silvergirl Posted July 16, 2008 Posted July 16, 2008 Yes he's interested........in getting you in the sack!!! You have made yourself a conquest for him.
Trialbyfire Posted July 16, 2008 Posted July 16, 2008 It sounds like you're determined to turn this around which is fine, as long as you're willing to fight an uphill battle. As long as you accept that he might burn you pretty badly, it's of course, your choice. Btw, no matter how bad his time management skills, if he were eager to be with you, he would have tried to bump up the date to yesterday or tonight...
Author maybe316 Posted July 16, 2008 Author Posted July 16, 2008 Because he is leading you on...(to answer the question if he wasn't interested....) Because he wants to get it on (to answer the same question) Not every guy who is willing to hang out with you makes good boyfriend material.. In my opinion if he was truly interested he would respond to your texts all the time...initiate conversation himself...call you...DAte you..not go 12 days without talking to you... If this sounds harsh it is only tough love.... I feel for you because I have been there and my real advice is: Find a guy who will call you, take you out, act like a boyfriend, treat you with respect... It has been 3 days not 12 since we have talked...
Author maybe316 Posted July 16, 2008 Author Posted July 16, 2008 It sounds like you're determined to turn this around which is fine, as long as you're willing to fight an uphill battle. As long as you accept that he might burn you pretty badly, it's of course, your choice. Btw, no matter how bad his time management skills, if he were eager to be with you, he would have tried to bump up the date to yesterday or tonight... this is true and a good point...still it has been over a year since i have met someone i have a connection with so i am wiling to fight an uphill battle so how should i go on from here. say, call me next week, but i'm going out of town as well at the end of the week...
silvergirl Posted July 16, 2008 Posted July 16, 2008 I think the 12 was just a point! It sounds to me like you have your mind made up and your not really going to take our advice, being as YOU were the one that sent the text. Believe it or not, guys like it when girls are not ALWAYS available, they like a little mystery. When you're too available, you look a little pathetic.
confused and broken Posted July 16, 2008 Posted July 16, 2008 It has been 3 days not 12 since we have talked... Fair enough...my bad...so he asks you on a date, but cancels without canceling......hmmmmm i like this guy already Before the last time you saw each other did he ever call you?? DId he initiate the texting??? tell him you're going away for the weekend and to call you early next week... good idea it can't hurt to go on another date
Trialbyfire Posted July 16, 2008 Posted July 16, 2008 this is true and a good point...still it has been over a year since i have met someone i have a connection with so i am wiling to fight an uphill battle so how should i go on from here. say, call me next week, but i'm going out of town as well at the end of the week... Okay, if you want to reel him in by playing him, text him back and tell him to call you. If he makes the effort to call you, that helps because you can sometimes get a better handle on what he's thinking when talking to him. Once you get him on the phone, keep it light so the convo ends up leaving him with positive feelings. At this point, I would do what carhill suggests and tell him to call you when he gets back and you can both verify your calendars, at that time. Let him know that you look forward to hearing from him (but not enough to previously commit to a set date he can flake on again) and hopefully, the two of you can tee up a time between your busy schedules. Personally, I hate games and even writing this bugs me.
Author maybe316 Posted July 16, 2008 Author Posted July 16, 2008 he always initiates the texts and i have not always been available either i have blown him off to meet up and then he didn't respond to me (in the past) when i texted him after blowing him off. Finally he did respond and told me he had not becaause he was depressed he couldn't see me.....
confused and broken Posted July 16, 2008 Posted July 16, 2008 he always initiates the texts and i have not always been available either i have blown him off to meet up and then he didn't respond to me (in the past) when i texted him after blowing him off. Finally he did respond and told me he had not becaause he was depressed he couldn't see me..... what do you mean by blown him off??
A.G.Doren Posted July 16, 2008 Posted July 16, 2008 Someething no one is thinking about here is the fact that this guy just came out of a long term relationship. He may well feel the connection that the OP feels, but not be able to act on it properly just yet. I would go out with him next week and then establish a pattern of occasionaly chatting with him on the phone, but leave him alone for a while. You don't want to rebound.
Author maybe316 Posted July 16, 2008 Author Posted July 16, 2008 what do you mean by blown him off?? Someone said something about "always be available to this guy" which i have not been. I went out of town for a week and he wanted to see me before i left, but i got really tired and told him i could not meet up with him. He said he was disappointed he could not see me...Then i said lets see each other when i get back...When i did this, he never responded so i texted him to see how his 4th of july went, which again, he did not repond. Finally, i texted him a few days later asking him if he ever got my texts and he wrote," totally..i was just depressed that i couldn't see you so i did not respond..when can i see you..."
Author maybe316 Posted July 16, 2008 Author Posted July 16, 2008 Someething no one is thinking about here is the fact that this guy just came out of a long term relationship. He may well feel the connection that the OP feels, but not be able to act on it properly just yet. I would go out with him next week and then establish a pattern of occasionaly chatting with him on the phone, but leave him alone for a while. You don't want to rebound. I believe you are right. I have tried to sum everything up, however I may have not done a great job at doing this. Anyway, I feel that he does like me and is not a player...but i don't think he was initially wanting a relationship when we first met...Anyway, this is what he wrote: so...i'm going to nyc this weekend, leaving tom afternoon, but do you want to grab dinner when i get back? I still have not responded...
Author maybe316 Posted July 16, 2008 Author Posted July 16, 2008 Fair enough...my bad...so he asks you on a date, but cancels without canceling......hmmmmm i like this guy already Before the last time you saw each other did he ever call you?? DId he initiate the texting??? tell him you're going away for the weekend and to call you early next week... good idea it can't hurt to go on another date BTW we have not ever talked on the phone...which doesn't bother me because i don't like talking on the phone anyway as long as we have good convos in person which we have. If i go on this date it would be the first real "date"
Author maybe316 Posted July 16, 2008 Author Posted July 16, 2008 I can respond saying: Sure lets get dinner..however I’m going out of town next week-end too so just give me a call. Sure, I’m going out of town late next week too, but give me a call when you get back and we will figure out something Give me a call when you get back don't say yes or no... I'm going out of town late next week too but give me a call when you get back
BUTTAFLYH Posted July 16, 2008 Posted July 16, 2008 Walk in the other way girl and chalk it up. I don't think he's looking at things the way you are. And if everything y'all have done so far has involved mostly drinking, it's not a good start anyway.
Mahatma Posted July 16, 2008 Posted July 16, 2008 OK, I can understand how he could think you are maybe a little bit of a tease. However, if he hasn't contacted you at all, he was probably more interested in sex and decided you were going to be too much work. Not a big loss on your part.
confused and broken Posted July 16, 2008 Posted July 16, 2008 I can respond saying: Sure lets get dinner..however I’m going out of town next week-end too so just give me a call. Sure, I’m going out of town late next week too, but give me a call when you get back and we will figure out something Give me a call when you get back don't say yes or no... I'm going out of town late next week too but give me a call when you get back when you are going out of town next weekend will you have your cell phone on you and be answering it???
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