flimsy Posted July 15, 2008 Posted July 15, 2008 Alright, I've never been in a situation where a girl that I was interested in felt the same way about me in return, so this is all pretty new to me. Most time when I like a girl or something, I manage to befriend them, then they use me, I ignore it, it continues, then I realize how ignorant I've been and snap, and never speak to her again. Anyways, I happened to run into this girl in a chat, about 7 months ago and right off the bat we clicked, in a way I have never clicked with anyone before. We talked for 14 hours straight the first night. Now before I met her, I never in a million years would have thought of meeting anyone that I talk to on the net. She only lives about 40 minutes away from me, which isnt that far. Things were great at the beginning, she was so like eager to talk to me, and everything, she told me she really liked me, and wanted to meet, just the 2 times we tried to meet, it didnt go thru for various reasons, but that's beside the point. We'd talk on hours on end and everything, on the phone too. But now, something's changed, I dont know what. Now she ignores me alot when I message her, doesnt seem to care what I have to say anymore, only what she has to say. Almost anything I say just seems to annoy her, doesnt matter how benign the topic will seem. She talks about other dudes ALL the time that she's talking to, sometimes I think she's just trying to make me jealous, but i can tell when she is, its different. Just everything's changed in the last few weeks, I think she's lost interest in me maybe, or she's just playing some mindgames. We still talk every day on the phone and stuff, just not as much as we used to. I havnt done anything to make her mad, I dont understand what happened, I asked her and she said I hadnt done anything to make her mad or annoyed. I dunno how to approach this, I dont want to say something wrong, just in case she still feels the same way about me, and make her mad and ruin things. If she's lost interest in me, I dont understand why she can't just tell me so I can stop looking like a fool. This is why I don't trust girls, I'm tired of the damn mind games and being used, and this is why I'm still single and probably end up staying single for a long time. So how should I approach this? Thanks ahead of time for your comments.
Krytie TV Posted July 15, 2008 Posted July 15, 2008 She's indirectly trying to give you the hint to go away. Nothing personal, it's just that many times when relationships are over the internet and anonymous, there is no sense of commitment or investment.
Author flimsy Posted July 15, 2008 Author Posted July 15, 2008 Thats what I was afraid of, she did say she wanted to pursue an actual relationship at a few times, but she hasnt brought it up since. But what I dont get is why she's still calling me 2-4 times a day, if she wanted me to bugger off, wouldnt she not call me on a daily basis?
Krytie TV Posted July 15, 2008 Posted July 15, 2008 What I would want you to understand is that this is not an unusual situation. In my experience this is the standard course that internet relationships go... almost invariably. If you do it enough, you'll find that to be true as well. As far as her calling you, I dont understand. First you say she was annoyed with you and didn't care at all about what you have o say and now you say she's calling you all the time? Either way, welcome to the world of attention whores. This is someone who thrives on the attention of others, especially when there is interest on your part. It feeds their ego that they can "keep you around" while they satisfy their emotional and physical needs elsewhere. Your only option here is to cut off contact. You need to become as uninvested as she is or you will be trampled on until you do.
Author flimsy Posted July 15, 2008 Author Posted July 15, 2008 O lemme clarify, she calls me alot yes, before when we would talk she seemed interested in what I have to say, it seems now some of times she'll only want to talk about what SHE wants to talk about. Like the other day, I was having a bad day, and usually I'd talk to her about it, and she'll make me feel better or something, instead she just pretty much hung up on me and told me she had to go. However, we do have some great times talkin to each other. I do know what you're talkin about, I've talked to plenty of girls in the past before online, and this is different, or at least it was at the start. I'm starting to think she just wants the attention, because she talks to alot of other dudes, and has told me and likes screwin with them, so why wouldnt she end up doing it to me? I saw this coming, I just didnt care. I'm really thinking about just cutting it off with her if things dont change.
Adamagnet Posted July 15, 2008 Posted July 15, 2008 I'm starting to think she just wants the attention, because she talks to alot of other dudes, and has told me and likes screwin with them, so why wouldnt she end up doing it to me? I saw this coming, I just didnt care. I'm really thinking about just cutting it off with her if things dont change. It's been seven months, you live close and you haven't met? There's your problem, you've been friendzoned and she doesn't sound like a good friend. Find someone else.
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