LolitaAnastasia Posted July 16, 2008 Posted July 16, 2008 My boyfriend left me on Saturday morning with the sh*ts. Today it's Wednesday and I really want to talk to him. I don't know if I should call him tonight or leave it for tomorrow night? If I call I don't know what to say to him, I know I will avoid the topic on the reason why he left in a huff. Any advice would be great. Lolita.
Lauriebell82 Posted July 16, 2008 Posted July 16, 2008 My boyfriend left me on Saturday morning with the sh*ts. Today it's Wednesday and I really want to talk to him. I don't know if I should call him tonight or leave it for tomorrow night? If I call I don't know what to say to him, I know I will avoid the topic on the reason why he left in a huff. Any advice would be great. Lolita. Wait, I'm not understanding. He broke up wtih you or just left in a "huff"? Why did he leave, and why do you want to avoid the reason why he left. You say "the sh*ts" do you mean that literally? I guess there is something i am missing here.
Author LolitaAnastasia Posted July 16, 2008 Author Posted July 16, 2008 LOL, No he didn't leave me, he got angry cause I refused to have anal sex with him. Prior to that I was teasing him about anal sex but when it came time to do it, it was to painful and I told him no. The next morning he got dressed and left, without saying a goodbye or anything. Should I call him tonight as I do miss him.
Lauriebell82 Posted July 16, 2008 Posted July 16, 2008 LOL, No he didn't leave me, he got angry cause I refused to have anal sex with him. Prior to that I was teasing him about anal sex but when it came time to do it, it was to painful and I told him no. The next morning he got dressed and left, without saying a goodbye or anything. Should I call him tonight as I do miss him. Wow, that is kind of immature, and quite rude. He threw a hissy fit because you wouldn't have sex a particular way? That's YOUR choice what you do or do not want to do in bed. When you say "teasing" what do you mean? Like you led him to believe you would? Okay, I can understand why he would be disappointed if you did already agree, but it's YOUR right to change your mind about anything you do sexually. You could give him a call and ask what's going on. Just flat out be straight with him and say that you would just like to "talk"..in person of course. Don't mention anything over the phone or try to talk about it then, just suggest you two get together. In a calm way tell him how you are feeling..don't attack him for leaving, just tell him that you didn't feel comfortable doing that kind of position, but you love doing everything else with him. (giving him that kind of compliment may help). Good luck!
Author LolitaAnastasia Posted July 16, 2008 Author Posted July 16, 2008 Hey Laurie, Well see Steven and I have had anal sex a few times, but since he moved back about a month ago, the anal sex is painful. I told him I bought the numbing lube, but it didn't work. It was to painful, even when he was going slow. Seriously this hissy fit I would expect from a 12 year old not a 34 year old. I found it immature beyond compare. But I still loves him.
BlueEyedGirl Posted July 16, 2008 Posted July 16, 2008 It is plainly obivous that Steven doesn't care about you at all and only cares about his own sexual gratification. You could save yourself LOTS of heartbreak and just let him go. I would only vaguely consider taking him back if he called and BEGGED for forgivness.
saraispiel19 Posted July 16, 2008 Posted July 16, 2008 I kind of agree with BlueEyedGirl-- but don't you think breaking up with him would be a little too extreme?--Then again his actions were WAY too extreme- I mean for him to leave you when you refused and not speak to you for several days..what a little man! I think that you should take the time to be by yourself and reflect on your relationship- he's mad at you because of anal sex? Doesn't really make sense perhaps there is another underlying problem (normal people would go "aw shucks" but not do what he did..). I say. Wait until HE calls because YOU calling him after what he did seems a little, oh I don't know how to say it but kind of like "you'll always be the one crawling back" no matter what he does (get it?). Hmm just a thought-- but instead of breaking up how about discussing it with him (once he calls or whatever) and setting some ground rules (like he cannot do the famous dissapearing act on you). Goodluck to ya and keep on posting:)
silvergirl Posted July 16, 2008 Posted July 16, 2008 How long have you two been together? Something doesn't sound right here, are we getting the full story, or is there a little more to it?
xpaperxcutx Posted July 16, 2008 Posted July 16, 2008 Lolita, don't call me. I know what happened, but he's still at fault. If you call him now, you'll just break down and apologize when nothing was your fault to begin with.
saraispiel19 Posted July 16, 2008 Posted July 16, 2008 If you call him now, you'll just break down and apologize when nothing was your fault to begin with. True! You'll somehow find yourself saying "Sorry I shouldn't have teased you like that, it's all my fault...when can I see you again?" guys have a way with girls...
GPFan Posted July 17, 2008 Posted July 17, 2008 I am sure he was looking forward to it, excited at the prospect and, as a result, was very disappointed. However leaving you hanging for this long does bespeak a certain amount of immaturity. I suggest you let him call when he is 'over' his disappointment. Having to stop because you were hurting isn't your fault and, hopefully, he will realise this before too long.
Prodigal Princess Posted July 17, 2008 Posted July 17, 2008 Lolita, you're getting solid advice on here. Just as an aside, be careful with your Australianisms on this site. To those outside the Lucky Country, the sh*ts give the impression he was shooting out explosive turds while huffing off.
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