gummybear Posted July 18, 2008 Posted July 18, 2008 It was hard, but I just had to do it. I've already got interviews lined up and there's no way around it. I've already decided I'm moving away. When I first told him that I'm moving, I told him that it was a tough decision for me and that I feel really sad about it. He said sad is an understatement for how he's feeling right now . He then said when he's with me, he feels happy and he's got the butterflies. He said it's hard for him to just let it go, and asked if I'd consider long distance (I'm thinking at this point he's nuts cuz we've only had 3 dates). I told him I don't see it working in the long term. He then half-jokingly says that where I'm moving to has the best engineering company (he's an engineer). So I said I highly doubt it, but I don't want to rule it out completely (but inside I'm thinking no way!). We said we'd talk about it tomorrow or sunday. Then he IMed me about 30 mins later....telling me he's having dinner with his friend who's currently in a LDR to talk about it. At this point I'm thinking this is too much for me. I told him pt blank that I know I said I'd think about it, but really I've made my decision. I should probably be more firm about it I told him. I said I've already decided but we can still talk if he wants to. He told me that he's had 3 gfs in the past and that he's the one to have ended all 3 relationships and now this time he's on the other side (this ofcourse made me feel less sympathy for him). He still wants me to at least consider it and not rule it out completely. But honestly, I'd talk to him for closure or whatever, but I don't want an LDR after just 3 dates. One more thing and I won't lie, I told him I"m moving just today. For awhile I didn't have the heart to break it to him. But I did today because while talking to him on the phone last night he seemed annoyed by me even though I did nothing wrong. You see I have a pretty wacky personality and it's not everyone's taste. I know it when someone likes my personality vs someone who tolerates it. He looks like he was already starting to get irritated by me (it became much more apparent last night since we talked really late and he was tired and so prob let his guard down a bit more than normal). I kind of had that vibe throughout but last night it really sealed the deal for me. And posters are correct, it really did make me lose whatever little physical attraction I had for him.
Author gummybear Posted July 18, 2008 Author Posted July 18, 2008 Any input or I told you so's or you did the right thing? Comments? I'm feeling somewhat cr*ppy as is normal after any breakup I suppose.
jadedone Posted July 19, 2008 Posted July 19, 2008 Why did you date him inthe first place if you knew you would be moving?
Author gummybear Posted July 19, 2008 Author Posted July 19, 2008 Why did you date him inthe first place if you knew you would be moving? I never thought I'd be moving until I started dating him cuz some sh*t happened at work after he and I connected online then finally met. I still wasn't positive I was moving until just like 1 or 2 days ago. At that point since I already decided to move, I had to tell him. I figured he'd just go 'ok that's too bad' and that'd be it but now I'm stressed out cuz he is considering an LDR, which I would never imagine anyone would want after only dating someone for 3 dates.
GPFan Posted July 19, 2008 Posted July 19, 2008 Any input or I told you so's or you did the right thing? Comments? I'm feeling somewhat cr*ppy as is normal after any breakup I suppose.Yep, that's normal. I think it is wonderful you are pursuing something that may work out very well for you. I would have been more concerned to see you give up an important career opportunity for someone you barely know. For what it is worth, you made the right decision.
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