More "guy weekend" b.s.

[Star Gazer]

Why are there so many people who they themselves live in glass houses throwing stones at the OP ?

 

The glass house of selfish, bratty, controlling behavior? I only see one such house on this thread, and it's the one the OP is living in.

[bish]

I still wanna know if LB got some twigs and berries in her face at the local strip club!!!

[Trialbyfire]

Okay. As elected judge I declare Lauriebell the winner of this race. This filly is now showing class and form, in my judicial opinion. And as elected judge, my decision is final.

In order for you to become an elected official, you'll need more than one voter.

[Star Gazer]

Did you take my leopard print bonnet, SG? I bet you look hot in animal skin.

 

RAWR!!!! Or should I say, PRRRRR....

 

Either way, I need to go on a bonnet-spree. I wonder if Marc Jacobs has a new one this season...

 

SG, get back here. No, you're not running out to the store to buy everyone take-out.

 

But we're hungry! Where are you hiding our bottles?! Or are you gonna give us the tit?

[Trialbyfire]

You are showing petulance. You need to lay off LB, she is a nicer person than the rest of you combined. Shadowplay was right with her posts.

 

You are acting like a toddler who wants chocolate buttons.

I'm just displaying like behaviour. As for shadowplay...I've decided to give her a mini decoder ring, to zero in on her conspiracy theories.

[Touche]

Okay. As elected judge I declare Lauriebell the winner of this race. This filly is now showing class and form, in my judicial opinion. And as elected judge, my decision is final.

 

Have you ever held this position before? You don't seem very experienced to me. Hmmm...we'll have to elect a new judge I think.

[luvmy2ns]

RAWR!!!! Or should I say, PRRRRR....

 

Either way, I need to go on a bonnet-spree. I wonder if Marc Jacobs has a new one this season...

 

 

 

But we're hungry! Where are you hiding our bottles?! Or are you gonna give us the tit?

 

No, apparently we're all having "chocolate buttons" whatever the hell those are. Is that some sort of sexual reference?

[Star Gazer]

You are showing petulance. You need to lay off LB, she is a nicer person than the rest of you combined. Shadowplay was right with her posts.

 

You are acting like a toddler who wants chocolate buttons.

 

Imitiation is the most sincere form of flattery. LB should consider herself complimented.

[Star Gazer]

I'm just displaying like behaviour. As for shadowplay...I've decided to give her a mini decoder ring, to zero in on her conspiracy theories.

 

You just made me tinkle a little.

 

Damnit, now I need a diaper too. Touche, got any Depends?

[Touche]

RAWR!!!! Or should I say, PRRRRR....

 

Either way, I need to go on a bonnet-spree. I wonder if Marc Jacobs has a new one this season...

 

 

 

But we're hungry! Where are you hiding our bottles?! Or are you gonna give us the tit?

 

:laugh: tit? You'd go hungry if I did that!

 

Ok, here's your bottle. Now get back in the race!

[Touche]

You just made me tinkle a little.

 

Damnit, now I need a diaper too. Touche, got any Depends?

 

Hey! Why are you asking ME?

 

It depends.

 

Luv! chocolate buttons and "sexual reference?":laugh:

 

I don't get it.

[Taramere]

Have you ever held this position before? You don't seem very experienced to me. Hmmm...we'll have to elect a new judge I think.

 

I would imagine that Tony will be electing himself for that position. I'm trying, as nicely as I can, to offer people an opportunity to save a bit of face...because quite frankly I'm seeing some women who are normally intelligent and reasonable behaving like bullies. It's pretty unpleasant to watch - and before anyone blames LB, it would seem to me that she chose to depart from this particular drama triangle some time ago. You guys are keeping it going on your own. What the hell is wrong with you all today?

[Star Gazer]

You are a Mean Girl.

 

You finally caught on?

 

[Star Gazer]

I would imagine that Tony will be electing himself for that position. I'm trying, as nicely as I can, to offer people an opportunity to save a bit of face...because quite frankly I'm seeing some women who are normally intelligent and reasonable behaving like bullies. It's pretty unpleasant to watch - and before anyone blames LB, it would seem to me that she chose to depart from this particular drama triangle some time ago. You guys are keeping it going on your own. What the hell is wrong with you all today?

 

Are we still acting like bullies by picking and mocking each other? Really? Would you like to join the race, Tara?

 

We'll take it to the OT then... Ladies, shall we?

[Touche]

I would imagine that Tony will be electing himself for that position. I'm trying, as nicely as I can, to offer people an opportunity to save a bit of face...because quite frankly I'm seeing some women who are normally intelligent and reasonable behaving like bullies. It's pretty unpleasant to watch - and before anyone blames LB, it would seem to me that she chose to depart from this particular drama triangle some time ago. You guys are keeping it going on your own. What the hell is wrong with you all today?

