Crazy.S Posted July 16, 2008 Posted July 16, 2008 One time I had a dream that my ex wanted to tell me something. Later in real life I found out she was dating someone else. I guess subconsciously I was ready for the bad news. In another dream I was chatting online and suddenly I broke NC and I couldn't believe it. It was so real, I knew I had done something terribly wrong, but I couldn't help being nice to her. I woke up in sweats and was relieved it was only a dream. Have anyone else have dreams of their ex? I feel like my subconscious self is very aware of how I feel and in some ways reinforces and protects me. *Btw these dreams were not like those crazy scene jumping ones where nothing made sense. These dreams are clear as day, I couldn't tell them apart from reality.
Peter_pan Posted July 16, 2008 Posted July 16, 2008 yeah last night i dreamt i was lookin on her bebo and she was out with an irish dude... and then i saw her in person she looked a little different but her voice was exactly the same made me feel so ****ty
northstar1 Posted July 16, 2008 Posted July 16, 2008 One time I had a dream that my ex wanted to tell me something. Later in real life I found out she was dating someone else. I guess subconsciously I was ready for the bad news. In another dream I was chatting online and suddenly I broke NC and I couldn't believe it. It was so real, I knew I had done something terribly wrong, but I couldn't help being nice to her. I woke up in sweats and was relieved it was only a dream. Have anyone else have dreams of their ex? I feel like my subconscious self is very aware of how I feel and in some ways reinforces and protects me. *Btw these dreams were not like those crazy scene jumping ones where nothing made sense. These dreams are clear as day, I couldn't tell them apart from reality. Oh hell yes. More dreams of the ex than I would like. It's the brain trying to process all the things you've been thinking about, and trying to make sense of it. And they usually are pretty clear in meaning. But disturbing nonetheless.
KittenMoon Posted July 16, 2008 Posted July 16, 2008 I always have dreams of my ex, even 2.5yrs later. The scary part is I have dreams like yours. I'd often dream about him vividly the night before we'd have some sort of contact, or I'd see him out somewhere. Once, I dreamed he cut his long hair, only to find out the next day that he did. Sometimes I just think we can be connected to others in a way where if they are thinking about us, or we think about them, it can resonate subconciously. Ok, its a little out-there-Jungian, but I can't help but think that. Certainly, I have those moments with my mom, or others I'm close with.
LikeCharlotte Posted July 16, 2008 Posted July 16, 2008 I refused to sleep for awhile. My dreams disturbed me for longer than I was actually upset about the break up. I finally have a sleep schedule back. I wish I knew of a cure but I can say without a doubt that that was the most difficult physical reaction to cope with. I just deprived my brain of rest until it learned to stop betraying my conscious thoughts and actions. I don't recommend using my method. I think sleep deprivation is used to torture people into submission. eeek!
northstar1 Posted July 16, 2008 Posted July 16, 2008 I refused to sleep for awhile. My dreams disturbed me for longer than I was actually upset about the break up. I finally have a sleep schedule back. I wish I knew of a cure but I can say without a doubt that that was the most difficult physical reaction to cope with. I just deprived my brain of rest until it learned to stop betraying my conscious thoughts and actions. I don't recommend using my method. I think sleep deprivation is used to torture people into submission. eeek! You must have thought you were going insane at some point. Wow!.
LikeCharlotte Posted July 16, 2008 Posted July 16, 2008 You must have thought you were going insane at some point. Wow!.Yes, I had my moments. There is a thread somewhere on here where I was desperately tired after months of no sleep and trying to make a point. My points were jumbled and confusing. I don't have a clue how I was typing at all. I would sleep in random two hour shifts and occasionally sleep for 5 hours. If I had one of those realistic dreams I'd wake up and stay up until I couldn't any longer. I was literally afraid of them. I didn't want to wake up and feel horrible. Most of my dreams were with us being happy and fun - I could feel hugs and laughter. When I would wake to reality I would cry. I just couldn't deal with it. I had to extract it from my mind by any means necessary.
Author Crazy.S Posted July 16, 2008 Author Posted July 16, 2008 Sleeping is so important. I am still trying to get a good night sleep. Lately since being dumped I haven't felt replenished from any of my sleep. But it is getting better as time goes by. Sad thing is she told me she hated when she wakes up at night only to find I wasn't there... Now she has a new boyfriend. I wonder if she still wakes up hoping I was there, only to find some idiot next to her. Yeah I am spiteful, lol I can't help it. Anyways my dreams so far has been pretty helpful in recovering. It supports NC and it tells me I don't want her back. The dreams has a sense of clarity, for what is best for me.
Peter_pan Posted July 16, 2008 Posted July 16, 2008 the best one i had was that i dreamt i finally got her back, she of course had been with him and id been with no1 since, and in my mind i thought "why the hell have i been stressing and upset for this....." best dream of "her" ever
roghornio Posted July 17, 2008 Posted July 17, 2008 I had a very vivid dream last night of a girl i dated for a few weeks 3 or 4 years ago. Very strange - i kind of missed her when i woke up even though i dumped her. I actually kind of forgot her all this time. God knows what or where she is right now. She was nice.
sultry33 Posted July 17, 2008 Posted July 17, 2008 i dream about my ex all the time.. it does hurt as usually we are out having a meal or being close.. its like when im awake i am trying move on but when im asleep my heart is trying keep his memory.. id like to have my mind wiped.. seriuosly.
roghornio Posted July 17, 2008 Posted July 17, 2008 I had a very vivid dream last night of a girl i dated for a few weeks 3 or 4 years ago. Very strange - i kind of missed her when i woke up even though i dumped her. I actually kind of forgot her all this time. God knows what or where she is right now. She was nice. I just found her email address. Going to email her to see what she's up to these days . Let the dreams take control LOL
sultry33 Posted July 17, 2008 Posted July 17, 2008 I just found her email address. Going to email her to see what she's up to these days . Let the dreams take control LOL you go man lol are you going put email as dreamt of you? i feel like mailing my ex saying get out of my head:love:
roghornio Posted July 17, 2008 Posted July 17, 2008 Unfortunately we didn’t finish on the best of terms (my fault – I was a total dick to her). So It would be inappropriate to put anything remotely like that.
sultry33 Posted July 17, 2008 Posted July 17, 2008 Unfortunately we didn’t finish on the best of terms (my fault – I was a total dick to her). So It would be inappropriate to put anything remotely like that. good luck then
Author Crazy.S Posted July 17, 2008 Author Posted July 17, 2008 Roghornio update us if you don't mind, GL!
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