Author DunnoWhat Posted July 15, 2008 Author Posted July 15, 2008 I'm only going on 1 date that I organised the other week. I'm doing it because she hasn't given me a definite answer where I stand so I'm not going to put off other potential dates while she makes up her mind. You need to ask yourself what you want out of this relationship? If you just want sex, then go ahead, continue dating her, feeling her up and escalating. Keep it friendly, but sexual. Disregard anything she says about her BF, it is not really any of your business; just focus on the fact that she is there with you. Based on what you have said, you have appreciable chances with this girl. However, if you are looking for a steady relationship, best look elsewhere. This woman is not A-list material for a LTR for reasons the other posters have mentioned. But forget that, there's nothing wrong with gratuitous sex! Go get her tiger! (Be discreet! - you don't want her millionaire BF putting hired guns out on you!) CHeers, Thanks, I think thats what I'll do. Just keep dating and escalating and see what happens.
amymarieca Posted July 15, 2008 Posted July 15, 2008 I really hate to be lame and quote Dr. Phil, but this phrase makes perfect sense- "If they will do it with you, they will do it to you."
Lauriebell82 Posted July 15, 2008 Posted July 15, 2008 I'm only going on 1 date that I organised the other week. I'm doing it because she hasn't given me a definite answer where I stand so I'm not going to put off other potential dates while she makes up her mind. Okay, but is this someone that you actually WANT to date? Becasue if you just set up a date to "show her" then that isn't fair to you or the person you asked on a date. Date other women because you WANT to, not as a bargaining chip.
Trialbyfire Posted July 15, 2008 Posted July 15, 2008 Thats funny that SHE is cheating on him who in turn is on his wife with her. That's something that should be on Maury Povich or something. More like Jerry Springer when it finally hits the fan... So, this girl is in an affair with a guy who's rarely around but pays with gifts to shag her and now, she's cheating on him with you. What part of this dysfunctional situation don't you understand? The girl's a headcase!
silvergirl Posted July 15, 2008 Posted July 15, 2008 This situation is ugly anyway you look it, and very unhealthy. Until you end one relationship, you should never expect to conquer another. I also agree that it sounds like she's keeping you around for the things she doesn't get from the married man.
Author DunnoWhat Posted July 16, 2008 Author Posted July 16, 2008 "are you in love" Another strange thing happened last night and I'm more confused. We were chatting on MSN.. So we were sending each other songs from youtube to listen to and I sent her an Elvis song 'all shook up'. She listened to it and the songs goes something like "I'm in love I'm all shook up etc etc" and the following conversation went like this. HER - don't try me because you will lose, hahaha" ME - What do you mean? HER - 1 sec (she's gone for 2 - 3 minutes) HER - are u in love? ME - me? ME - what are you on about? ME - oh the elvis song lol HER - lol it was the song (so we changed the subject but a few minutes later she responded with this) HER - about the pre song its very important for me what singers are singing and I wouldn't send a love song for someone who i don't love but this is my opinion ME - i didn't take any notice of the lyrics HER - ok thats u HER - jesus it's nothing ME - I know it's nothing, so do I have to check the lyrics now for every song i send u HER - so don't worry i was not hurted or anything i just asked a simple question, from now on i take no notice of lyrics ok The MSN conversation lasted nearly 3 hours and that piece was early on. -------------------------------------------- She gets upset So the conversation continued but alot slower than usual and I sensed she was in bad form eg she's usually polite and considerate but was angry with me for some reason. We were talking about people in gereral and I said "but *her name* is unique" and she said "don't joke". Then she turned on me a bit ME - so have you anymore videos for me? HER - no because you don't deserve today ME - Why don't i deserve today? ME - i must say i am tired tonight because i was up all last night because of the heat HER - ok so go to sleep ME - no its ok a while i'm just saying i'm tired ME - why don't i deserve (to see the videos) HER - because you are terrible She lightened up after a while. I lightened the mood by not listening to her whinging basically. -------------------------------------------------------- She questioned me about the hug The background to this way on our last date when we were saying goodbye we hugged each other tightly for about 1 minute. She was stroking my neck as we done it. so we continued or chat .. HER - can i ask you something serious ME - yes HER - so don't get me wrong ME - ok HER is it common in *where i'm from* for people to hug each other when they are good friends and they say bye bye ME - i don't know why? HER - just because i did not know thats why ME - not too much i don't think. women do it more HER - i thought that ok (meaning she knows our hug was more than friends) - - HER - is it common for you? ME - it depends on the situation HER - ok so why hug me? ME - we were saying goodbye HER - yes thats right it was the situation now I know HER - so how was your day (this was nearly 2 hours into the conversation) ------------------------------------------------ So thats basically it. We ended with me promising to get my chest hair waxed in front of her (don't ask). It's obvious she wants to know how I feel about her but I still don't know where I stand. Her words say 1 thing her actions says another. Anybody any ideas whats going through her mind? Women what is she thinking??
