justliketv Posted July 19, 2008 Posted July 19, 2008 just another question..is anyone else still 'in hope' of getting back together with their ex? can you move on to some extent in this way? i almost feel as though..i don't want to be over him and the thought of feeling nothing for him makes me feel sad. it's a really weird feeling i think if he gets another girlfriend that would kind of push me to move on a give up hope..but he's single at the moment and that's why we stopped seeing each other cos he didn't want a relationship. i'm pretty sure he'd feel a bit strange if i got into a relationship as well. this guy really gets to me and i even stayed single for a while on purpose because i had a feeling something would happen and then we started seeing each other. i still tell myself 'if it's meant to be, it'll happen' i don't know if i can get rid of every hope of us getting back together one day:( i feel like i can't imagine meeting anyone better or picture liking someone else. i don't think it's helping as well cos my self confidence has really gone so i'm not really dating or getting any male attention or anything i sometimes think i wouln't feel this strongly for no reason. i just keep telling myself that it has all happended for a reason. xx.
ioncebelieved Posted July 19, 2008 Posted July 19, 2008 To be honest, there is a small part of me that thinks once I leave her alone for a long while she will see what she was missing. Without the pressure from me of wearing her out. I want that chance in months not weeks. At least by that time, I will be better able to decide if she deserves me and if I really want her back. I was put through a good bit by her and her games are hard to just forget. In time, if she came correct and put forth a hell of an effort...I do mean a hell of an effort, I would take her back. The better solution would be finding a better person that was able to give like she receives. Do not let HOPE destroy you!!! If you let it, it will!!!
fran82 Posted July 20, 2008 Posted July 20, 2008 hey jlt, how long has it been since you split? i know its difficult but you need to really deep down start concentrating on you. do whatever you feel you need to do to grow your self esteem back. once you've done that you'll automatically feel a little better and things will fall into place. you'll know when your stronger if you think he deserves you, or if you deserve better that him. dont forget tho, your only human, of course you'll miss him! its natural! just look after no 1 until you know what you really want. hope can be a cruel thing! dont let it be the deciding factor in your life. get determined to just be happy within yourself. being single is daunting, but its when you get to thoroughly know and understand who you are as a person, relish that time, then when you know, have fun with it! take care
justaman99 Posted July 21, 2008 Posted July 21, 2008 For some odd reason I do but only if she takes time to change the way she talked to me and treated me. I am hopeful that people can change in general so naturally I am a little bit hopeful that she'll realize that her attitude is relationship suicide. I'm not waiting around though. Have plenty else to do and people to meet and spend time with. We did have an amazing connection. -Just
Author justliketv Posted July 21, 2008 Author Posted July 21, 2008 it's been four months but we were only together three months,so i feel like a bit of an idiot for feeling this way. but i liked him for a year before all this, when we were friends & housemates. my previous two year break up was nothing compared to this, it's crazy. think cos i really didn't expect..whereas the other one had come to an end. i think because i haven't had any proper closure either cos we broke up through text (stupid i know,but i couldn't have gone through with it face to face) it just feels very unfinished and raw. thanks for your advice i've been doing a bit of mini life-make over recently..eating properly,and exercising,having early nights and i've got a new full time summer job so i'm keeping busy,bought some new clothes and things!starting to make me feel a lot better it' just when i'm alone, first thing in the morning and falling asleep at night that's hard. it's just i know i'll have to see him in three months when i go back to uni and instead of thinking 'i'll see him and be over him and be friends' i'm still playing out little sceranios in my head of us getting back together. also got a gut feeling he'll text me in a few months..which is stupid. his non contact shows everything really, that he's not thinking of me. and i refuse to cave in and text him now. even if it gets to september, i won't do it. sorry bout the essay of a reply! hehe xxx
Author justliketv Posted July 21, 2008 Author Posted July 21, 2008 i'm sure she will whether you still want her by that time is a different story though. i remember one of my exes got in touch with me and told me he still loved me..and it felt so wierd because i was so completley past feeling that way. he cheated on me and things so in a bad way it felt quite nice that he was pining for me a little bit and i didn't feel anything for him anymore! haha. this was probably about six months after we broke up as well. life's a bitch in that way,things like that always happens too late lol. hope everything goes well for you:) do you think you would start dating someone new? feeling the way you feel? xxx
Author justliketv Posted July 21, 2008 Author Posted July 21, 2008 see..that's kinda what i'd like to do..not wait around..but kinda not give up completley *sigh* i think hopefully i won't be scared of giving up hope on this person if i meet someone else i really like. xx
justaman99 Posted July 22, 2008 Posted July 22, 2008 do you think you would start dating someone new? feeling the way you feel? xxx Yes dating hasn't been a big problem actually and has been quite an experience. I do have to force myself sometimes to meet people but it's helped me to realize that there are others out there and when the time is right someone will pop in, probably when I least expect it. I'm still somewhat damaged goods and can't fully commit my heart to someone as I did, but in time things will work out. -Just
sultry33 Posted July 22, 2008 Posted July 22, 2008 Yes dating hasn't been a big problem actually and has been quite an experience. I do have to force myself sometimes to meet people but it's helped me to realize that there are others out there and when the time is right someone will pop in, probably when I least expect it. I'm still somewhat damaged goods and can't fully commit my heart to someone as I did, but in time things will work out. -Just im right there with you Just.. TRYING BUT NOT FULLY COMMITED.. do you think its that damn "hope" in the back of my mind?
justaman99 Posted July 22, 2008 Posted July 22, 2008 [/b] im right there with you Just.. TRYING BUT NOT FULLY COMMITED.. do you think its that damn "hope" in the back of my mind? Maybe on some level but for me it's that I am still somewhat broken. I have my guard up still. -Just
kyta Posted July 22, 2008 Posted July 22, 2008 No i dont have hope and dont want hope, im glad its over and dont want to go back to hell, heaven is a nicer place, hoping just means we are holding on still, i cant hold on anymore i want to live so all hope has gone now.
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