 

Wow. Someone woke up on the wrong side of the bed today.

 

Who stole your fabulous sense of humor? We're not even talking about LB. All is well in her world now. The thread has run it's course. We've lightened things up in case you hadn't noticed.

 

Oh and my face doesn't need saving but thanks for trying. If I ever want to save it, I'll do it myself. You're a dear for trying though.:)

[Trialbyfire]

I would imagine that Tony will be electing himself for that position. I'm trying, as nicely as I can, to offer people an opportunity to save a bit of face...because quite frankly I'm seeing some women who are normally intelligent and reasonable behaving like bullies. It's pretty unpleasant to watch - and before anyone blames LB, it would seem to me that she chose to depart from this particular drama triangle some time ago. You guys are keeping it going on your own. What the hell is wrong with you all today?

Before you call everyone on the carpet, perhaps you should also review your own behaviour. In order to understand a situation better, perhaps some back checking on the OPs threads might have given you some insight into this thread, particularly since you believe that some of the posters are normally intelligent and reasonable.

[Art_Critic]

WTF are you talking about? I'm not asking for recognition. Go back, read and comprehend.

 

Hey TBF.. I wasn't singling you out in my post and wasn't pointing my finger at you.. Sorry..

I didn't mean for my post to make people start on other posters..

 

I was merely trying to be non descriptive so I didn't name any posters but trying to call an end to the OP bashing..

The posts stopped being supportive of her cause about 10 pages ago...

[Trialbyfire]

Hey TBF.. I wasn't singling you out in my post and wasn't pointing my finger at you.. Sorry..

I didn't mean for my post to make people start on other posters..

 

I was merely trying to be non descriptive so I didn't name any posters but trying to call an end to the OP bashing..

The posts stopped being supportive of her cause about 10 pages ago...

Okay, understood. I appreciate the clarification.

[Ariadne]

It's interesting that he has commented several times on the fact that I went out with my freind to a bar. He has jokingly asked if guys were hitting on me at the bar, and he said that considering how extremely hot I am he "couldn't blame them." Not trying to analyze or anything, just thought it interesting that I think he may have some insecurity issues of his own to deal with.

 

Ah... I figured he'd have an issue with that.

 

Now he is trying to pull her tongue with the "how extremely hot I am he couldn't blame them" comment.

 

It is not insecurity, he wants to know what happened. And how was it that she "had a blast" at the bar.

[Taramere]

Are we still acting like bullies by picking and mocking each other? Really? Would you like to join the race, Tara?

 

We'll take it to the OT then... Ladies, shall we?

 

Star, you pride yourself on directness, but as far as I can see you restrict it to your tough love posturings with vulnerable, not-part-of-any-clique posters who have the temerity to admit to insecurity and problems in their relationships. This comment of yours strikes me as being full of the type of evasive bitchiness and passive aggression that you're so fond of accusing other posters of using.

 

I don't dislike you. I don't know you, and I haven't had that much in the way of dealings with you, either as Taramere or under my old username, so I don't have feelings either way. But I keep seeing you picking away at certain female board members. You go over the top with it and you seem bent on encouraging other female posters in on the action.

 

In real life, if a client doesn't trust you or the advice you give, what do you do? Do you lecture them about it and tell them they have issues? That they can't handle anything other than constant validation and enabling? Or do you simply bow out and say "if you don't have confidence in me, I can't advise or act for you further..."

 

It's counter-productive to berate people for not trusting you. If other people finding it hard to trust you is so upsetting that you have to nag at and humiliate them as a punishment - or accuse them of having every issue/using every defence mechanism in the book, then that's a reliable sign that you haven't developed the patience, maturity or emotional detachment to be an effective helper.

 

Before you call everyone on the carpet, perhaps you should also review your own behaviour

 

I always do..and I know I say and do plenty of wrong things. Other than initially joining in the OT banter in the misguided belief that it was an attempt to defuse the unpleasantness (and, no doubt, dragging things out with this post) I'm not seeing the problem with my behaviour on this thread. If there's something you want to point out, that's fine - but I'll keep any further responses for PM to avoid it going on forever.

 

Who stole your fabulous sense of humor?

 

I don't laugh on group command, Touche. I laugh when I think something's genuinely funny.

[Ocean-Blue]

Star, you pride yourself on directness, but as far as I can see you restrict it to your tough love posturings with vulnerable, not-part-of-any-clique posters who have the temerity to admit to insecurity and problems in their relationships. This comment of yours strikes me as being full of the type of evasive bitchiness and passive aggression that you're so fond of accusing other posters of using.

