dazed.1 Posted July 18, 2008 Posted July 18, 2008 I am a technical professional working with someone of equal education. He is from a middle eastern counrty so I understand that our social norms are quite different. However, he is very condescending; any thought or idea I have, he immediately deems inadequate, and will come up with his own. I was helping him with a project that he was quite unfamiliar with, I felt what he was doing would not work out, I presented a different (better) idea to him, he said "no". Several monthes later when he was done, our boss saw his work, said what he did was wrong, and told him how it should have been done (which was the way I had suggested). Things like this have happened numerous times in the past, but this was the most damaging to his career. Since then, he has treated me even worse. When I say things now he doesn't just disregard them, he cuts me off before I even finish and just says "no that will not work" without even hearing what I have to say, or thinking about it. I have to work very closely with this person and I am getting very down. I am used to people always liking me and always treating me with respect, I don't really know what to do in this situation. I mean, maybe he isn't sexist, but he is something. The reason I think this is because he never cleans up after himself, always expects me to do it; he always TELLS me to "get this" or "grab that" when usually he is closer, or I am in no better position to get it than he is. At first I didn't think much of that sort of thing, but it continuously happens, and coupled with the condescending attitude, it is just too much. I don't know what steps to take to deal with this. I am very close to my bosses, but I don't want them to think I can't handle working with someone, and also he is very good ( for the most part) at what he does and I wouldn't want to jepordize his situation at all. Has anyone been in a situation like this or have any suggestions about how to deal with a person like this??
whichwayisup Posted July 18, 2008 Posted July 18, 2008 He sees women in one way and that's his way. It's his upbringing and culture.. All you can do is talk to your boss about this and let him handle that guy. Don't change for him, keep helping him and if he can't work with you and give you the respect you deserve as a co-worker, that's his problem. I know it's frustrating though!
Author dazed.1 Posted July 18, 2008 Author Posted July 18, 2008 Yes totally frustrating, and I am starting to feel sick about coming to work and seeing him.
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