gummybear Posted July 15, 2008 Posted July 15, 2008 A) Yes. (How long did it take?) B) No. (How long did you try?) C) Depends (On what?)
motive2002 Posted July 15, 2008 Posted July 15, 2008 C. Depends I have been in a situation where someone I didn't really fancy started to catch my eye. I'm trying to think of specific situations, but basically it boils down to attitude and charisma. Maybe I didn't see them as all that at first, but was blown away later once I got to know them, or seen how they act around their friends and other people. Some people just carry themselves really well, and can flirt and be confident. You might see a picture of them, or maybe just catch a glance, but it's not until you see them in action can you really tell sometimes. Of course if they are extremely unattractive to you, I don't think any amount of charisma or confidence is gonna change your mind. So yeah, it depends.
Untouchable_Fire Posted July 15, 2008 Posted July 15, 2008 A) Yes. (How long did it take?) B) No. (How long did you try?) C) Depends (On what?) A. Yes - 1 week. B. ( if you have to try hard... then your doing a disservice to both of you. C. Depends on personality fits. If your a woman... add "nice car", that can help.
sfsassy Posted July 15, 2008 Posted July 15, 2008 A) Yes. (How long did it take?) B) No. (How long did you try?) C) Depends (On what?) For me it depends. I went out with this guy for six month. Sweet guy (later I found out he had issues, but that was WAYY atfer we dated). He was great, funny, kind. Anyway, I tried for six months because he was obviously so into me, and there was nothing wrong with him, (that I knew of, lol.) I just felt sick at the thought of kissing him. However, I'm now really into a guy who a year ago thought was a complete nerd. My friend thought he would be great for me, and I laughed in my friend's face. Difference is I didn't force it, and it just happened slowly, but naturally. He is not just an incredible person, but he is also just very quietly sexy. There just seems something so real about this because it wasn't just a burst of fiery passion. (Though at this point there is a lot of passion on my side now, lol.)
D-Lish Posted July 15, 2008 Posted July 15, 2008 B) No. I usually put someone in the dating zone or the friend zone upon the first meeting. I'll know if there is a spark there pretty quickly, and I have never grown to develop a sexual attraction for someone after spending copious amounts of time with them. It happens immediately or never for me.
motive2002 Posted July 15, 2008 Posted July 15, 2008 B) No. I usually put someone in the dating zone or the friend zone upon the first meeting. I'll know if there is a spark there pretty quickly, and I have never grown to develop a sexual attraction for someone after spending copious amounts of time with them. It happens immediately or never for me. With that said, how would you feel is someone you placed in the "friends zone" disappeared after he realized you weren't having that spark? Hmm.. that's kind of a different topic, maybe I shouldn't hijack. My example is that you knew someone, but not too well, or maybe didn't see them very often. After a while you do get to see them and talk to them and realize there's chemistry there that you thought wasn't there before (mainly because you only knew them as a friend of a friend or something and never actually got to talk to them or see them "in action" as mentioned before.) I can think of a couple times that's happened to me. The spark developed later.
D-Lish Posted July 15, 2008 Posted July 15, 2008 With that said, how would you feel is someone you placed in the "friends zone" disappeared after he realized you weren't having that spark? I'd understand and respect his decision totally. It's happened before. I have also spent a lot of time and eased into friendships with guys that did start off wishing to date- and a spark has never emerged for me. I don't know why... I think it's just the way I am wired... I find it's either there initially (even if it's slight)... or never there at all. If I meet someone and there is a slight spark- I have had feelings develop. But "something" had to be there initially for me.
Krytie TV Posted July 15, 2008 Posted July 15, 2008 I have known a few women in my life who I was absolutely neutral towards when first meeting but then grew to like them with time. For me, it was fostered by their personality and character. They were neither hot nor ugly, just average. But getting to know them made me feel much more strongly about them because of the people they were. It happens VERY rarely for me though.
Star Gazer Posted July 15, 2008 Posted July 15, 2008 It depends on whether you started out definitely NOT attracted, or neutral. If, and only if, you start off as neutral - meaning there are no physical qualities that turn you off, you're literally just indifferent - then yes, I think physical attraction can grow as you get to know them as a person.
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