 

I don't dislike you. I don't know you, and I haven't had that much in the way of dealings with you, either as Taramere or under my old username, so I don't have feelings either way. But I keep seeing you picking away at certain female board members. You go over the top with it and you seem bent on encouraging other female posters in on the action.

 

In real life, if a client doesn't trust you or the advice you give, what do you do? Do you lecture them about it and tell them they have issues? That they can't handle anything other than constant validation and enabling? Or do you simply bow out and say "if you don't have confidence in me, I can't advise or act for you further..."

 

It's counter-productive to berate people for not trusting you. If other people finding it hard to trust you is so upsetting that you have to nag at and humiliate them as a punishment - or accuse them of having every issue/using every defence mechanism in the book, then that's a reliable sign that you haven't developed the patience, maturity or emotional detachment to be an effective helper.

 

 

 

I always do..and I know I say and do plenty of wrong things. Other than initially joining in the OT banter in the misguided belief that it was an attempt to defuse the unpleasantness (and, no doubt, dragging things out with this post) I'm not seeing the problem with my behaviour on this thread. If there's something you want to point out, that's fine - but I'll keep any further responses for PM to avoid it going on forever.

 

 

 

I don't laugh on group command, Touche. I laugh when I think something's genuinely funny.

 

Excellent post.

[Lishy]

::Applause:: @ Taramere!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

I think the 'tough love' administered to LB on this thread has been disgusting!

 

She has been bullied, berated, nagged at, shouted at, put down and called names and all by the people who throw their toys out of the pram at any hint of negativity towards themselves!

 

I have followed all of LB's threads and there was absolutely no need for what you all did and then you have the outright audacity to say it is out of love, well that is funny! You do not even know her let alone love her.

 

However you try to dress it up, it still smacks of bullying. How dare you all tell her what she is and what she HAS to do! All we are here for is to share our experience and give the OP food for thought, not to act like god!

 

One word ...... jealousy!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

I will not name names as you all know who you are and I have one thing to say .... People in glass houses shouldn't throw stones!!!!!!!!!!!

 

Remember that for future reference!

[Trialbyfire]

Hey, I'll bet everyone went back and read everything, so they know everything there is to know about the OP and how this thread got to where it ended up!! After reading everything, I'm sure that's why they came to the conclusions they did!

 

It truly amazes me that 99% of the bandwagon jumpers don't have a clue about the situation. But that's okay. I look forward to reading all the help they will provide the OP in the next year so her relationship can continue growing and flourishing! I'm sure that validation of the OPs position will really help! On the otherhand, if the OP hasn't learned anything from the past year and continues down her path, perhaps what will happen should have been allowed to happen.

 

Relationships have pivotal points in time. Let's see how this one pivots. It will be an interesting exercise in dignified stance v. actually caring enough to continue helping.

 

Btw, speaking of glass houses, people really should review their own jealousies/harboured resentments/agendas and try not to drag them into other peoples' threads. It really is getting old and boring.

[Touche]

I don't laugh on group command, Touche. I laugh when I think something's genuinely funny.

 

Then don't laugh. I guess it's more fun to sit on one's high horse and berate people's posting styles.

 

I don't even see what the big issue is here. LB said it's been all resolved to her satisfaction now.

 

No one can expect to put their issues out there and have only certain kinds of responses. And to me, that's the beauty of LS.

 

When and if I need help with something I fully expect to get all kinds of people with all kinds of experiences responding...whatever their tone.

 

I'd be disappointed with anything less than that. I'd want the unvarnished truth. Of course I'd appreciate the "there, there" responses a bit too.

 

Sugar makes the medicine go down and all that jazz.

 

Anyway, I just don't see where all this outrage is coming from.

 

Again I say, much ado about nothing.

[Touche]

::Applause:: @ Taramere!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

I think the 'tough love' administered to LB on this thread has been disgusting!

 

She has been bullied, berated, nagged at, shouted at, put down and called names and all by the people who throw their toys out of the pram at any hint of negativity towards themselves!

 

I have followed all of LB's threads and there was absolutely no need for what you all did and then you have the outright audacity to say it is out of love, well that is funny! You do not even know her let alone love her.

 

However you try to dress it up, it still smacks of bullying. How dare you all tell her what she is and what she HAS to do! All we are here for is to share our experience and give the OP food for thought, not to act like god!

 

One word ...... jealousy!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

I will not name names as you all know who you are and I have one thing to say .... People in glass houses shouldn't throw stones!!!!!!!!!!!

 

Remember that for future reference!

 

Wow. We all bullied and berated? I didn't see that.