FauxVowel Posted July 17, 2008 Posted July 17, 2008 Well, we've been back together a week now. I haven't been posting because I didn't know what was going to happen. We went over to Mr. Wonderful's yesterday, and got the rest of her stuff. We have had a great week. I know how messed up it sounds to everyone, but oh well. I will still visit this board, and will now try to help others more, instead of ranting and raving about X. I love each and every one of you, and THANK YOU SO MUCH for listening to me, and helping me through these past few months. Hopefully, I will be able to return the favor(s) to anyone that needs it. I'll be back, once things are a little more settled. Thanks again, and I love you all! - THE Y
roghornio Posted July 17, 2008 Posted July 17, 2008 Just crazy man, just crazy!!!! I would never in a million years have thought this to be the outcome with you. Go buy yourself a lottery ticket whilst lucks on your side So long as your happy... but don't fall back to where you were, i hope youv'e learned some lessons and keep on your back foot for a while!!! She has some serious ass kissing to do. Good luck with everything.
sultry33 Posted July 17, 2008 Posted July 17, 2008 thats great y.. im pleased for you .. just do what makes you happy an be careful hugs to u x
foxh1234 Posted July 17, 2008 Posted July 17, 2008 I'm happy for you Y, as long as you are happy. Don't make the same mistakes as last time, work on things and listen to each other. If you have a problem, sit down and talk it out. Communication is the key. I wish you the very best. Good Luck
ioncebelieved Posted July 17, 2008 Posted July 17, 2008 WOW!! I am freaking speechless!!! Speaking of lottery ticket... I have been going to the casinos a good bit lately. Will you accompany me Y, and rub those slot machines for me? Simply amazing!!!!
LikeCharlotte Posted July 17, 2008 Posted July 17, 2008 Good to hear from you. You know what I think...keep us informed. Hugs.
zxcirce Posted July 17, 2008 Posted July 17, 2008 well, all you've shown her once and for all is that she can treat you in the worst possible way with no consequences whatsoever. honestly do you think this time will be any better, having shown that you will take her back after all the things she's done to hurt you? i personally wouldn't call it luck...i'd call it the continuation of a destructive relationship.
Peter_pan Posted July 17, 2008 Posted July 17, 2008 well, all you've shown her once and for all is that she can treat you in the worst possible way with no consequences whatsoever. honestly do you think this time will be any better, having shown that you will take her back after all the things she's done to hurt you? i personally wouldn't call it luck...i'd call it the continuation of a destructive relationship. unless she is properly reformed then i would have to agree with this statement congrats though,i hope she is what you want
kyta Posted July 17, 2008 Posted July 17, 2008 I know how you must be feeling, great, but i have been where you are and it doesnt last long or didnt, i wish u the best of luck and hope all the hard work and pain u have suffered is not in vain.
kizik Posted July 17, 2008 Posted July 17, 2008 Hopefully, I will be able to return the favor(s) to anyone that needs it. Great, but your advice will be as follows: -Beg her to come over -Be ready to answer the phone whenever she calls -Be the "other guy" who helps her cheat on her new BF -Indulge her every whim -Assist her in moving out on her new BF to move in with you, disregarding the chaos she has put you through No offense Y, but if you give advice to people based upon your situation, some otherwise smart people are going to hurt themselves. The reality is that you're with the same old crazy bitch, and it's more about familiar sex than anything. It takes guts to get rid of bad people, and you simply don't have the guts.
ioncebelieved Posted July 17, 2008 Posted July 17, 2008 Great, but your advice will be as follows: -Beg her to come over -Be ready to answer the phone whenever she calls -Be the "other guy" who helps her cheat on her new BF -Indulge her every whim -Assist her in moving out on her new BF to move in with you, disregarding the chaos she has put you through No offense Y, but if you give advice to people based upon your situation, some otherwise smart people are going to hurt themselves. The reality is that you're with the same old crazy bitch, and it's more about familiar sex than anything. It takes guts to get rid of bad people, and you simply don't have the guts. He taught her how to treat him!!!! He really should have healed before he allowed all of this. You gotta be strong and YOU are correct Kizik, it would have taken more to say the hell with you!!!! I know from my personal experience if mine wanted to come back right now, it would be too soon and she would probably relapse into the same crap as the past. I would consider having her back only after enough time has gone by and I would be in a better state to make that call whether I would take her back or not!! You should want them after they had enough time to consider everything. I just would be very suspect how it just came to, "I am going to Mr. Wonderful's place and get her stuff." I am a betting man as of late and I would lay my Jack on the fact Y got his girl back by default. He was the fall Guy because Wonderful put her a$$ 10-8, that is in service in police/ ems/ fire jargon. He quit her, he dropped her like a bad transmission. Y is the literally FALL GUY, something I desire NOT!! I could be wrong, but I seriously doubt it.
