Kyo Posted July 15, 2008 Posted July 15, 2008 Let me start off with saying. i have a very slow bloomer i came to the Us when i was 5, been here 13 years (so i should be somewhat americanized) I'm 18 years old, going to be 19 and currently attending community college, sadly I have never dated or been in a realtionship with a girl before. that includes friendship, (maybe thats the first problem) by the way, in high school i rarely talked to girls..this also add to my current problem. I have come to the conclusion that I am bad with girls. In other words i have bad experience when talking with them. So i am hoping for some advise. There are two incident now that that I believe i have come off as a "stalker" which is very bad...so i come to one solution. ask a forum. (sorry for my long introduction) Anyway, my question is the difference between friendship with a girl and a dating relationship. I'm guessing the first step for me to be in a dating relationship with a girl is to be friends. (and by the way i have trouble making friends) With a guy, its pretty simple. i find common interest, which in normally easily. however with a girl, its not too much trouble to start off, however how do i keep the relationship from progressing? like hang out, that sort of thing. i'm pretty slow at signals. so any tips? how do i know when its a right time to do anything. invite someone to do something. maybe step by step detail of a plan for girls? [as u can see i have bad people skils, so please any help would be appreciated]
xpaperxcutx Posted July 15, 2008 Posted July 15, 2008 I was in the same boat as you. I've only recently started dating, but at times it does get awkward. It's not hard, you might be nervous at first because you want to make a great impression on the gal. My advice is to be yourself, but shy away from wanting to start a conversation. Most girls like to be entertained so be confident when you're asking her, " hey, what's up? I notice your favorite band is _______. That is so cool". You get it? If you appear confident, they're more drawn to you. But don't mistake confidence for cocky, you'll get slapped. Take it one step at a time. If you're still uncomfortable around girls I suggest that you make friends with girls and try getting comfortable being around them. That way when you want to approach a girl you'd like, you'll be confident instead of wanting to run away.
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