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It has been 8 months since my 3 year relationship ended....I was fine with the mutual break up when it happened, we stayed great friends (stupid me) and then he started seeing someone else....and i realised I still loved him and asked him to give us another go...he said no, I don't feel that way about you any more, as well as saying "I think I'll always feel this way, we might get back together in a few months or years" ...very confussing. but at that point I just thought bleh I am not going to make an effort to win you back, if you wanted me you would have me.

so we stopped talking for 2 months and then I bumped into him and was very calm and asked him how he was etc.... then went home and cried a lot :)

then saw him a few days later at a joint friends house (didn't know he would turn up) he just didn't make an effort to talk to me and was very off, which upset me again.

 

we have the same friends and he was at the pub again tonight, we just don't even look at each other any more.

 

He was sitting with a girl and it made me feel really horrible. Will this feeling EVER GO!?

has anyone ever gotten over someone they really didn't think they could?

 

I am keeping myself really busy and definately becoming stronger against it, but really really worried I will always fancy him and feel wierd to see him with someone else.

sigh

Habibti Established Member

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Yes, I have gotten over people I thought I never would SEVERAL times. It has taught me something, DON'T hang on, that's what prolongs the process. You will move forward with your life when your ready to leave emotionally.

replicator Established Member

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I initially replied in this thread by accident, but I'll share some of my thoughts.

 

In time you'll get over him. It would be easier for you if you didn't run into him - but you need to convince yourself that it is over. You can't hang onto hope, otherwise as Habibti says, it'll prolong the process.

 

Trust me.. You will get over him.

 

I felt the same away about my ex. I NEVER thought I'd be able to let her go - but I have. If he doesn't appreciate you for who you are, and all that you can be, you need to reject him.

 

Read this blog by Susan Elliot, on loving someone who doesn't love you. It helped me a lot, hopefully it will help you too.

 

http://gettingpastyourpast.wordpress.com/2007/12/29/1229-tftd-when-the-person-you-love-doesnt-love-you/

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