Peter_pan Posted July 17, 2008 Posted July 17, 2008 the reason why ex's that re-go out with each other dosnt last is because of a number of factors but the main one being - when your not with that person you idolize them and imagine/fantasize what it could and should be like/ or how it could be. when you finally get them back after all your effort and things dont go as they have in your mind or fulfill what you have fantasied about, then the reality isnt as good as you thought it would be and you both fizzle out again. agree with two above me ^^
foolednm Posted July 17, 2008 Posted July 17, 2008 well, all you've shown her once and for all is that she can treat you in the worst possible way with no consequences whatsoever. honestly do you think this time will be any better, having shown that you will take her back after all the things she's done to hurt you? i personally wouldn't call it luck...i'd call it the continuation of a destructive relationship. I read this and I can imagine every single person that I have cried to and asked to help me through my hell telling me the exact same thing!! It doesn't feel good to hear/read these words. But the FACT is, ZX and all my support people, would be right! They are telling me the truth. It is just as bad to accept the truth as it is to try to rid that toxic person from your life. Either way, we all FEEL that we can't win, but in all reality, we would be much better off without that toxic person in our lives. Wow, I feel I am making progress, thanks to all of you on this site. It is hard, it is hurtful, but isn't going back to that roller coaster relationship just as hurtful and destructive....and demeaning??? Kizik, your words below are also the truth...I lived it for over 8 years and that IS the way it was. I feel I made some progress today. Thank you all for sharing your honest opinions and for trying to help us poor suckers out there that truly loved someone and we were only sh*t on for it. Great, but your advice will be as follows: -Beg her to come over -Be ready to answer the phone whenever she calls -Be the "other guy" who helps her cheat on her new BF -Indulge her every whim -Assist her in moving out on her new BF to move in with you, disregarding the chaos she has put you through No offense Y, but if you give advice to people based upon your situation, some otherwise smart people are going to hurt themselves. The reality is that you're with the same old crazy bitch, and it's more about familiar sex than anything. It takes guts to get rid of bad people, and you simply don't have the guts.
backto1 Posted July 17, 2008 Posted July 17, 2008 Good luck Y. I had the same chance as you and it lasted for about 4 months. I was sad the second time around but much more prepared for it. Communication is the absolute key.
Lookingforward Posted July 17, 2008 Posted July 17, 2008 Keep her off this forum - considering some of the names you called her...........
kizik Posted July 17, 2008 Posted July 17, 2008 I wish my cat could use the computer. Your sense of humor is more advanced than mine. What does this mean, exactly?
ioncebelieved Posted July 17, 2008 Posted July 17, 2008 Trust, Explain that one to me like I am 2 y/o!! I am with the Special K on this one. I am lost as well.
Lookingforward Posted July 17, 2008 Posted July 17, 2008 I wish my cat could use the computer. and without eating the mouse...too Can yours play the piano though ?
Lookingforward Posted July 17, 2008 Posted July 17, 2008 Your sense of humor is more advanced than mine. What does this mean, exactly? <<<<--------------------- :bunny:
Lookingforward Posted July 17, 2008 Posted July 17, 2008 Trust, Explain that one to me like I am 2 y/o!! I am with the Special K on this one. I am lost as well. Guess some posters avs get more attention than others - sigh or maybe that's just 'some posters' period
ioncebelieved Posted July 17, 2008 Posted July 17, 2008 Guess some posters avs get more attention than others - sigh or maybe that's just 'some posters' period I would say DUH, but I didn't your avatar until now. So I am GOOD!!!
Lookingforward Posted July 17, 2008 Posted July 17, 2008 So what's my excuse? ummmmmmmmmm I'd say (but I'm nice)
v33 Posted July 17, 2008 Posted July 17, 2008 "I am still the mother****ing Y. The new dude is a Loser. She'll be back, but I'll be busy." Busy waiting for her maybe. Hey man, good for you if you two are really happy, but has she expressed remorse for her actions? Has she changed? Or are you just glad to be banging her again? What happens when she decides the grass is greener again? You can't just ignore your gf running away with another man for a month.
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