bish Posted July 22, 2008 Posted July 22, 2008 Why? If you don't mind my asking... Because I don't do drugs, I don't have a felon for a girlfriend, and I don't ignore my kids because I'd rather spend time with a significant other. that and the fact that I love them and they mean everything to me doesn't hurt.
Lizzie60 Posted July 22, 2008 Posted July 22, 2008 Because I don't do drugs, I don't have a felon for a girlfriend, and I don't ignore my kids because I'd rather spend time with a significant other. that and the fact that I love them and they mean everything to me doesn't hurt. ha-hem... I think you misunderstood the question..
luvmy2ns Posted July 22, 2008 Posted July 22, 2008 Because I don't do drugs, I don't have a felon for a girlfriend, and I don't ignore my kids because I'd rather spend time with a significant other. that and the fact that I love them and they mean everything to me doesn't hurt. You said they are better off WITHOUT you.
bish Posted July 22, 2008 Posted July 22, 2008 Why? If you don't mind my asking... Sorry, again, typing faster than thinking. They are better off WITH me.
Virgo1982 Posted July 22, 2008 Posted July 22, 2008 yes, it is. her interests went from being a mother who doesn't break the law or do drugs, to doing those things and hanging with other people that do them. And since I no longer did them, I guess i was just a stick in the mud. That's how you changed. You cleaned up your act and she rolled around in the mud.
luvmy2ns Posted July 22, 2008 Posted July 22, 2008 Sorry, again, typing fast than thinking. They are better off WITH me. Damn right they are! Fight for 'em Bish! With the circumstances, you have a good chance of winning. And the money you currently pay their mother toward support would actually go to your children rather than their mom's partying habits.
bish Posted July 22, 2008 Posted July 22, 2008 That's how you changed. You cleaned up your act and she rolled around in the mud. And you didn't see the follow up post where I said I worded it wrong. I never did drugs and I meant that I no longer did the same things she was into because SHE started doing them.
Lyssa Posted July 22, 2008 Posted July 22, 2008 Sorry, again, typing faster than thinking. They are better off WITH me. Thought so!!
bish Posted July 22, 2008 Posted July 22, 2008 Damn right they are! Fight for 'em Bish! With the circumstances, you have a good chance of winning. And the money you currently pay their mother toward support would actually go to your children rather than their mom's partying habits. Not according to my attorney and he is a ruthless bulldog. Believe me, with this guy, if he thought it would do any good, he'd advice me to go after them. He told me that her living with someone undesirable, even someone with a record, is not enough to get the kids away from the mother. Fathers get the shaft, period. He said that he has no doubt that if she stays with him that it will only be a matter of time before SHE $#%'s up and then I can go for the throat. But that doesn't make me feel good in the meantime.
Virgo1982 Posted July 22, 2008 Posted July 22, 2008 And you didn't see the follow up post where I said I worded it wrong. I never did drugs and I meant that I no longer did the same things she was into because SHE started doing them. Well, I guess that makes you a victim. Hope you don't become a victim again.
bish Posted July 22, 2008 Posted July 22, 2008 Thought so!! What can I say, I type 80+ words a minute. but with errors...
bish Posted July 22, 2008 Posted July 22, 2008 Well, I guess that makes you a victim. Hope you don't become a victim again. ya, I'm sure thats EXACTLY how you feel.
luvmy2ns Posted July 22, 2008 Posted July 22, 2008 Not according to my attorney and he is a ruthless bulldog. Believe me, with this guy, if he thought it would do any good, he'd advice me to go after them. He told me that her living with someone undesirable, even someone with a record, is not enough to get the kids away from the mother. Fathers get the shaft, period. He said that he has no doubt that if she stays with him that it will only be a matter of time before SHE $#%'s up and then I can go for the throat. But that doesn't make me feel good in the meantime. Wow. That's just wrong. Things have progressed more where I live now and where I moved from 5 years ago. I hope something not too bad happens soon, but bad enough that you can make your case in court to get your kids.
bish Posted July 22, 2008 Posted July 22, 2008 Wow. That's just wrong. Things have progressed more where I live now and where I moved from 5 years ago. I hope something not too bad happens soon, but bad enough that you can make your case in court to get your kids. I hope nothing bad happens. I don't want my kids in hell just so I can get custody.
Virgo1982 Posted July 22, 2008 Posted July 22, 2008 ya, I'm sure thats EXACTLY how you feel. I do hope you don't become a victim again, which is why I was trying to offer a different view. But you want to be a victim. So, what's the problem.
luvmy2ns Posted July 22, 2008 Posted July 22, 2008 I hope nothing bad happens. I don't want my kids in hell just so I can get custody. Sometimes you can discover something bad enough that the kids haven't been affected by - yet. Keep your eyes and ears open!
bish Posted July 22, 2008 Posted July 22, 2008 I do hope you don't become a victim again, which is why I was trying to offer a different view. But you want to be a victim. So, what's the problem. the problem is I am not a victim and your post was nothing but sarcasm pretending that you actually believe what you said. The day I stopped being a victim was the day I filed for divorce.
Virgo1982 Posted July 22, 2008 Posted July 22, 2008 the problem is I am not a victim and your post was nothing but sarcasm pretending that you actually believe what you said. The day I stopped being a victim was the day I filed for divorce. No you're a victim. She just did a complete 180 out of the blue.
silktricks Posted July 22, 2008 Posted July 22, 2008 No you're a victim. She just did a complete 180 out of the blue. No - he WAS a victim. He took care of himself and left. He's not a victim any longer.
Virgo1982 Posted July 22, 2008 Posted July 22, 2008 the problem is I am not a victim and your post was nothing but sarcasm pretending that you actually believe what you said. The day I stopped being a victim was the day I filed for divorce. Not true. I did try to offer a different perspective. You never once thought, "how stupid was I to marry her?" I know I've had that thought at some point before I got over a relationship. That, or I shouldn't have done blah, blah. Something to learn, grow and move forward to make lemonade.
Virgo1982 Posted July 22, 2008 Posted July 22, 2008 No - he WAS a victim. He took care of himself and left. He's not a victim any longer. He was a victim of himself the day he chose to marry her IMO. I just don't see someone doing a complete 180 with a personality like that. Oh well. Let's agree to disagree.
bish Posted July 22, 2008 Posted July 22, 2008 Not true. I did try to offer a different perspective. You never once thought, "how stupid was I to marry her?" Thats because she hadn't done that 180 til after we were married...about a year after.
Virgo1982 Posted July 22, 2008 Posted July 22, 2008 Thats because she hadn't done that 180 til after we were married...about a year after. In one year? Like I said. Let's agree to disagree.
bish Posted July 22, 2008 Posted July 22, 2008 He was a victim of himself the day he chose to marry her IMO. I just don't see someone doing a complete 180 with a personality like that. Oh well. Let's agree to disagree. No, I'll agree that I was correct that you were simply pretending that you actually cared. You told me she did a 180, now you are saying you don't see someone doing a 180 in a sitch like this.
luvmy2ns Posted July 22, 2008 Posted July 22, 2008 Some people are VERY good at portraying whatever persona they want to put forth for a loooong period of time.
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