HiItsMe Posted July 15, 2008 Posted July 15, 2008 The reason I say "Instance" is because...I tend to wonder if it 's really "chemistry" or two horny people For example, a female friend of mine said she was going to invite her along to our outing at a dance club....she was wanting to introduce me, because she too, was single. And well telling me about her. Anyways, she brings her along, and introduces me. She was friendly and the like. Then later on, we go out on the dance floor and start dancing, and she meets this guy later on in the bar, and then starts dancing with him....very close, and they actually start to kiss and make out. This guy was a total stranger! Now I wasn't broken up by it....because, for one, any woman that makes out with a total stranger...to me...is a turn-off. Chances are she's into one -night stands as well....or at the very most...VERY short term relationships. But some might say, "They just had chemistry"....any truth to this?
saraispiel19 Posted July 15, 2008 Posted July 15, 2008 But some might say, "They just had chemistry"....any truth to this? Maybe or maybe not. Usually when people start dancing (esp. if it's dirty, grinding or whatever type you call it now a days) they just kiss and it doesn't really mean anything it just makes the dance more interesting (or so i've been told). Either that or she's just a loosey goosey!
Lucky555 Posted July 15, 2008 Posted July 15, 2008 I did this once started dancing and making out with a guy. YES it was instant chemistry and a bit of alcohol involved! However, I liked him and he liked me. HE DID TRY to take me home hahaha that was not going to happen. So it may have been instant chemistry or maybe she needed some action? It depends on the person i think.
Author HiItsMe Posted July 15, 2008 Author Posted July 15, 2008 I did this once started dancing and making out with a guy. YES it was instant chemistry and a bit of alcohol involved! However, I liked him and he liked me. HE DID TRY to take me home hahaha that was not going to happen. So it may have been instant chemistry or maybe she needed some action? It depends on the person i think. Hm, dunno, makes me loose respect for a woman when I see that.
xpaperxcutx Posted July 15, 2008 Posted July 15, 2008 Could be alcohol, or she finds the guy attractive and wants to kiss him. Dancing and grinding creates a very sexual atmosphere, if I start grinding with someone, I might in a kiss or two.
saraispiel19 Posted July 15, 2008 Posted July 15, 2008 Hm, dunno, makes me lose respect for a woman when I see that. Well duh! I would too if I was a guy, but then I'd just take her home and never talk to her again.
Shygirl15 Posted July 15, 2008 Posted July 15, 2008 Hm, dunno, makes me loose respect for a woman when I see that. Makes me loose respect for BOTH of them actually. Strange how people take so casually kissing and making out, these days. Gross!
Trialbyfire Posted July 15, 2008 Posted July 15, 2008 I can't see how it could be chemistry, or maybe I define chemistry as something else. It's more a slow burn, rather than immediate lust. As for ONSs, for anyone losing respect for the woman involved, I do hope you feel the same way about the man involved. Otherwise this would be another example of double standards.
saraispiel19 Posted July 15, 2008 Posted July 15, 2008 As for ONSs, for anyone losing respect for the woman involved, I do hope you feel the same way about the man involved. Otherwise this would be another example of double standards. Guilty as charged! In my defense: women are being constantly labeled (whore, slut,etc.) and they know they will! If they are dumb to do the actions that create those certain labels then they are certainly suited to earn the title.
Trialbyfire Posted July 15, 2008 Posted July 15, 2008 Guilty as charged! In my defense: women are being constantly labeled (whore, slut,etc.) and they know they will! If they are dumb to do the actions that create those certain labels then they are certainly suited to earn the title. Same as women are responsible for being raped because of how they dress?
saraispiel19 Posted July 15, 2008 Posted July 15, 2008 Same as women are responsible for being raped because of how they dress? Noo that's totally different- people shouldn't rape period even if the person is walking the streets naked.
Trialbyfire Posted July 15, 2008 Posted July 15, 2008 Noo that's totally different- people shouldn't rape period even if the person is walking the streets naked. It's the same double-standard logic. Either blanket both genders with equal responsibility or don't target either one of them.
saraispiel19 Posted July 15, 2008 Posted July 15, 2008 It's the same double-standard logic. Either blanket both genders with equal responsibility or don't target either one of them. Yes Trail Mam'/Sir! *then why do people have double double standrads?
Star Gazer Posted July 15, 2008 Posted July 15, 2008 It's the same double-standard logic. Either blanket both genders with equal responsibility or don't target either one of them. Agreed. As for the OP, I was guilty of some drunk makeout sessions on dance floors...when I was 21-23, but I never took them home. Hasn't happened since.
Untouchable_Fire Posted July 15, 2008 Posted July 15, 2008 Agreed. As for the OP, I was guilty of some drunk makeout sessions on dance floors...when I was 21-23, but I never took them home. Hasn't happened since. From OP's story it seemed like he was there to meet her, like a casual blind date. I assume she knew as well. So, when I'm out with one girl... I'm not going to go get on another one, because its inconsiderate and jerkish. I think that's the difference between what he is saying and what you did.
Author HiItsMe Posted July 15, 2008 Author Posted July 15, 2008 Agreed. As for the OP, I was guilty of some drunk makeout sessions on dance floors...when I was 21-23, but I never took them home. Hasn't happened since. Yeah, but this woman was 38! LOL And as for labeling her only, if you want to throw the man in there, I will as well. I was referring to my personal interest in her, due to the situation of her friend possibly fixing me up with her. I wasn't focused on the guy, but if you want to split hairs....<shrug>
xpaperxcutx Posted July 15, 2008 Posted July 15, 2008 Yeah, but this woman was 38! LOL And as for labeling her only, if you want to throw the man in there, I will as well. I was referring to my personal interest in her, due to the situation of her friend possibly fixing me up with her. I wasn't focused on the guy, but if you want to split hairs....<shrug> Are you interested still? If not you can do better.
Trialbyfire Posted July 15, 2008 Posted July 15, 2008 Trial, what is the objective? Inject feminism into every thread? Obviously the OP is turned off by the woman doing this as he was interested in her. He doesn't know the man or care about him.. And sorry there is a double standard, and for good reason. Double standards are irrational, emotional social constructs. There's zero good reason for any of them.
Trialbyfire Posted July 15, 2008 Posted July 15, 2008 The only time the man is allowed to pay for the first date, is if there's going to be a second date which I pay for. Otherwise, I ensure I pay for the entire first date.
Trialbyfire Posted July 16, 2008 Posted July 16, 2008 There's never been a time where a man hasn't asked for a second date, the same night.
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