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Hello All,

 

Well I have reached an understanding and made peace about a few things. I realise now that our relationship was doomed from the get go because my Ex had very serious trust issues that had nothing to do with me. Of course, when you have trust issues it always has to do with yourself and not the other person. I realise now, that I was always just one mistake away from him breaking up with me at all times, that's no way for me to live or for him. Honestly, I hope he comes to terms with his trust issues or he will just continue hurting himself if he doesn't. Either way, I've come face to face with the big dragon now and I at least have an answer. Now, it's time to just work on me, that is the only person I can be responsible for.

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:) It's time to learn how to be happy on our own. Like the way it used to be.
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it's strange, four months on..i'm starting to remember that i'm quite pretty actually!

 

i feel like i kind of forgot for 4 months. i just have felt really ugly and have felt ugly when i looked in the mirror.

 

but i've been buying some new clothes and stuff..and yesteray i was just messing about with make up and i looked in the mirror and i kind of looked how i used to look before everything..and looked quite good..it was really weird!

 

i feel like i've kind of forgotten who i am a bit! though i probably seem the same to everyone else.

 

it's really strange isn't it.

 

xx

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oops i just posted that to the wrong thread, sorry

xx

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Honestly, I hope he comes to terms with his trust issues or he will just continue hurting himself if he doesn't. Either way, I've come face to face with the big dragon now and I at least have an answer. Now, it's time to just work on me, that is the only person I can be responsible for.

 

I know how you feel. My ex was even jealous of girlfriends before I even met her. She was even jealous of a trip I went on with one of my girlfriends a long time ago. Hey, she asked, I answered. It's very hard having a relationship with someone who has trust issues. Nothing you ever do will make them feel comfortable and there's a very good chance that they'll just keep bouncing from one person to the next because they're so insecure. I think, at least in my case, they end up causing relationship suicide with their trust issues and almost want it to fail because they think it won't work anyway.

 

I hope too that he gets through this and has more confidence. It will be impossible to have a long lasting relationship if you can't trust anyone. And you're doing the right thing. Learn to be alone right now and get to know yourself.

 

-Just

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