grey goose Posted July 18, 2008 Posted July 18, 2008 well after an extensive long battle to try and reconcile with my wife, i have called it off. I have done everything i can, i have turned over every possible rock i believe. last night after i realized with the help of this forum that you people were right. I called her letting her know that i wasn't going to be able to speak to her for awhile and to wish her a good flight back to her next destination on Monday. she then started to raise her voice and demanded why i wouldn't be able to talk to her. she asked if i was going to die!!!! what the hell, why would you even say that. then i had 5 seconds to tell her other wise she was going to hang up.....b***h. i told her i couldn't say. it was my last effort to see if she even cared and wanted to work things out, but as i found out her intentions were not to stay with me, but to be a fall to guy. the next thing out of her mouth was "where is the rest of my money". that is unbelievable, i wanted so bad to go off on her. then her mom jumped in and said what she had on her mind. and i really hate when she involves herself into my marriage, i also wanted to sit her in her place to as well. the thing i think with my ex, is she relies on her mom to fix everything for her if its not going her way. so the final conversation i had with my stbxw was about an hour ago. I wanted to sit down with her and have an actual conversation about us. no dodging our situation anymore, laying out all the cards once and for all. using logic instead of emotion so that we do make the best decision for the both of us, and me not being in limbo anymore, wondering and having supressed pain about her and this whole ordeal. in the beggining of this conversation it was almost impossible to get out what i wanted to let her know. she is so intrusive, rude and aggresive. she put me on that ridicoulous second speech again saying i had only 5 seconds before she would hang up. fine! i hope i get it all out then. i asked her if she decided to want to work it out again and try and connect. how would we. we will be in different parts of the states once again, having a long distant marriage. i asked her also if she had any intentions of wanting this to work and she wouldn't say. bingo!!!!!! thats because she had none at all and i was getting strung along for a miserable ride. i even let her know since she leaves on monday and that i'm not going to try and change her mind about turning in the papers to finalize our marriage, to come clean about it. if you were then fine i can handle it, your turning in the papers so what does it matter if you didn't have any intention on working it out with me. sheesh. grow the f*** up please! so it ended with a final goodbye. i hope she finds what she is looking for. its now time to get rid of everything i was suppose to do in febuary. thank you all for everyone of you that read about my situation and put your 2 cents in about what i should do or should think about. i'm finally able to leave this all behind me, and hope to see you guys in different parts of this forum, about more happy things. its not a goodbye but a see you later, everyone.
TrustInYourself Posted July 18, 2008 Posted July 18, 2008 I'm glad to hear you found the strength and conviction to do what was right for your situation. See you later.
dead-dyke Posted July 21, 2008 Posted July 21, 2008 To the OP. I tried deleting this referral to another post, but I was to late. I hope you accept my apologies, there was no intention to add insult to injury. Good luck in your future.
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