HiItsMe Posted July 17, 2008 Posted July 17, 2008 Okay, I'm part of this social group,and I've gotten to know alot of people in the group, and people can, indeed, vouche for my good character. There was this one woman that was kind of new to the group, and I have seen her a few times and talked to her, she's apparently a friend of one of my male friends there. Anyhow, one day I tapped her on her shoulder to say Hi to her, and she about jumps 10 feet....now...I've known some people to get startled in some situations....then they turn around, realize it's you, and they go "Heeeeeey!" and they forget that you scared them. THIS woman, turns around (and she DOES know me) gives me "the look" and I said, "Oh my gosh, I'm so sorry I startled you!" You know what she does? She doesn't forgive me, says nothing, and walks to the other side of the bar. One of my female "regulars" saw the whole thing, and, jokingly to my apologies to the lady, she says, "You're not sorry!!" And we got a good laugh. My first thought "What a wack job!" Anyways, I mention this to my friend that knows her, and I guess I went to the wrong person about it, because he just stuck up for her saying she's a nice girl and that I caught her off guard.... He said that his philosophy is not to touch a person unless he knows them pretty well, this includes a touch or pat on the shoulder to get a person's attention. This goes for both guys and girls. Some people just don't like to be touched at all, even by close friends or acquaintances. I try to err on the side of caution. Then I thought...."Well, she's nice.....to YOU maybe....personally I think she has a thing for him, so I think his answer would be biased. I talked with other friends about it...and they all reached the consensus that she was a nutjob actually....so there you go. But I was wondering if I did something wrong or what? I thought it was pretty friggin rude not to forgive my apologies. I
Trialbyfire Posted July 17, 2008 Posted July 17, 2008 I get the impression she didn't recognize you, thinking you were a stranger touching her.
Prodigal Princess Posted July 17, 2008 Posted July 17, 2008 I get the impression she didn't recognize you, thinking you were a stranger touching her. I agree with TBF. You gave her a shock and she was pissed off with you at the time. She's probably forgotten about it by now. I guess it was kinda rude not to accept your apology, but then again you're not friends; there's really no incentive for her to be overly nice to you when she felt like her personal space was invaded. Personally, I hate people touching me too and go into "fight or flight" mode whenever something like that happens. I even get angry with friends who do it, even though its entirely my own issue (I was kidnapped once; the fear is always there). Anyway, my advice to you is dont think too much about it and certainly dont mention it to her again. And stop bloody discussing it with your friends, that's what women do.
Trialbyfire Posted July 17, 2008 Posted July 17, 2008 It's happened to me before too. Sometimes when you're not expecting to see someone, your mind goes blank. Hell, I even forgot the name of my ex-H's second cousin who I've known for over 6 years but didn't live in town. My mind when blank when we bumped into each other unexpectedly. I couldn't place him but knew I knew him. Worse yet, he realized this.
Recommended Posts