silvergirl Posted July 16, 2008 Posted July 16, 2008 She's thinking, I've got this dude all hyped up for me and I'm PSYCHO!!!!!! Really, what the hell?????
Lauriebell82 Posted July 16, 2008 Posted July 16, 2008 She's thinking, I've got this dude all hyped up for me and I'm PSYCHO!!!!!! Really, what the hell????? LOL, yeah I think she is playing you for a fool dude. You need to lose this girl, she sounds like she has some issues with relationships.
Author DunnoWhat Posted July 16, 2008 Author Posted July 16, 2008 She's thinking, I've got this dude all hyped up for me and I'm PSYCHO!!!!!! Really, what the hell????? If she thought I was all hyped up why is there any need to ask and the thing that confuses me is why did she get emotional. She's usually not like that.
Lauriebell82 Posted July 16, 2008 Posted July 16, 2008 If she thought I was all hyped up why is there any need to ask and the thing that confuses me is why did she get emotional. She's usually not like that. Because she has SERIOUS emotional/mental issues when it comes to relationships.
Author DunnoWhat Posted July 16, 2008 Author Posted July 16, 2008 Because she has SERIOUS emotional/mental issues when it comes to relationships. Maybe she does but to be fair to her she's not a liar and have been upfront about everything. She is also a nice person and we get on great. Maybe there is a few issues there alright but I just want to find out how much she likes me. She is actually shy and has a very quiet voice. I don't think she's playing me for a fool because she is on a dating site and could date others but she wants to date me and we're meeting again. I'm thinking she wants to find out if I like her and then see where we stand. I'm going by her actions not her words because you can't go by what women say this is 1 lesson I know for a fact. Women will tell you what you want to her when they are not interested but when women are interested do they do they opposite??? She is starting to get emotional do you get emotional with a friend when the friend has done nothing wrong??? She was surprised when I told her I was impressed by her the other week. She said I'm good looking and actually likes to knock me down a bit and thinks she isn't that good looking herself. I'm a bit confused by it all so best thing to do would be to wait and see. Time will tell. Thanks to all who gave their opinions!
Mahatma Posted July 16, 2008 Posted July 16, 2008 WOW...this is going to get ugly.. hahahaha yeah I read that and was thinking the exact same thing. This is something I suggest you stay away from!!!! I have always thought the same thing as a previous poster said: if she is willing to cheat on her current bf with you, she will be willing to cheat on you... it also sounds like she just doesn't want to initiate anything with you because she will feel more guilty. I think if you were to try to kiss her, you probably could do it and go further. This is not a woman you want. AND this sounds like a big mess you want to get out of now haha.
backto1 Posted July 16, 2008 Posted July 16, 2008 DW, What the hell is wrong with you? Are you an idiot? How could you possibly see anything good coming out of this girl? WAKE THE F*CK UP!!
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