rajinams Posted July 19, 2008 Posted July 19, 2008 I think i am a nice person with good personality, physique and a helpful nature but the problem is I don't hv any close group of friends. I feel really lonely sometimes. Whenever I go out and see friends talking, smiling, giggleing I feel jealous and lonely. Sometimes I feel like that their is something wrong on my part and feel like running away. My social life is almost zero accept when i go to college or work. People at my work are fairly old and hv family life so i can't hang out with them. At school is only night classes again we just meet in class and then part our own ways. I try extremly hard to make friends when i meet people and though i succeed in first step towards a friendship but somehow never reach the next one. I call them once or twice bu leave after that, i don't want to be called a stalker. Few friends who I hv I try to call them on the phone but either they are busy or hv other plans. Some old friends have stopped taking my calls or never return my voicemails and I guess avoid me. I am a normal person with no bad habits. I fell that either i am always approaching wrong people.I am not liked due to whatever reasons. I am not sure what is wrong with me and i need advice to how to make friends
Born-to-be-loved Posted July 24, 2008 Posted July 24, 2008 I read your post thoroughly and can understand what you must feel like. I don't know how much it will help you but I'll give you my thoughts on it. I think the first and most important thing you must consider is that making friends should never be defined or viewed as being a task and no pressure and laborious effort should surround it. Making friends is a natural thing, and while some may find it easier, the more laid back and genuinely friendly and open you are the more friends you will make. I fear that your problem is that you are continually thinking "how do I get this person to like me" and that is making you uptight and an unattractive friend. So be yourself. Your REAL self! Another thought is involve your potential friend more. Don't let the question in your mind be.. "How can I make myself a more attractive person"? Let it be, "Who is this person, I'm talking to? What are their good qualities? WHat could we do TOGETHER"? things like that...... Keep the focus off yourself so much.. you will make friends. And even if you don't make as many, as quickly as you hope. You'll be a lot happier.. Hope this helped
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