foolednm Posted July 18, 2008 Posted July 18, 2008 Hey man, good for you if you two are really happy, but has she expressed remorse for her actions? Has she changed? Or are you just glad to be banging her again? What happens when she decides the grass is greener again? You can't just ignore your gf running away with another man for a month. This is what I have thought about. What if, by some miracle, my ex wanted to come back, after all she has done, what would I do. Okay, I want her but can I really accept her back after she just dumped me, treated me like total sh*t everytime I tried to talk to her and get her to try again? What about all the mean, hurtful things she said, over and over again? What about all the "it's none of your business" answers she gave me when I asked questions? Would I be so happy to have her back knowing some other guy has been in there and left his junk? How can I really want that after someone else has had it and used and abused it? Then you worry about her comparing him with me...how can you deal with that? Then you wonder what they did, before, during and after he had your woman. Did she do all those wonderful things that you loved...with him, or to him? Are you okay with that? Yes, I want her, and I still stupidly love her. But after all that crap, I really don't think I can deal with all these things. I think I would end up thinking so much about it and not being able to trust her again or believe what she tells me about "that" relationship with that guy. I would probably end up dumping her because of all that she did. So, I guess it's just better, and probably much easier, to just not go back and try to get over her. Any advice to help make it easier?? I just need to move on without her in my life. I can never trust her again. I sure as hell couldn't trust her with my heart again.
Peter_pan Posted July 18, 2008 Posted July 18, 2008 This is what I have thought about. What if, by some miracle, my ex wanted to come back, after all she has done, what would I do. Okay, I want her but can I really accept her back after she just dumped me, treated me like total sh*t everytime I tried to talk to her and get her to try again? What about all the mean, hurtful things she said, over and over again? What about all the "it's none of your business" answers she gave me when I asked questions? Would I be so happy to have her back knowing some other guy has been in there and left his junk? How can I really want that after someone else has had it and used and abused it? Then you worry about her comparing him with me...how can you deal with that? Then you wonder what they did, before, during and after he had your woman. Did she do all those wonderful things that you loved...with him, or to him? Are you okay with that? Yes, I want her, and I still stupidly love her. But after all that crap, I really don't think I can deal with all these things. I think I would end up thinking so much about it and not being able to trust her again or believe what she tells me about "that" relationship with that guy. I would probably end up dumping her because of all that she did. So, I guess it's just better, and probably much easier, to just not go back and try to get over her. Any advice to help make it easier?? I just need to move on without her in my life. I can never trust her again. I sure as hell couldn't trust her with my heart again. once you cant trust them.... plus him banging her will always be on your mind. its easier being with a new girl knowing that she has obviously slept with other guys than knowing your ex with "you know who". exactly man i too have realized it is easier to move on as apposed to backwards really. once the cat is out the bag.... its hard but in the long run it will all make sense x and my advice man after last night would be, get out there !! there are so many hot girls its unreal. and i live in a small town lol
v33 Posted July 18, 2008 Posted July 18, 2008 Hey man, good for you if you two are really happy, but has she expressed remorse for her actions? Has she changed? Or are you just glad to be banging her again? What happens when she decides the grass is greener again? You can't just ignore your gf running away with another man for a month. This is what I have thought about. What if, by some miracle, my ex wanted to come back, after all she has done, what would I do. Okay, I want her but can I really accept her back after she just dumped me, treated me like total sh*t everytime I tried to talk to her and get her to try again? What about all the mean, hurtful things she said, over and over again? What about all the "it's none of your business" answers she gave me when I asked questions? Would I be so happy to have her back knowing some other guy has been in there and left his junk? How can I really want that after someone else has had it and used and abused it? Then you worry about her comparing him with me...how can you deal with that? Then you wonder what they did, before, during and after he had your woman. Did she do all those wonderful things that you loved...with him, or to him? Are you okay with that? Yes, I want her, and I still stupidly love her. But after all that crap, I really don't think I can deal with all these things. I think I would end up thinking so much about it and not being able to trust her again or believe what she tells me about "that" relationship with that guy. I would probably end up dumping her because of all that she did. So, I guess it's just better, and probably much easier, to just not go back and try to get over her. Any advice to help make it easier?? I just need to move on without her in my life. I can never trust her again. I sure as hell couldn't trust her with my heart again.I have thought about this myself, though not seriously considered it as I am now involved with a new person, but just for fun.... I really don't know that I could take her back, as I much as I thought I wanted her when she first left. She lied to me, cheated on me, spread lies about me, treated me terribly after she left (ignoring my calls, telling me about her sex life to hurt me, etc). And she still has all the problems that caused her to leave me at first. Ya, I still think she's hot (well, thin with a great haircut)... but the last I talked to her (a story I didn't post here, she called me very late, she was drunk, I had a couple beers myself, we talked for 10 mins, completely superficial) I was reminded how she hasn't really changed and is a terrible match for me, and always will be. Really, I think the pain of loss has more to do with the betrayal and humiliation rather than the fact that I miss her. Sounds like she really wasn't good for you. You miss the idea of her, but trust me, you don't want her back. And you don't want anyone like her either.
borelandkaren Posted July 18, 2008 Posted July 18, 2008 Huh! What!.........Can someone please wake me up.......Back together???? What???
Nevermind Posted July 19, 2008 Posted July 19, 2008 He got banned a couple of times due to the violent and graphic content of his posts. He always re-registred with a name similar to the former to continue where he left of. As far as I was told.
roghornio Posted July 19, 2008 Posted July 19, 2008 y your a legend in my eyes. Twice i laughed out loud at your chat. Keep on buddy! X
WiseOne1 Posted July 24, 2008 Posted July 24, 2008 Wow, congrats Y. Well I got back with a ex before and we lasted 7 months after that. I hope you last, and I hope that it works this time. Because you came way to far for this to be some regular relationship, u must take it all the way to marriage.
CHANTRESS Posted July 24, 2008 Posted July 24, 2008 Y you might be temporarily happy. You got your ex back from 'Mr Wonderful"... a name invented by YOU. This all seems like a competition to me. It killed you to see her with "MW" otherwise why all the sarcastic remarks? She dumped you for another dude, for over a MONTH what do you think they were doing? Playing checkers? The reality is, you didn't win her back..you inherited his sloppy seconds. IMO no one wins in this situation because nothing has been resolved. Like Kizik said..this is a destructive relationship with two very toxic people. Regardless...good luck. You will probably need it.
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