Italiangal80 Posted August 3, 2003 Share Posted August 3, 2003 Ok here it goes...Me and my ex were together for 5 years, living together, things weren't going well kinda up and down for the past year... He didn't work for almost 2 years of the end of our relationship and I basically did everything for him. Well to make a long story short while I was at work he cheated on me with a 19 yr old and I am 23 he is 25. He broke up with me on June 10th for this girl and basically threw it in my face I was stuck in his house for 3 weeks and he stayed at her house the whole time, I had to move everything myself and I have a muscle condition called Fibromyalgia, he didn't care one bit. So he booted me and now Im hurting badly just a few weeks before all this happened he said if he had the money he would of bought me an engagement ring. I don't get it. I am so confused, now he got a job and spends all his time with this girl and it seems like when she isn't around he calls me. The day I moved out I gave him a poem I wrote and he said he read it and cryed and realized that he did love me, he told me that the reason he broke up with me was because he wasn't in love with me but he did love me. What does that mean? Please I need some advice I am so confused, I am so in love with this guy I just feel like I am living in a nightmare.....Tammy Link to post Share on other sites
jalexy Posted August 3, 2003 Share Posted August 3, 2003 hes being awful to you. for some reason when the guy is being so mean, we want to swoon. girl, wake up, this guy cheated on you and is a huge meany to you. let him go, move on. i would get a small amount of revenge on him, but that is just immature. but he deserves something- but he will get his eventually. what goes around comes around, jsut remember that. the pain you feel now, he will feel later. Link to post Share on other sites
Tammy070498 Posted August 17, 2003 Share Posted August 17, 2003 Well its been about 2 months since me and my ex have broken up and I have talked to him a couple of times and he keeps saying I love you at the end of each call, can someone tell me why? I want him back so badly and he knows that he also almost came to visit me last week but he has a girlfriend now and he told me he isn't that happy. What the heck is going on.....I am so confused....I have sent him some poems and letters telling him how I feel and I think that is what's doing it....Any ideas anyone. I want him back. Link to post Share on other sites
Curt Posted August 17, 2003 Moderators Share Posted August 17, 2003 If I may be so bold, WHY do you want him back? Curt Link to post Share on other sites
Oxydol Posted August 17, 2003 Share Posted August 17, 2003 Most of us want things that are not good for us and that is the feeling I am getting from your situation. Writing letters and poems is very therapeutic. Continue to do so, but for heaven's sake...STOP sending them to him. Write your thoughts down on paper and put the paper away some place. He's probably enjoying your unreciprocated love, but what are you getting in return? Nothing but confusion and continued heartache. Link to post Share on other sites
Krazee69420 Posted August 25, 2003 Share Posted August 25, 2003 Hey Gurl Trust me I know what you are going through I am going through it myself and we broke up January 1st and don't tell anyone this but I cannot get over my past love although the shoes were on the other feet in my situation I am the one that kicked him out and he still cares and I still do and always will love him...but that is the way life goes it works in all kinds of funny ways. You know you can count on me to be there as a friend hell I see you almost everyday no wait i lied I do see you everyday well gotta run love Mimmy Link to post Share on other sites
Vivid_29 Posted August 30, 2003 Share Posted August 30, 2003 Sweetheart - Just let him go... My Ex told me that she loved me but was not in love anymore. What this means is that your EX still has that emotional bond with you, but the spark is gone. He may not be in love with you anymore but he doesn't totally want you out of his life. Give it time and your heart will heal. I can relate to you because my situation is similiar. Cherish the memories you had with him, but don't hang on too tight. It will only push him away. Stand up to him, show him that you can carry on and he will start to wonder about you. Find an inner passion, something that you really enjoy doing and let time do the rest. I know it's hard but hang in there. Keep in mind that you are not alone and many of us out there are going through the same thing you are going through; We are with you... Though it may be hard to believe, men have feelings too! Most Sincerely, Vivid_29 Link to post Share on other sites
baycityroller Posted August 30, 2003 Share Posted August 30, 2003 You lived together with him for 5 years and the latter 2 years of that period, he didn't even work and there you were, supporting him--and him loving every minute of being enabled to be a lazy, freeloading loser. Why you'd put up with someone who didn't work for 2 years is beyond me but if that's not enough, he cheated on you and then left you on your own to move yourself out; despite your fibromylgia. Give you head a good shake and ask yourself why the hell you'd want a loser like this back? And don't say it's because you "love him" because if you could love someone who $hit all over you like he did, who's now with someone else (the girl he cheated on you with) yet still sneaking around behind her back, communicating with you, then you really need to get your head examined. Stand up for yourself and your honor and get some self respect and love for yourself and tell him to leave you alone. Why would you put up with being someone's doormat? Don't you think any more of yourself? Link to post Share on other sites
0oStaceyo0 Posted February 12, 2006 Share Posted February 12, 2006 I'm in the same situation now, so I'm curious how things are now. Did they get better? or worse? Or are they the same? I would love a new perspective. Link to post Share on other sites
newyorkgirl Posted February 12, 2006 Share Posted February 12, 2006 hey from what i can tell he did you a big favour he sounds like a loser and a freeloader. how dare he tell you he loves you yet he is still with the girl he cheated with and left you to move out on your own. Please honey that is not the kind of love you need. Believe me i know it's hard I'm going through something similar but it will get better i was cheated on in September and he is with the girl he cheated with and is still trying to get back with me threatening suicide etc.... The cheek of it. Saying he loves me but like i said to you how can that be love. And if it is it's not the kind of love that either of us need. Right now you are feeling vulnerable and are clinging on to what you guys had but I really think you should do NO CONTACT. Believe me it works. You are now free to spend YOUR well earned money on yourself and not on some loser who does not even love himself. Time is truly a healer. Cliche i know but it's true and it's probably the last thing you want to hear but it really is. I have been doing no contact since December and I have come along leaps and bounds I believe you will too. Link to post Share on other sites
Outcast Posted February 12, 2006 Share Posted February 12, 2006 I rather doubt she'll be back after three years. Link to post Share on other sites
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