HiItsMe Posted July 18, 2008 Posted July 18, 2008 This was kind of a spin off from my previous thread, but is different in a sense that it's more of a variant, but different enough to justify a seperate thread. I'm curious, with all the people (both men AND women) who have turned down people or completely overlooked possibly great opportunities. If they rejected these people (going to have to using the word "people" to refer to BOTH sexes, since people feel at liberty say, "It happens with men/women too, lol)...would the reject them in person? I mean, there's no delete or block key in person, you're actually put in a situation where you have to get to know them, right? I have heard of senarios where a guy bumped into said women that rejected him online, only for her tos how interest in him in person! Go figure! Because, in a sense, you're forced into a situation where you have to get to know them. See their mannerisms, their body language, and so on. Am I right on this?
tanbark813 Posted July 18, 2008 Posted July 18, 2008 I think there's some truth to that. I once was emailing a girl on an online dating site and one day she just stopped responding. I kind of forgot about her until a month later she recognized me out at a bar. We started talking and ended up dating for a little bit. I also think that people are generally more attractive in person than in pics too, probably for the reasons you listed: mannerisms, body language, etc...
jadedone Posted July 18, 2008 Posted July 18, 2008 I'll agree to an extent. Some women have pics online where you only see their face, and the face gives the impression they may be fat, and added to that they list their body type as just "average". Unless I see a body shot that proves they are not fat, I won't bother. Some may just have full cheeks, but good bodies, but unless I see it or they list themselves as thin, then I will never know.
kizik Posted July 18, 2008 Posted July 18, 2008 Online dating is Fake Dating. Every aspect of it is controlled and manipulated. It is very unreal. Now, on the other end of dating, when you meet someone somewhere, sure you can be all dressed up. But most factors are random. If you're a good person, if they're a good person, these things are going to show immediately through your conversation. How people act spontaneously and without preparation and pretense really shows their true character.
tanbark813 Posted July 18, 2008 Posted July 18, 2008 Online dating is Fake Dating. Every aspect of it is controlled and manipulated. It is very unreal. Now, on the other end of dating, when you meet someone somewhere, sure you can be all dressed up. But most factors are random. If you're a good person, if they're a good person, these things are going to show immediately through your conversation. How people act spontaneously and without preparation and pretense really shows their true character. It takes a long time to really get to know someone. A few dates, regardless of how you met that person initially, is not going to reveal someone's true character.
kizik Posted July 18, 2008 Posted July 18, 2008 Right, I hear you. My point is that real time face-to-face interactions show a hell of a lot more truth than pre-planned online profile stuff.
Shygirl15 Posted July 18, 2008 Posted July 18, 2008 Online dating is Fake Dating. Every aspect of it is controlled and manipulated. It is very unreal. Now, on the other end of dating, when you meet someone somewhere, sure you can be all dressed up. But most factors are random. If you're a good person, if they're a good person, these things are going to show immediately through your conversation. How people act spontaneously and without preparation and pretense really shows their true character. I'm sorry you had such a bad experience, but do not generalize that online dating is bad, because of your personal experience. I have met such wonderful men online, whom I would have never, ever met in real life. I met with so many wonderful, classy, professional guys of all races from this experience. The challenge from online dating is to establish a connection with a guy, I think. Many of the ones I met ended being platonic friends. After you use it long enough, you get to know how to weed them out. I'm not sure which cheap/free site you used that gave you such bad experience.
Lookingforward Posted July 18, 2008 Posted July 18, 2008 Online IS the 'real world' - that's your problem.........this division between "online' and "real' is ridiculous
woods321 Posted July 18, 2008 Posted July 18, 2008 Online dating gives people the false illusion that they will find the "one"as there are so many to pick from right at their fingertips! However it turns most into serial daters/cheaters. Meeting someone used to mean something. It was serendipitous. Rare. Special. It took effort. So, you were much more interested in this person, and gave them more time. Online dating allows you to connect with hundreds of men/women a day. After a date, you can go back home and talk to the other 20 you haven't met yet, or search for 20 more. Or see who else contacted you. It is EXTREMELY difficult to concentrate on one person, especially if they are not "perfect" enough. Men can have sex with a completely different type of woman everyday. Women can be ultra picky seeking taller, wealthier, funnier, better looking etc. Is it good? It is horrible. If it was so good, it seems there should not be any single online daters. Less people are in relationships now than prior to the advent of online dating.
DunnoWhat Posted July 19, 2008 Posted July 19, 2008 It is what it is. It has it's good points and bad points. No matter how you meet people doesn't really matter. The point is you meet them and you'll have to get to know them some way. You'll find out eventually what they are like.
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