jadedone Posted July 15, 2008 Posted July 15, 2008 I met a girl online. She contacted me first. We exchanged a ton of text messages for a few days then went on a date. We had a good time, and it ended with a hug, no kiss. She said she had a great time and told me to call or text her later that night. Later that night we exchanged a couple texts. The next day she texted me after work to see how I was. After that she will answer my texts, but she has only initiated twice in the last week. I text once a day, and even skipped a day, so I know i'm not going overboard. I asked her to go out again and she said "I would love to". SHe has left flirty comments on my Myspace page, but overall she is no where near as talkative as before. I found out today that she has a lunch date set up with another guy tomorrow. Obviously she's keeping her options open, and she's also interested in someone else. It just sucks that I am possibly just plan B. Anyone else get annoyed by this? People that date multiple people at the samem time. Generally If I find someone I'm interested in, I wait to see how things go with that person before moving on to the next. Now I'm worried that she will conveniently be busy this weekend instead of meeting me for another date. I'm not sure what to do.
itgirlragdoll Posted July 15, 2008 Posted July 15, 2008 Unless you guys had some sort of exclusivity talk, which it's obvious you didn't, you really don't have a right to be annoyed with her. That's how a lot of people date (including myself) and as long as things aren't serious (and since you haven't even kissed yet...I would say they're not) there's certainly nothing wrong with it. When it gets into sexual territory, yes, it's important to either be diligent about protection (multiple forms) or agree to be sexually exclusive. But right now she's just dating like a normal adult.
Author jadedone Posted July 15, 2008 Author Posted July 15, 2008 Unless you guys had some sort of exclusivity talk, which it's obvious you didn't, you really don't have a right to be annoyed with her. That's how a lot of people date (including myself) and as long as things aren't serious (and since you haven't even kissed yet...I would say they're not) there's certainly nothing wrong with it. When it gets into sexual territory, yes, it's important to either be diligent about protection (multiple forms) or agree to be sexually exclusive. But right now she's just dating like a normal adult. You're absolutely correct, and I'm not mad at her about it. I just think it sucks.
DunnoWhat Posted July 15, 2008 Posted July 15, 2008 I met a girl online. She contacted me first. We exchanged a ton of text messages for a few days then went on a date. We had a good time, and it ended with a hug, no kiss. She said she had a great time and told me to call or text her later that night. Later that night we exchanged a couple texts. The next day she texted me after work to see how I was. After that she will answer my texts, but she has only initiated twice in the last week. I text once a day, and even skipped a day, so I know i'm not going overboard. I asked her to go out again and she said "I would love to". SHe has left flirty comments on my Myspace page, but overall she is no where near as talkative as before. I found out today that she has a lunch date set up with another guy tomorrow. Obviously she's keeping her options open, and she's also interested in someone else. It just sucks that I am possibly just plan B. Anyone else get annoyed by this? People that date multiple people at the samem time. Generally If I find someone I'm interested in, I wait to see how things go with that person before moving on to the next. Now I'm worried that she will conveniently be busy this weekend instead of meeting me for another date. I'm not sure what to do. It's keeping the options open. It's not a nice thing to do IMO but still her choice. I suggest you look for other dates too and keep her as an option. There is also the possibility she might have set up that date a few weeks ago. She may have promised somebody but couldn't date earlier. When she hugged you goodbye what sort of hug was it?
xpaperxcutx Posted July 15, 2008 Posted July 15, 2008 You guys are not exclusive therefore she's entitled to date whomever. You're too attached. Start seeing other people.
A.G.Doren Posted July 15, 2008 Posted July 15, 2008 You guys are not exclusive therefore she's entitled to date whomever. You're too attached. Start seeing other people. What she said.
Author jadedone Posted July 18, 2008 Author Posted July 18, 2008 Update: Tuesday night I asked her out, and she said she had a b-day party to go to. It's probably true, since I noticed at least 3 people on her myspace that have birthdays this week. It's now Friday, and I have made no attempt to contact her since. I haven't heard from her either, but she did change her myspace mood to "Lonely" last night.. I'm guessing the other guy is not interested in her anymore. I'm curious if she will reach out to me in a day or two. If she contacts me again, I'll ask her out one last time, otherwise I'm done.
NatoPMT Posted July 18, 2008 Posted July 18, 2008 im not down with multiple dating, to me it suggests that youre not all that interested in any of the dates. i personally wouldnt bother trying again, if she picks up contact then it might be worth a 2nd date, but are you capable of retaining a nonchalance about it? not a forced 'i'll see others too then' but more a relaxed distance until its appropriate to move forwards?
Author jadedone Posted July 18, 2008 Author Posted July 18, 2008 im not down with multiple dating, to me it suggests that youre not all that interested in any of the dates. i personally wouldnt bother trying again, if she picks up contact then it might be worth a 2nd date, but are you capable of retaining a nonchalance about it? not a forced 'i'll see others too then' but more a relaxed distance until its appropriate to move forwards? Well, I haven't made contact in 3 days, and I don't intend to.
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