Inflikted Posted July 15, 2008 Posted July 15, 2008 Now, let me start off saying, I'm not really "reading" into anything, I'm just kinda curious, for the sake of knowing, whether or not I'm getting little "hints" from this girl. Let me give some backstory, which you may or may not have seen me post on these forums before. I'll try to keep it brief, heh. Alright, so there's this girl that I'm really into. We're old classmates (we're 19, now), and I was into her back then, too. Of course, back when we were kids, I was really shy around her, and she didn't really know anything until my friends at the time kinda hinted around to her. Even still, she didn't seem to mind. A few months ago, I stumbled upon her MySpace. She had a boyfriend (that she made a big deal about on her MySpace page), but I got back in contact anyway. She seemed very happy and excited to hear from me, which kinda surprised me, since she knew me as just some shy, quiet kid. She never mentioned her boyfriend to me, nor did I ask, in any of the messages we sent back and forth. They were together about 7-8 months, but a 3-4 weeks ago, apparently they split up, and she deleted all their pics and removed all mention of him on her page. A couple of weeks after that, I casually sent her a message just asking how her summer's been going; she eventually wrote back and said that her summer's been going really great. That, again, surprised me, as I imagined she'd either mention the breakup, or at least imply that her summer's been a little "meh" because of it. So, what do you think? Is it most likely just nothing? I'm not really getting my hopes up, I'm just kinda curious if these are supposed to be little "signs" to me that she's interested, and I'm not quite getting them, lol.
BlueEyedGirl Posted July 15, 2008 Posted July 15, 2008 She never mentioned her boyfriend to you as she didn't consider you close enough to talk about her personal life. When you asked her how her summer was and she said great, it's sort of like (imagine this situation: you have just had a s%it day) and someone you couldn't care less about asks "So how are you?" You are mostly likely say "Yeah good" and hope the person goes away. Now if someone you care about asks you the same you would likely be a lot more detailed "Oh I just had the worst day. This ......... happened" etc. I don't see anything positive for you in what you have desribed.
Author Inflikted Posted July 15, 2008 Author Posted July 15, 2008 lol Gee, thanks. I don't think I'm an "annoyance" to her, like you kinda imply; her messages to me have been pretty "cutesy" and sometimes even unnecessarily chatty (er, not that I'm saying that's a bad thing). Even in the last one, where she said her summer's been great, she asked me a couple little followup questions, so it's not like she was just trying to blow me off, I don't think. Anyway, my mindset is this: I've heard by many girls on other dating forums that if a girl wants to "friendzone" you, she'll tell you about her relationships, etc. So, I'm thinking, this girl could have "frienzoned" me, right here, but she opted not to, for whatever reason.
JP77 Posted July 15, 2008 Posted July 15, 2008 BlueEyedGirl is spot on, here mate. She has shown no signs of interest in you. Not many people will discuss their feelings and personal life with people whom they hardly know, or are not that close to. If you want to prove if she likes or doesn't, then make a move for her and see what happens. If she respondes then you are in and if she doesn't then at least you tried and can move onto someone else.
xpaperxcutx Posted July 15, 2008 Posted July 15, 2008 lol Gee, thanks. I don't think I'm an "annoyance" to her, like you kinda imply; her messages to me have been pretty "cutesy" and sometimes even unnecessarily chatty (er, not that I'm saying that's a bad thing). Even in the last one, where she said her summer's been great, she asked me a couple little followup questions, so it's not like she was just trying to blow me off, I don't think. Anyway, my mindset is this: I've heard by many girls on other dating forums that if a girl wants to "friendzone" you, she'll tell you about her relationships, etc. So, I'm thinking, this girl could have "frienzoned" me, right here, but she opted not to, for whatever reason. That doesn't mean anything. when I email people I always put in kisses and smileys. And I can be friends with ppl, but i don't tell them my relationship.. only if I trust them enough. Nobody likes to talk about their exes. And the followup questions doesnt mean anthing either. I usually ask somebody a question or else they don't know how to reply. It helps with the flow of conversation. Like if someone just sends me an email, and they don't really ask anything... sometimes i dont really feel like responding.
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