kbcs6dpm Posted July 16, 2008 Posted July 16, 2008 Why is it that men and women feel the need to get into relationships? Why do they need to get married? Did the cavemen/cavewomen ever get 'married' (or their version of it)?! Did they ever stick to the one person for the rest of their lives? How come, at almost 30, and after only ever having on girlfriend (who is now an ex), do i feel the need to settle down with the right woman and get married?! I feel so desperate to fall in love and start a family! I feel like that would make my life complete! How come?! What are the answers to my questions?! Thanks in advance for any replies! )
silvergirl Posted July 16, 2008 Posted July 16, 2008 Because the world has made singles believe that if you don't have that "White picket fence" relationship then you are a loser. Personally, I think it is all up to the person. If your content on being single....stay single. If you want the traditional family, then work towards it.
A.G.Doren Posted July 16, 2008 Posted July 16, 2008 Because the world has made singles believe that if you don't have that "White picket fence" relationship then you are a loser. Personally, I think it is all up to the person. If your content on being single....stay single. If you want the traditional family, then work towards it. I sort of agree with you, but biology and conveince also come into play. You feel better when your in love, when you can have sex regularly, when you can rely on someone, when you can take care of someone and they can take care of you. It's also easier to have someone split the bills and do half the work. Two adults have higher earning potential than one. If you like kids a happy marriage is a good place to start. However you don't need to be married or have a family. There is nothing wrong with being single or celibate. In the end its up to you.
Enema Posted July 16, 2008 Posted July 16, 2008 We're all animals, the product of evolution. Our purpose is to continue reproducing, to ensure that our genes get passed on to the next generation. Can you think of a better way to ensure an animal keeps reproducing than to instill in it a desire to find a mate, live with it, protect it, and have a family? Love and relationships are something that evolved in us because it promotes successful reproduction. The people that don't feel the need to have partners and children don't reproduce, so the genes that promote single-life don't often get passed on. That's why the vast majority of people want to get a partner and have kids... evolution is a beautiful thing.
xpaperxcutx Posted July 16, 2008 Posted July 16, 2008 I find this a funny question... But times have changed we're allowed to die single....
hurthawk Posted July 16, 2008 Posted July 16, 2008 Everyone's different, but I think it has more to do with the human desire to be loved, and to feel a unique and special bond with one person. That's how it is for me at least. To know that someone loves me in spite of my faults (or even because of them), its a pretty beautiful thing.
Trialbyfire Posted July 16, 2008 Posted July 16, 2008 Why is it that men and women feel the need to get into relationships? Not everyone does. Why do they need to get married? Did the cavemen/cavewomen ever get 'married' (or their version of it)?! Did they ever stick to the one person for the rest of their lives? Do you believe that you still think like a caveman? How come, at almost 30, and after only ever having on girlfriend (who is now an ex), do i feel the need to settle down with the right woman and get married?! I feel so desperate to fall in love and start a family! I feel like that would make my life complete! I think the previous posters have pretty much covered what some of the reasons might be.
gummybear Posted July 16, 2008 Posted July 16, 2008 My grandpa's best friend never dated a girl in his life and died single as a virgin at age 85. We all thought maybe he was a closet homosexual who was afraid to come out, especially during his generation in the Asian culture. He seemed content and was a pleasant man, but I always had the feeling that he often felt lonely/incomplete. But who knows, maybe he was fine with it?
Brady_to_Moss Posted July 16, 2008 Posted July 16, 2008 I feel the same as you yet i am only 19...i really just want to feel loved and want to love a girl who is that special someone...guess it wont happen now
fral945 Posted July 16, 2008 Posted July 16, 2008 Why is it that men and women feel the need to get into relationships? Because it feels good to get laid and be loved. Why do they need to get married? Did the cavemen/cavewomen ever get 'married' (or their version of it)?! Did they ever stick to the one person for the rest of their lives? No one HAS to get married. As far as cavemen marrying: Who knows? Who cares? I doubt they stuck to one person for a lifetime because their lifespans weren't very long. Chances are they were opportunistic, and that's why many of us are here today. How come, at almost 30, and after only ever having on girlfriend (who is now an ex), do i feel the need to settle down with the right woman and get married?! I feel so desperate to fall in love and start a family! I feel like that would make my life complete! How come?! What are the answers to my questions?! Thanks in advance for any replies! ) See my 1st answer.
Sks Posted July 16, 2008 Posted July 16, 2008 Because most people prefer stability and the accomplishment of basic biological goals, reproduction is one of them.
KinAZ Posted July 17, 2008 Posted July 17, 2008 You would know your answer better than anyone else. For some it's a matter of security and convenience. For others it's simply the social ideal. And others, lol I do think it could be chemical, just going by my own maternal nature. But personally, I am attracted to the security of having someone else who is (ideally) there for you always. That partnership.
woods321 Posted July 17, 2008 Posted July 17, 2008 Men seek power, and women seek love. If a woman submits to a man and gives him power, he gives her true love. Thus both are happy. Once we stray from those biological roles the confusion begins..
Author kbcs6dpm Posted July 18, 2008 Author Posted July 18, 2008 Nice answers! Thanks for your comments! You lot are clever!
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