sas218 Posted July 15, 2008 Posted July 15, 2008 my older sister just got out of a serious "first" relationship. she went through the initial heartbroken phase, tears everyday. things seem to be getting better, but today she just had a breakdown. now, there are alot of things on her plate right now that i'm sure are causing stress and tiredness plus she just graduated and sent out resumes which i think she's nervous and scared about the future and whatnot. she spent more than the majority of her time with him and i think she feels lost now. i'm spending lots of time with her and trying to fix our damaged relationship (this prince charming she was dating was a total disphit) but i'm just wondering if there's anything i can do, or what she can do to kinda help this. we go running together (i'm encouraging her to get in shape and feel better about herself) but is there anything else i can do?
motive2002 Posted July 15, 2008 Posted July 15, 2008 I think the best you can do is be a good listener. She'll probably sound like a broken record for a while... that's ok. Just being there for her will probably help her better than anything. It will take some patience on your part. Prince charming dip**** was still prince charming for her. Empathy is better than advice in a lot of cases. I hope she gets a job! That will be exciting and take up a lot of her thoughts for a while.
LOSTINJAPAN Posted July 15, 2008 Posted July 15, 2008 Yes, being a good listener and being there for her is the key. It is not fair that she had to go through this during this point of her life. One of the things I discovered out here in Japan is called the "gokon". What you do is get 4-5 guys together, maybe your friends and/or friends of friends. She can get 4-5 girls together, her friends and friends of friend. All of you guys meet up and go to a restaurant, bar or bowling and get to know each other. It is kind of like a group blind date. Some of my friends have had good relationships from these "gokons" and some have even gotten married. Just a suggestion.....
critter909 Posted July 15, 2008 Posted July 15, 2008 I think you are doing a great job by being there for her. Keep taking her jogging and exercising, the physical activity itself will make her feel better but so will looking good! One idea I have is take her shopping, if she's lost some weight she'll look great in new clothes and she'll want to get some new things for her job. It sounds cheesy but girls always like to go shopping Don't criticize her. I have one friend that always likes to say what a piece of crap my ex is etc. how he's probably already doing it with someone else and he's a stupid drunk. These things may all be true but I still love him and actually resent my friend for not being supportive of my emotions and just talking sh*t about him. I'm not sure why but hearing such negative things about him really turns me off to her.
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