereX its pete, have a good nite on thurs? what hav u been up to? x x x i was so into her aswell
saraispiel19 Posted July 20, 2008 Posted July 20, 2008 Well don't text the next one; crickey if a guy texted me i'd disregard him immediately. Eck. Do it the non-new-technological way; the only girls your gonna get like that are the easy ones or on-screen!
Author Peter_pan Posted July 20, 2008 Author Posted July 20, 2008 your not 18 or british though are you... and i took all of my close friends advice and txtd her. prob would have made a twat of myself if i called. i would gladly phone her if we had been on one date at least. i wouldn't want her to feel weird about talking to me on the phone. she obviously wasnt into me thats all.
saraispiel19 Posted July 20, 2008 Posted July 20, 2008 your not 18 or british though are you... Heck no I'm niether! Why don't you just text the girl to see if you can call her instead of having a techno-conversation. Guys that hide behind techonology now a days need to stop being such babies, grow some balls or a spine! ....and i took all of my close friends advice and txtd her. prob would have made a twat of myself if i called. i would gladly phone her if we had been on one date at least. i wouldn't want her to feel weird about talking to me on the phone. she obviously wasnt into me thats all. I meant don't text the next girl. This one obviously you were advised to so that is different.
Author Peter_pan Posted July 20, 2008 Author Posted July 20, 2008 call the next one then? sorry if i sounded snappy just the way she acted made me feel worthless and ****ty. i take it very personally if i get brushed off or rejected. xx
saraispiel19 Posted July 20, 2008 Posted July 20, 2008 call the next one then? Text the next one : hey can I call you? -- or something of the sort instead of "hey what's up ??" blech. sorry if i sounded snappy Not a problem, I get my head bitten off everyday. just the way she acted made me feel worthless and ****ty. i take it very personally if i get brushed off or rejected. Who doesn't? it's normal and very human; but your the only one that can control it and not let it get under your skin. Your young everything is a ugly crisis (it doesn't get any better you just learn how to deal with it later on in life). I say if someone makes you feel that way it's because they are! Goodluck to ya!
pickingupthepieces Posted July 20, 2008 Posted July 20, 2008 I think we all hate rejection.. I dwell on things personally and let things eat away at me (something I REALLY shouldn't do)! We all like to feel wanted. I wouldn't worry to much about the guy.. I would defenitly call the other girl though.. just to be straight and upfront. Her saying she didn't get the text was kind of rude... sounds like she might do the whole playing games thing with the mixed signals.. and well you don't need that! Goodluck with girl #2!
iwish Posted July 20, 2008 Posted July 20, 2008 Hey PP, chin up! You'll see this girl again at some point in the future. You both go to the same places so it's bound to happen. In the meantime, text the other one and see how that pans out. It's her loss right
Author Peter_pan Posted July 20, 2008 Author Posted July 20, 2008 cheers guys, i knew she would probably be like that. yeah i'll see her again, she is off to brighton uni in 3 months. i need to get my uni sorted out. i dont get her signals at all. if she didnt like me, why come upstairs and dance with me, share my drink etc. smile at me and look in my eyes. i dont get it.
Author Peter_pan Posted July 20, 2008 Author Posted July 20, 2008 sent girl no2 a txt, no reply lol. maybe i am one of those guys they regret in the morning haha. would be nice if they bothered to txt back. otherwise, why give me your number. anyway i'll meet some new girls no doubt
foxh1234 Posted July 20, 2008 Posted July 20, 2008 sent girl no2 a txt, no reply lol. maybe i am one of those guys they regret in the morning haha. would be nice if they bothered to txt back. otherwise, why give me your number. anyway i'll meet some new girls no doubt Give her a chance, she may still respond. If not, no big deal, you will meet lots of nice young ladies. The more you meet, the better your odds of a good one liking you. I wish I was your age again,knowing what I know now.
foxh1234 Posted July 20, 2008 Posted July 20, 2008 yeah true explain what you know !! Obviously I don't know enough or I wouldn't be on this site everyday.:laugh:
Author Peter_pan Posted July 20, 2008 Author Posted July 20, 2008 god i am a tit. i txt the other one. just found out she is the other girls mate. so i quickly txt her again (bad move i know) but i said, just thought id say hello anyway, you know jack b dont you? take it easy. pete hopefully that covers my arse. i dont want it getting back to the other girl that i txt her saying "hey do you remember me from the other night. i hate this lol. everything i do seems like i am digging a big hole lol. told you bebo etc causes to much drama
ioncebelieved Posted July 20, 2008 Posted July 20, 2008 Peter, BIG MISTAKE!!!! Do not text any of them early on!!! I told you this yesterday! I have done stupid stuff like this and it fails miserably every time. Text only in small bits when you build a rapport, then be very small with it. I can tell you it does not work!! Women love that texting and it is easy to fall into it. If you have a girlfriend you can text her some. Knock the text messages off!
Author Peter_pan Posted July 20, 2008 Author Posted July 20, 2008 ok cheers man. im not bothered by it now really. next time i will call and see how far i get. bet she wouldnt have answered. but you think im ok covering my back, i dont want to seem like im txting all her mates to lol makes me feel like a loser call me pete
sultry33 Posted July 20, 2008 Posted July 20, 2008 ok cheers man. im not bothered by it now really. next time i will call and see how far i get. bet she wouldnt have answered. but you think im ok covering my back, i dont want to seem like im txting all her mates to lol makes me feel like a loser call me pete hey peter.. im a british girl and although im not 18.. i know british girls well.. we like to be texted 1st.. keep it simple. dont worry what the other girl thinks.. she blew u off, her loss.. she may have you in the "friend zone" i have a few like this.. i kinda like them so yeah im flirty.. im flirty by nature anyway.. i smile at them drink with them.. sometimes hug them.. but no i wont date them.. sorry but if i personally really liked someone at a club and he texted me i would reply and he would know i liked him at the club too.. ie id tell him;) just go with the flow .. get as many friends as you can and hey nothing wrong with the "hows you" text.. dont put yourself down and have fun.. also never put your eggs in one basket.. what you need right now is fun.. dont be really into one person. just my words x
Author Peter_pan Posted July 21, 2008 Author Posted July 21, 2008 hey cheers yeah i know, really sucks as she is my ideal kind of girl. the other girl didnt txt back either. o well !! next time i am going to give them my number aswell
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