Make-A-Difference Posted July 16, 2008 Posted July 16, 2008 Hi... at the moment i am 20 and I have become close to a friend off my brothers who is 16 turning 17 in the next couple months.. When we are 2gether she is really mature with the most amazing personality and sort of my perfect type.. I am really falling for her. I've spoken to a couple off my close friends and they seem to think that it is fine. Its just i feel strange around other people... and think that they are judging.. Before i pursue this relationship anymore i want to know if its wrong? thank you x
Keridan Posted July 16, 2008 Posted July 16, 2008 Nah, go have fun, bud. As long as you aren't trying to get her to do anything she wouldn't do with boys her age. The age difference is less than 4 years. That's not so bad. Just take things slow and don't push her into anything. Don't stress it and go see if she feels the same way!
jonesec Posted July 16, 2008 Posted July 16, 2008 I started dating someone who was 8 years older than me my senior year. It was rough for about a year, dealing with mostly friends of the family and people that didn't know us, but our family and friends were fine with it after only like a week. I will tell you that the only reason age should matter is if it bothers you, everyone else will get used to it, or forget about it. When I am with my BF the age isn't even a factor, and frankly We forget sometimes that we aren't the same age. I say go for it, because life is too short to worry about it.
HabitualDelirium Posted July 16, 2008 Posted July 16, 2008 Yea, go for it. Just make sure she is fine with it. It seems you're already cautious about the fact she's younger, so I don't think you'd push her to do anything she wouldn't want. Plus, if it's something serious, it wouldn't matter in a couple of years, anyway.
peter333 Posted July 17, 2008 Posted July 17, 2008 Hi mate... If you really like her.... then tbh I would only really care about what she thinks. Its about what makes you and her happy. Dont care what others think. Go for it mate and good luck x
Arise_Serpentor Posted July 17, 2008 Posted July 17, 2008 nah! three years in nothing! Especially at that age! plus when you get older, you will find the year range goes even broader! Heck, I fell for two women 10 years my senior!
Enema Posted July 17, 2008 Posted July 17, 2008 It's pushing it... you know the rule. Your age divided by 2, then add 7. That's the youngest you can date.
Crazy.S Posted July 17, 2008 Posted July 17, 2008 I don't think it's a problem, but you will face some problems in the relationship. Just as a warning, at this age you guys go through a lot stages in your life. Like graduating hs, starting college, and starting a career. These are tough times in a relationship, especially when you guys aren't at the same stage. I am not saying it won't work nor am I trying to stop you. I think it is great that you feel this way about someone. So go ahead, don't let anything stop you, but remember try to be understanding. Hopefully she will be understanding too. GL
Nightwolf_58 Posted July 17, 2008 Posted July 17, 2008 I don't think it's a problem, but you will face some problems in the relationship. Just as a warning, at this age you guys go through a lot stages in your life. Like graduating hs, starting college, and starting a career. These are tough times in a relationship, especially when you guys aren't at the same stage. I am not saying it won't work nor am I trying to stop you. I think it is great that you feel this way about someone. So go ahead, don't let anything stop you, but remember try to be understanding. Hopefully she will be understanding too. GL Couldn't agree more with the above. I dated a 17 year old when I was 21, it was great, don't get me worng, but once high school was over and college started up for her, everything changed. I would say go for it by all means and have fun, just know that there will be some challenges ahead.
Green Posted July 18, 2008 Posted July 18, 2008 Not really a promlem. Legaly you just want to check if its cool.
Jilly Bean Posted July 18, 2008 Posted July 18, 2008 I'd be HIGHLY concerned about statutory rape charges, if her parents disapprove. Happened to a friend of mine's son - he was 21, she was 16, and her parents didn't like him. Whacked him with statutory rape charges, and now he has a life-long record as a registered sex offender. LIFE-LONG.
Green Posted July 18, 2008 Posted July 18, 2008 I'd be HIGHLY concerned about statutory rape charges, if her parents disapprove. Happened to a friend of mine's son - he was 21, she was 16, and her parents didn't like him. Whacked him with statutory rape charges, and now he has a life-long record as a registered sex offender. LIFE-LONG. Thats why I would have statutorily raped you instead of your friend. but you should check the laws in your area because it might be fine.
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