louise08 Posted July 16, 2008 Posted July 16, 2008 I am still madly in love with my ex, that I broke up with 5 months ago. I can't seem to block and delete him, its our only communication. (apart from random phone calls I get from him about once every two months) I cant delete him because just sometimes, just sometimes, he talks to me and we have such good chats about everything. But the other 95% of the time, when he's online and not talking to me I get very emotional and it can ruin a good day!! I just think of when we were together.. as soon as I would sign in.. he would say 'I MISS YOU!!' or 'HEY DARL'. He was pretty much the only reason I would use msn and myspace. So someone please convince me to delete and block him!? Or give me advice otherwise.
Biker2007 Posted July 16, 2008 Posted July 16, 2008 you are willing to bring down a majority of your day / happiness for 5%??? Sounds like a no-brainer to me. Also, sounds like this 5% is keeping you from moving on and finding someone to share all of your happiness w/...again, not a tough choice!
Author louise08 Posted July 16, 2008 Author Posted July 16, 2008 you are willing to bring down a majority of your day / happiness for 5%??? Sounds like a no-brainer to me. Also, sounds like this 5% is keeping you from moving on and finding someone to share all of your happiness w/...again, not a tough choice! Thanks that did put things in to perspective. But its much easier said than done.
Biker2007 Posted July 16, 2008 Posted July 16, 2008 Agreed. You can always add these back in 6mo - 1 yr,if you feel the need. My bet is that you (and X) will be better off down the road if you rip the "band-aid" off quickly...don't drag it out. Again - easier said than done. Good luck!
roghornio Posted July 16, 2008 Posted July 16, 2008 I still have my ex on mine and 2 other exes on there too... but cause of that i just dont look at the facebook now
CaliGuy Posted July 16, 2008 Posted July 16, 2008 I am still madly in love with my ex, that I broke up with 5 months ago. I can't seem to block and delete him, its our only communication. (apart from random phone calls I get from him about once every two months) I cant delete him because just sometimes, just sometimes, he talks to me and we have such good chats about everything. But the other 95% of the time, when he's online and not talking to me I get very emotional and it can ruin a good day!! I just think of when we were together.. as soon as I would sign in.. he would say 'I MISS YOU!!' or 'HEY DARL'. He was pretty much the only reason I would use msn and myspace. So someone please convince me to delete and block him!? Or give me advice otherwise. So let me get this straight. This guy is tossing you breadcrumbs once every couple months and you're latching on to them for dear life? He's fishing to feed his ego and you're biting? In order for YOU to meet the guy you have to cut any and all strings to the OLD guy. It doesn't matter if he wants to talk to you every couple of months. He's out there living his life WITHOUT you in it. Why on earth would you put your life on hold for someone that does not want to be with you? Don't you deserve better?
Crazy.S Posted July 16, 2008 Posted July 16, 2008 It was hard for me too. I was always hanging on that one thread that was not much hope, but I did for a couple months. When I finally found out she got a new bf, I pretty much cut all ties. I blocked her and her friends on aim. And I erased her and her friends on myspace and facebook. It's the point of no return.. she hurt me enough, and now I am finally realizing this.
Peter_pan Posted July 16, 2008 Posted July 16, 2008 yes delete him. when i split with my ex (she got a new man right away) i deleted her from my msn, deleted my face book and bebo. so she has no way of seeing me ever again. only contact she can have with me is on the phone. but its been 4 months and not heard anything anyway. xx best thing you can do. trust me.
tealeafbud Posted July 16, 2008 Posted July 16, 2008 I am still madly in love with my ex, that I broke up with 5 months ago. I can't seem to block and delete him, its our only communication. (apart from random phone calls I get from him about once every two months) I cant delete him because just sometimes, just sometimes, he talks to me and we have such good chats about everything. But the other 95% of the time, when he's online and not talking to me I get very emotional and it can ruin a good day!! I just think of when we were together.. as soon as I would sign in.. he would say 'I MISS YOU!!' or 'HEY DARL'. He was pretty much the only reason I would use msn and myspace. So someone please convince me to delete and block him!? Or give me advice otherwise. I'm not sure I understand. If you know you're madly in love with them, why'd you break it off? Just curious. I broke it off also with my ex about 6 months ago because I fell out of love with her, but then stupidly kept in touch with her. Anyhoo, I still peek at her myspace, and know she looks at mine. I still have her on YIM but haven't deleted her. If you want to make a deal and delete the YIM Id's at the same time, I'd be willing to. As far as myspace, she's not a friend, she's not on facebook that I know, and I dont' have msn. Anyhoo, I think it's probably a good idea to delete them and not cyber stalk them.
Crazy.S Posted July 17, 2008 Posted July 17, 2008 What you should do is just delete you ex without thinking about it. You may regret it later but in the long run you are doing yourself a favor. I have been there and I know it's hard to cut someone off completely. You deserve to be happy, so start taking charge of your life. GL
Author louise08 Posted July 21, 2008 Author Posted July 21, 2008 thank you so much everyone. I deleted him. But I accidently deleted him off msn, without blocking him! So now I hope he says something to me soon so his name will come up.. so I can offically block him too. Really thanks again, everyone on this website is making me so much stronger!
e.clipse Posted July 21, 2008 Posted July 21, 2008 i've never understood this whole "blocking" thing. to me, it seems absurd and juvenile. really. it's not like you are suddenly going to be healed just because you blocked and deleted someone off an instant messenger.
Author louise08 Posted July 21, 2008 Author Posted July 21, 2008 i've never understood this whole "blocking" thing. to me, it seems absurd and juvenile. really. it's not like you are suddenly going to be healed just because you blocked and deleted someone off an instant messenger. I know. But it was just another thing reminding me of him and knowing what he's been up to and whatnot. Especially when he talks to me on MSN, he's only being nice, but its just making me more upset. So of course I'm not going to be able to get over him by simply blocking him, but it will hopefully save a few tears!
Crazy.S Posted July 21, 2008 Posted July 21, 2008 You wont "magically heal", but it would help the process. I am assuming you are in NC, if not you should really implement it. It is a vicious cycle until you are able to move on. And having updates on his life, will not help you. Unless you are fine knowing how happy he is with his new gf or just being single without you. Anyways didn't you ask us to convince you to delete him?
Author louise08 Posted July 21, 2008 Author Posted July 21, 2008 You wont "magically heal", but it would help the process. I am assuming you are in NC, if not you should really implement it. It is a vicious cycle until you are able to move on. And having updates on his life, will not help you. Unless you are fine knowing how happy he is with his new gf or just being single without you. Anyways didn't you ask us to convince you to delete him? Im confused with what your saying... Yes I did ask you to convice me to delete him, and I did delete him and I know its for the best. I never said blocking him would be a bad idea? Please read the post above.. I was explaining to someone why it's worth blocking an ex.
Crazy.S Posted July 21, 2008 Posted July 21, 2008 Oh I was confused on who started the thread. I was responding to e.clipse thinking he started the thread. It is 3 am so I am a bit tired. Sorry But yeah that's how I feel about the issue.
selena_cat Posted July 21, 2008 Posted July 21, 2008 So let me get this straight. This guy is tossing you breadcrumbs once every couple months and you're latching on to them for dear life? He's fishing to feed his ego and you're biting? In order for YOU to meet the guy you have to cut any and all strings to the OLD guy. It doesn't matter if he wants to talk to you every couple of months. He's out there living his life WITHOUT you in it. Why on earth would you put your life on hold for someone that does not want to be with you? Don't you deserve better?[/quote Dangit youre right! oops sorry it feels like you were talking to me-i sure needed that advice a year ago,my what lessons to learn
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