Peter_pan Posted July 16, 2008 Posted July 16, 2008 trying to maintain the whole nc situation. been 2 months since i broke it when i tried speaking with her end of may, no reply. basically i feel i cant move on. i hate that she met that new guy and went out with him and didn't give me a second chance and basically dropped me for him (yeah its a confidence crusher) i hate how she acted towards me at the "coming to an end" part of the re i hate that she and he have more than likely "done it", and so if i did pursue her to try and get back with her, that that would always be in my mind even if i did succeed. i cant move forward because i haven't met or been with anyone since, i feel i cant go back - how would i forgive her knowing of the things she must have done whilst with that guy since it was a good 5 months, and she was my first.... to my knowledge they are not an item any more, i miss her alot and think about her all the time. i dont know why she never said happy bday to me. i dont know wether i should pursue trying to get back with her or not or finding more out about her current situation. the last phone call we had was back in feb. i wished her luck. she tried telling me it was nothing serious between them (wtf does that mean) why was she trying to comfort me. i told her i dont care what it is your still calling him your bf. she tried txting a few times after that but it wasn't worth replying to. i was trying the whole nc to see if she would realize her mistake (didn't happen) she continued to see this guy. all i ever got was her telling me to change my address through the bank. they broke up because she was "to good looking" for him and he couldn't trust her.... i would ****ing love to have met someone else so i at least have a comparison. but i dont. and i still find her "the only one for me etc" thats why it is so hard for me right now to maintain NC because i know she is available again. i think she is embarrassed/ashamed/regretful/scared to get into contact with me. at least thats how i interpret things. and at the same time its like i meant f all. and if i wait to long, she will prob be back with him again or be with someone else. but i just dont know what to do.
TrustInYourself Posted July 16, 2008 Posted July 16, 2008 Overcome my brother, overcome. Get out of the house. Go play some scrabble with your grandma. Go hit on some waitresses at Denny's. Live life.
saraispiel19 Posted July 16, 2008 Posted July 16, 2008 I agree with trust! You need to get out of the house- this girl dropped you like an old shoe, and you don't need that. How old are you exactly?-- For some reason this sounds a little high school... If so: dude your going to get over it, TRUST me! Go get a job (if you don't have one), go to the bar (if your old enough), meet new people, do what you love to do (umm paint? skateboard? swim? jump?..i don't know..), how about being a Big Brother to a little boy in need?-- It's summer there are so many things to do! Have fun- it'll get better. promise!
Author Peter_pan Posted July 16, 2008 Author Posted July 16, 2008 hey im 21 now. met her at the sweet age of 17, lost my V plates to her at 18 lived with her from 18 till i was 20. im trying to get out there. i DJ, ive painted a room, i go to the gym everyday, i play tennis, i play basketball, i go to bars, i listen to music, i watch films at the cinema, i hang out with some mates (they are 18-16 though), i go to a few house parties im doing everything possible
TrustInYourself Posted July 16, 2008 Posted July 16, 2008 Sounds awesome. I envy some of your activities! I suggest you continue to immerse yourself in activities you enjoy. Go nuts and have some fun. I'd also suggest that you start making friends with the opposite sex. Just be friendly. Get out there. Don't forget scrabble with grandma.
sid3 Posted July 16, 2008 Posted July 16, 2008 Your in a tough spot. It's only temporary. You've listed a lot of activities that will give you an opportunity to meet someone new. The problem is you won't be able to until you let go. You have to give yourself some time, but there comes a point where the only thing holding you back is yourself. Meeting someone new is not always the cure all. But meeting someone really special will help you out in so many ways. Your not going to be able to do that until you get her out of your head. It's hard, I know. It's true, you can fake it til you make it. Keep doing all the things you've listed. House parties should be attended whenever you have the chance. The sooner you get sick and tired thinking about her the better off you will be. The day will come when your going to meet the new love of your life. Getting over the past doesn't always just happen, it takes a lot of effort. You'll make it. Just don't hold on to the pain as a way of holding on to the past.
Arise_Serpentor Posted July 16, 2008 Posted July 16, 2008 You gotta keep moving on! Just bite your lip and find someone else! Or agree to find no one! yeah, she totally rejected you and figured you were not good enough for her! now she's making out and having sex with some guy that's not you! Put that all out of your mind, be a man, and get with it! She probably would have cheated on you hard anyway!
Author Peter_pan Posted July 17, 2008 Author Posted July 17, 2008 cheers trust sid and arise trust, yeah i am planning on trying to make friends with the opposite sex. its a good ego booster to know some females instead of all males sid, i am trying to get her out of my head, i find some days easier than others. i am doing a lot of activities. problem is i dont have any girls in my sights arise. she can **** off and **** anyone she wants. i think she has lost on on how she acted and behaved towards me at the end of our re. wasnt like her at all to do those things. took her long enough to admit to seeing him now. she apparently isnt with him anymore so what did that teach her i wonder
sultry33 Posted July 17, 2008 Posted July 17, 2008 cheers trust sid and arise trust, yeah i am planning on trying to make friends with the opposite sex. its a good ego booster to know some females instead of all males sid, i am trying to get her out of my head, i find some days easier than others. i am doing a lot of activities. problem is i dont have any girls in my sights arise. she can **** off and **** anyone she wants. i think she has lost on on how she acted and behaved towards me at the end of our re. wasnt like her at all to do those things. took her long enough to admit to seeing him now. she apparently isnt with him anymore so what did that teach her i wonder hi peter.. it taught her that life is not always greener on the other side.. hopefully its taught you that you are worth a hell of alot more.. things happen for a reason and luckily you have found the reason.. may not seem so good right now.. but you will have come out the best and learned from it life is a ride.. enjoy x
Author Peter_pan Posted July 18, 2008 Author Posted July 18, 2008 i hope so dude. i really, really, really .... really want to txt her !!! so excited lol i am so worried that she might be out tonight and get with a guy, and she isnt even my gf LOL
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