CFFCROCK Posted July 17, 2008 Posted July 17, 2008 Alright well I'm 21 and the girl is 19. We met like two months ago and right away hit it off. Things were so perfect, though I think we rushed into things such as having sex after a week and then she told me she loved me only after a month. The problem is she lives 7 hours a way. She is only here for the summer and told me that she still isn't over her ex but they don't talk anymore. So we continued and things were looking perfect until about two weeks ago. I started asking about what is gonna happen when she goes back to school and she seemed to be bothered by it. Well the last two weeks she has been really distant and I could tell she wanted space so I gave it to her. I stopped calling and texting and let her intiate all contact. Well she was leavin for the airport today to go back home for a week and then coming back here. She stopped by my house which is out of the way. We talked and she told me that me not talking to her for the last two weeks had really pushed her away and that her feelings for me had changed. She wouldn't even kiss me but was all over me told me that It would hurt her too much to kiss me before she left. She told me to just start calling her and texting her bc she thought my feelings for her had changed since I stopped all contact. I told her that I felt like I had been being played the whole time and she got real upset about the whole thing and told me her feelings were genuine. So I'm really confused. Why would it hurt her to kiss me before she left, or when I told her I felt like i was played. Why would she come visit me before she left? Why does she want me to contact her more if she supposively has lost some of the spark? So many questions and no obvious answers is tearin me up. She told me she loved me and blew me a kiss before she left. I do love this girl I know I do bc when I saw her today for the first time in two weeks it all came back. Just don't if i should fight for her or just let her go. Sometimes its hard not to think the whole thing is too far gone.
kizik Posted July 17, 2008 Posted July 17, 2008 Here's the one and only thing you can do. Nothing else will "work" or solve your heartbreak but this one thing: Let her go. It doesn't matter how you feel, she is not into you anymore for whatever reason. She has checked out. Let her go. It hurts, but you're young and will find someone new in no time. It's over, she is gone and you must let her go. Do not contact her again. If she contacts you, ignore her. She did play you, she hurt you, and you are allowed to hurt her through your silence.
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