What have you learned about yourself?

[LikeCharlotte]

seems most people here have been GOOD partners and have been wronged. Maybe thats why you guys find it easier.

 

Ive learnt Im a complete ******* who ignored the obvious and takes things for granted.

 

realizingthat too late is just devastating. Im in pieces, and finding it really hard to let go

We all make mistakes. That is how we learn. Not one of us is completely innocent in our relationships. I was an emotional wreak during the end of my last relationship for reasons that were unrelated to him or us. I must have been a pain to deal with at times. The point of this thread is what have you learned. You've apparently learned plenty. Take the lessons, let it hurt and do better next time. You are miles ahead of many because you recognize your fault and are willing to admit it.

[LikeCharlotte]

After reading everyone’s responses I thought that I’d take a piece from each of you to make my list. It seems that I have a little in common with each of you. So here is my list:

I can survive a pain I never thought possible.

I learned I can talk myself out of drunken texting. :]

I am able to give real love. I deserve someone who will be able to give me the same in return.

that I have severe abandonment issues, where when people leave me, I feel like my life is crashing around me.

Taking time between relationships to gain perspectives , improve myself .

I'm done being used without reciprocation (I'm as deserving of companionship and affection as anyone else.)

I learned to let go of the illusion of control.

I am capable of loving one person in this world the rest of my life. I have no doubt in this fact.

 

You can't change somebody and make them who they aren't. If something about them is a big problem in the relationship either you talk about it and work through it, accept it, or you move on. Period.

that vunerability is something that i must accept in life

I have learned that you shouldn't settle for anything less than you deserve. And I am still learning.

Pay more attention in future relationships for warning signs and act on them before it’s too late.

I am very strong

That there are many, many more fish in the sea:)

Love is worth it, even with the pain.

I've learned that I am looking for certain qualities in a mate, just like I'm looking for certain things in life.

Ive learned my happiness is my responsibity

Ive learned who my friends are as I struggle past this little road bump in life

I've learned that I can get over anything and anyone, fairly quickly.

I am learning to walk away

 

Thanks LS.

[kizik]

You are a true artiste, LC. (And I don't even know how to multi-quote!)

[motive2002]

I've learned that I'm truly at my worst when I'm at my worst.... if you know what I mean.

 

Ready for the shoe to drop.. on my head... and put out the lights and let me sleep forever.

[kizik]

I don't get it... but cheer up, it's a sunny day in Oregon.

[Habibti]

- I've learned that life goes on after heartbreak. Time doesn't sit still, neither does the rest of the world. It isn't going to wait for you if you insist on staying caught in the past, so you might as well join with the pace.

 

-I've learned that I have a lot of respect for myself.

 

-I've learned that even when it feels like the end of the world, being without him isn't hardly.

 

-I've learned that I can still laugh and smile and feel joy and hope, even in the midst of having my heart torn out.

 

-I'm strong, very strong.

 

-I've learned the importance of being self reliant.

 

-I've learned that there's nothing I can do about his decison.I've learned that it wasn't my fault either.

 

-I've learned that I'm really quite the catch.

[TrustInYourself]

I am controlling

 

I do not have plans

 

I do not stick to my plans

 

I lack discipline

 

I must be social and accepted to feel comfortable with myself

 

I must communicate my feelings no matter what

 

I am an emotional person

 

I am not reserved or withdrawn

 

I am charming when I feel like it

 

I am good looking

 

I can make friends easily

 

I take joy in getting into new social circles

 

I'm not afraid to look silly

 

I'm proud of myself

 

I can improve if I put my mind to it

 

I need pain and suffering to really open my eyes

 

I love life and cherish every moment I have

 

I am optimistic and positive

 

When I feel that others doubt me, I become a stronger person

 

I like to post on LS a lot

[Crazy.S]

i learned that love is very confusing and can bring as much pain as it can bring happiness