roghornio Posted July 18, 2008 Posted July 18, 2008 I regret it though mate. I regret doing that a lot – not so much anymore but that ran through my head for months after. I dunno why I didn’t just sit her down and talk it out. Too late now. Will never make that mistake again. I thought I would be ok with it ending when I thought abou tit at the time… Man, you really don’t know what you have till it’s gone.
Peter_pan Posted July 18, 2008 Posted July 18, 2008 yeah i know that feeling. i realized what i had when it was too late and it slipped away, with nothing i could do about it. i have learnt ALOT from her and being in a serious re and what it takes. its not easy
Nevermind Posted July 18, 2008 Posted July 18, 2008 So, you broke up with her and she told you that you had been perfect for her? What's so cowardly about it?
roghornio Posted July 18, 2008 Posted July 18, 2008 Because she didn’t mean it? If I was so perfect then I would’nt be where I am now. It’s a line – something to make her feel better – or that’s how I took it. It’s a – “it’s not you, it’s me “ kind of thing. I tried on numerous occasions to get back with her and never once did she say she was up for it. I was perfect – but not perfect enough obviously.
Nevermind Posted July 18, 2008 Posted July 18, 2008 Well, you broke up with her. That is the same as saying "you're not good enough for me" in most cases. So why should she take you back? Maybe she meant it at that time, but accepted that for you it was different and moved on? Why would she try to make you feel better when you broke up? Sorry, I just don't get it. *confused*
roghornio Posted July 18, 2008 Posted July 18, 2008 Before I said that to her I asked her several times if she wanted to meet up and she just made excuses for why she couldn’t. One night she said she would call and she didn’t so I called her and she just sounded cold, like she didn’t want to talk to me so adding all this up I said look if you want out go for it… and she said yeah, I need to do one thing at a time, I think your perfect, I hope you understand. What any of that meant or means I dunno. And that was about it. I asked her several times to meet up and she would say yes, soon.. or she would ask to meet up with me and if I said a time or date she would say she was busy or what not – about 3 or 4 weeks later I asked her if she wanted to meet up and she said fine, but I only want to be friends. Pretty clear to me!!!
Author ioncebelieved Posted July 18, 2008 Author Posted July 18, 2008 I do believe that a relationship can end even though there's love in it. It takes more than love for a relationship to work so I think the "I will always love you" can have some truth to it. That is the truest statement I have heard in a while. You are absolutely right in saying a relationship can end when there is LOVE in it!!! I doubt very seriously that mine stopped loving me and her saying I will always love you was an honest answer. Regardless what cowardly act they did and what they said, KEEP BELIEVING the GREAT things said were TRUE!! I will always believe mine wanted it to work, but it was kind of hard leaving a 19 year marriage. In my defense, she lied in the beginning and said separated. As time goes on, our ex's will regret doing and saying what they did!! If they do not, NOTHING wrong with us, but something seriously wrong with them... Because we are great, we are special and WE are important. Their loss indeed!!!!!!!!!!!
orangehose Posted July 19, 2008 Posted July 19, 2008 Every time ive dumped someone ive ran a mile, never got in touch with them ever again and certainly never said anything that might make them think otherwise. So why other people choose to say it I will never know. Hey, just curious about the 'ran a mile every time i've dumped someone' thing, because my ex basically dumped me and ran a mile, and i have no idea why. I've made no effort to contact him since the moment of dumping, it's been months, and he refuses to greet me when i run into him in the street. you would think he'd have gotten the idea from months of NC that i'm not begging for him back. Is it because of the general awkwardness / guilt of running into someone you had to do something unpleasant but necessary to? Or because you didn't want to send the ex an ambivalent message by being friendly? Anyway it is just a bit of a curiosity for me...
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